Why is it my ex is so obsessed?

[Anonymous]

Okay a little back story. I broke up with this guy about the beginning on this year and I told him that it just isn’t working out and I’ve lost feelings. He got mad and tried to use my photos and blackmail me, to make me stay with him. I immediately left him and every boyfriend (2) I’ve had sense then he has hit up threatening them and sending them my photos and calling me a slut and all these names? He already had posted my nudes online and I can’t do nothing about it. I just want to know why he’s doing this. What’s ur opinion?

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow, that's messed up that your ex is being so obsessed and abusive like that. What he's doing is completely unacceptable and it's not your fault at all.

It sounds like he's just a really insecure and controlling guy who can't handle the fact that you left him. The blackmail, the threats, posting your nudes online - that's all just him trying to regain power and punish you for breaking up with him. It's a total violation of your privacy and it's straight-up harassment.

My guess is that he's so obsessed because he's not over you and he's mad that you moved on. He probably feels really threatened by the fact that you've had other boyfriends since then. But that doesn't excuse his behavior at all. It's abusive and illegal, and you don't deserve to put up with that.

I really think you should try to get the authorities involved, if you haven't already. That revenge porn stuff is a crime, and he needs to be held accountable. You could also look into getting a restraining order or something to get him to leave you and your new boyfriends alone.

In the meantime, try not to engage with him or respond to his threats. That's probably just feeding into his obsession. Focus on surrounding yourself with supportive people and taking care of yourself. You shouldn't have to deal with this kind of crap, girl. Hang in there, and don't hesitate to reach out for help.

[aromatic_xo]

That’s terrible. One reason I think he He probably feels like he got played or taken advantage of, did all he can to be the best for you and if u broke up with him outta nowhere without communication he probably felt backstabbed and this is his way taking revenge this way, su

[Asker]

Yeah honestly that the reason I broke up with him. I payed for everything and took care of him 24/7. He didn’t work and didn’t even try to work. I provided for him for everything. He did absolutely nothing.

[aromatic_xo]

Wow, that’s awful and wrong of him. I can’t believe that. And I think that’s also the other reason why he is also obsessed with you because you provide him necessities making his life much easier for him so he probably thinks you are madly in love with him too because u r paying for everything too and thought you will never stop and when you had enough. He didn’t like that. I would call the authorities or see what u can do about the nude photos. Sorry ur going through that

[Staximus]

Ask the police if they can do anything about it. If not, have a guy kick his ass

[Asker]

Not really asking what should I do. I’m more asking why he is doing this? But thank you

[Staximus]

Nevermind wasting time to contemplate the thoughts of some shit bag

[Asker]

Well wouldn’t you like to know why someone’s acting a certain way?

[Staximus]

Pick better guys and didn't send nude pictures to shit bag dudes like a fucking idiot

[Asker]

You’re acting like the dude was a complete ass in the beginning. Ofc he wasn’t extremely sweet and kind until I broke up with him.

[Staximus]

How long have you known this guy before you got into a relationship with him?

[Asker]

Before about 2 years. Extremely sweet and loving to everyone. And then I broke up and he did a 180°

[Staximus]

Did you do anything else besides break up with him that pissed him off?

[Asker]

No not one thing comes to mind. I provided everything for him

[Staximus]

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