Why is my ex boyfriend obsessed with me?

[Anonymous]

My ex treated me horribly in our 2 year relationship and couldn’t stay loyal. I gave him many chances to change and it took 2 years of manipulation and gas lighting for me to finally walk away. He cheated on me on NYE and I’d had enough. I decided to go no contact ever since but he will NOT stop calling me off of No caller id and friends phones. Keeps messaging me on every social media platform he can think of. I keep blocking him but he won’t stop. He’s being really obsessive and told me he was going to show up to my apartment and send flowers. Why is he doing this? He was horrible to me but will never let me go. Can someone help explain?

[Summeroflove]

Because he’s a obsessed stalker and he feels entitled to you. He is harassing and stalking you. If you have been clear you don’t want to speak to him but he keeps finding ways to contact you.

I think you need to get a order of protection or restraining order against him. Depending on your laws in the area of which you live. I would contact maybe the police or someone like that and report this behavior. As well as your friends who are witnesses to everything.

This type of behavior is not acceptable. It needs to be stopped. You have a right to have a peaceful life and he isn’t entitled to keep harassing you.

Save the flowers and everything he sends as evidence. Even if you just want to throw them away. As well as any letters, voice mails, messages, or anything else he’s sending. Save them so that you’re able to pursue criminal and maybe even civil charges against him.

[AydenHazor]

He's felt like he owns you for the past couple of years where he could do anything and get away with it, so now he feels like you should still be his. (I know this sounds objectifying of you, which that viewpoint is, but know that it's very wrong and you're worth better.). His actions are haven't and stalking. For your own protection and safety, it may be best to gather evidence of his harassment and file a report with the police.

[tina_695]

My ex boyfriend is same like your exhe is a player but obsessed with me well the problem is EGO here these kind of guys want to feel wanted so when we cut them off they feel rejected and their ego gets hurt in that so now they need to have us back in their life under their control for own ego satisfaction where as healthy guys will never chase or obsess because they have self respect if you breakup with them they will never bother you again and leave you to peaceful life your life where as guys like our exes will play mind games to try to win us back for own MALE EGO SATISFACTION

[Anonymous]

he sees you as property. im dealing with my own nutcase too right now. calling me 30x a day for the past 2 weeks after he told me to go unalive myself. mentally unstable, narcissistic. as personal as it seems, it has nothing to do with you. its his ego and he needs an obsession to distract himself from his awful web of a live he created for himself

[Guy13]

Unhealthy... very unhealthy.

[horatiohornblower]

You need to set your phone to block unknown callers. Make up your address book for whitelist. This also gets rid of spam calls.

If you're expecting a call from someone like your doctors office. Add them to your contacts. You can also go to blocked messages in your voicemail. To check for blocked calls you are expecting. Then add an approved number to your contacts.

For social media. You should block messages outside your friends in the platform's privacy setting. Why do you need random people contacting you? That should all be private.

Anyways, there's ways to make it much tougher for him to contact or follow you. If you make better use of privacy settings. Then, even if he makes random accounts. He still won't be able to get through.

[Dav1dTh0ma3]

Ex's want to be a presence in your life, to prevent you from being successful. So they try and drag you down with them

[Anonymous]

Does he identify himself as who he is when he’s texting and calling you on other peoples phones? Just curious..

[DiegoO]

Call the police and get a restraining order. The guy obviously has issues.

[AmeerX]

He is doing it because he still loves you even if he cheated. You need to cut him loose

[Lanethguy]

Imma be real with you he wants you back to manipulate someone again

[_Just_A_girl_]

u need a taser or something

be safe

[Danny_dan92]

Why do you care?