Are breaks good for relationships, or do they cause more harm than good?

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I sometimes feel like taking a break can give both sides space to reflect and grow, but is it always the right choice? Have you ever taken a break in a relationship, and how did it turn out?

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

The fact that "breaks" are almost always filled with someone that pushed for it to just fuck other people during the "break" I'm going to stop off the cliff here and say maybe it's not a good thing.

I mean let's be real about the so called "break"... like does it require getting some dick from some other guy? The real problem is pretty much what the "break" allows to happen.

I'm like old and shit... I used to eat Dinosours and shit. This is what I've seen over time. One of them is usually already cheating and hasn't got caught, and then the "break" gets introduced and all of a sudden they fucking and getting to brag about it without the stigma of cheating getting injected into it.

It's just someone that wants to fuck other people about 99.99% of the time. It's just a relationship based around commitment that has one party wanting to fuck other people. I mean even way back when I was still around with the dinosaurs, these people rarely just reflect and grow or whatever other gay shit they make up. No... they just want to fuck other people. I'm looking at the chicks in particular because, it's mostly them that push for it and it's always them that have the new guy between her legs. I'm not trying to be sexist... it's just what I've seen from all the way when dinosaurs was still around.

When I have seen men push for it... they need a serious break and it's all her fault. Bitch is crazy. He really needs a break. And even in that situation... she's probably going to fuck some strange. He's freaking out trying to figure out how to make it work and then she's fucking random strange guys she met online.

If you're a dude and you're being pushed for a "break" just fucking get away from her. She just wants to fuck other dudes and isn't ready for a relationship. It's "monkey branching" 101 and you're either going to be a cuck or the guy that broke up with her.

Relationships don't need "breaks" unless someone needs some strange. For reals... since the time of dinosaurs.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Usually it causes more harm than good , because a partner shouldn’t need a break from their partner to begin with , Partners’ should work together if things aren't going right in a relationship or whatever is happening for them to need a break to begin with . Your partner should always be your top priority if you want your relationship to survive and for love to continue to grow between you both , if they aren’t , your top priority , then your relationship is pretty much already doomed , so be prepared to be single again if you choose to walk away from them. Only selfish people need breaks from their partners’ that they chose to be in a relationship with in the first place , Your single days are over the second you choose to be in a relationship with someone, so if you want your relationship to last , you are best to factor in how your partner will feel when you go away for however long you plan to. So if you really need a break? Walk into another room or stay at home and tell your partner you just need some alone time for a little while , but your alone time should not be going away with your friends on a vacation without your partner period , because right there tells your partner you don’t want them around but you want other people around you instead which will make you a selfish person that only cares about yourself. So don’t be surprised when your partner isn’t sitting there waiting for your return if you choose to go without them. Your friends’ should never come before your partner period , if they do? You are best to just end the relationship and focus on your friends’ if they are that important to you than your partner is. So many relationships fail because of selfish mindsets , selfish people that only think of themselves without factoring in their partners’ feelings

itsannalee · Accepted Answer

Breaks just would make my feeling run dry. In that time I might learning to move on, so I would say it’s not good for relationship. I would change a lot things inside.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Breaks or even a Breakup, Can change things a lot. Believe me.

Summeroflove · Answer

That depends on the relationship…. If it’s a long break months it’s probably better to end the relationship if it’s meant to be you can try again later.

I do agree that sometimes people need time apart. But it depends on how extreme it is. If you’re gonna sleep around though break up.

coachTanthony · Answer

No such thing as a break just a break up. Can’t do this woo woo stuff when you’re married so stick together and fix whatever it is that is broken.

RichA322 · Answer

In my opinion, There are NO breaks in a relationship. Just break ups.

Break in a relationship = Break up on parole

Break means, you are not happy any longer with that person being around you all the time and you want to try if living without that person is better or not.

If it is: Full break up or cheating will follow
If it Is not: You will return to him/her

That's all it is. The fear of missing out, the feeling that you can do better with someone else or the fear of commitment. Nothing more.

Either you are in a relationship or not. So no breaks. Open relationships/Friends with benefits, etc are of course something entirely different. I'm talking about real relationships of adults, not 14 year old teenagers. Slowing down things however is also something differently. This is sometimes necessary in a relationship. Also being distant for some time, at a certain point in the relationship when you are thinking whether you made the correct decision or not with that person. All of that is definitely normal. But taking "a break" from your partner? Like leaving the house and living somewhere else for a while?

Let's be honest some people only do that to test if a life without that person is better than being with that person or in preparation to cheat. But they are afraid to say that out loud.

Again, ASKING you partner to open the relationship (into being... well an open relationship...) or telling them that you think you would be better off without them, would be the honest truth. It's something that is an honest and open answer as an adult. If your partner doesn't like it, you always have the opportunity to break up. It actually is as simple as that. But most people are afraid of saying that, so they often mask it as "a break in the relationship" to keep the door partially open for a potential return.

And this doesn't work in real life most of the time.

HungTexan · Answer

Breaks can be good in some situations, but there needs to be agreed upon guidelines, and an expected duration. I experienced a short break for a couple of months due to an international assignment. We agreed that it was ok to date/ have a fling as long as we told each other about it. I had a brief fling with 2 different women, and my wife had a few dates with one guy. We both had sex with our flings, but agreed it wasn’t as good as when we’re together. I was so horny for my wife when I returned, we got a hotel room, a sitter for the kids, and had almost non-stop sex for two days. It was good for us.

McLlovin · Answer

Walking away from an argument is a good thing, especially if you are angry. But, do not walk away from solving the problem by taking a “break”. Solve the problem so your relationship can get stronger, by walking away to take a break you allow the problem to fester. Relationships are defined by the battles you overcome together. This is why a lot of relationships dont have no staying power, you give up on the first site of an issue. This is a precursor to a break up especially if there’s no time given.

blunty · Answer

It can lead to confusion, distance, and a sense of insecurity. If both partners are unsure about the relationship, a break may just delay the inevitable or create more unresolved issues. Instead of taking a break, it's usually better to have an honest conversation about what’s not working and see if there’s a way to address it together.

eclipse · Answer

Taking a break can be helpful if both partners are clear about their reasons and expectations. It can give space to reflect, process emotions, and gain perspective. However, without open communication, breaks can lead to confusion or even distance. If you decide to take one, make sure you’re both on the same page about what the break means and how long it will last. In the end, it depends on the relationship sometimes a break can help, but it can also cause more harm if not handled carefully.

Anonymous · Answer

Why can't people be adults and talk about what's troubling them? Here's the thing - guys tend to just want more sex with multiple women (doesn't make it right) even if he's with a girl or a woman who is loyal and committed. Women or girls in a loving relationship where the guy love bombs her and is the ultimate gentleman tend to think "this isn't good enough" and want to break up to pursue greener pastures. In the end both will end up heart broken and deal with the harsh reality then someone has something good but its gone.

Anonymous · Answer

Even though I really miss my DB, I'm not in contact with him at this time. ‘It's not easy,’ but I've come to the realisation that I need to work on myself in order for our relationship to succeed because my issues were hurting our relationship, thus I need to take some time to resolve them. In terms of other couples taking a break from their relationships, each couple is different; some are able to endure while others are not.

Petermorgan343434 · Answer

It all Depends on the people involved and the level of trust and respect between them. A break where both parties agree to not see anyone else or entertain anyone else during this period could work, however if either or both parties explore other options kiss the relationship goodbye

benefiel · Answer

Taking a break can be helpful if both partners are clear about their reasons and expectations. It can give space to reflect, process emotions, and gain perspective. However, without open communication, breaks can lead to confusion or even distance. If you decide to take one, make sure you’re both on the same page about what the break means and how long it will last. In the end, it depends on the relationship sometimes a break can help, but it can also cause more harm if not handled carefully.

ihateTaylorSwift · Answer

it's gives opportunity to other people who could steal your love away
even it's just temporary circumstances you never know
better to not risk it if you really care to protect what y'all have
so I would say more harm

coolbreeze · Answer

Breakups can be good learning experiences and hopefully it teaches ways not to break up again when dating. Nobody wants to make the same mistakes.

molonski2 · Answer

Breaks dont work , they are simply transition to seperation , no value whatsoever , its simply a matter of time , its not working , you just need to be honest with each other.

just_a_potato · Answer

Definitely does more harm than good. They always end up breaking up for good in the future anyway. Save yourself the time, energy, and both of your sanity. Just break up.

BCA6010 · Answer

A break effectively means it's over, sooner or later, and someone just hasn't come to terms with it.

katiesmuff · Answer

No they generally will end in disaster! They may get back together for a time, but generally always ends badly.

Johnsmth · Answer

I'm not sure what you mean by break but I think that some people need space sometimes to think things through when things get overwhelming. Not just in relationships but in general.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Wanting a break is the first sign your relationship is failing. People who truly love each other don't want breaks.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I think they're usually bad, it's basically an admission that you cannot communicate well enough to fix your problems and you think time will magically do it. It might reset your feelings but it won't change anything in the long run

naartjie · Answer

If a man ever asks for a break with me, he won’t be hearing from me ever again lol

TheStaleMarshmellow · Answer

If there needs to be a break. Don't think it's gonna last much longer no matter how hard you try. Fact is, if you're not ready then you're not ready. Be mature and move on

BCRanger10 · Answer

If you ask me, a "break" means it's over.

LazerBean · Answer

If you need a break from someone, the relationship isn't working right.

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

Sometimes resting and thinking can be good for couples, but if this becomes constant, it will not produce good results.

msc545 · Answer

I think that breakes often turn into breakups more often than not. That is too bad because I don't think that is the original intent, but it seems to be the way a lot of these things turn out.

Anonymous · Answer

I might take a trip with my girlfriends or something but it wouldn't be for the purpose of getting away from my relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

usually when that happens, one of the two feels better off without the other person. just saying

dudeinohio · Answer

They are confirmation that you can't sustain a committed relationship. You don't take breaks. You either work it out or terminate the relationship.

Twalli · Answer

Breaks in relationships can be healthy, but if they start happening too frequently, it's better to break up.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Why would a break strengthen a relationship that’s the dumbest thing I’ve heard.

Silver158 · Answer

Deoends on the reason for the break. Used to know a girl who would "want a break" so she could sleep with other people.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Good. Sometimes you just need a freaking break for a period of time.

admles · Answer

I don't believe in "breaks", you're either together or you're not.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

There is no such thing as a break. She is shopping for your replacement. Just end it

Anonymous · Answer

No. If u need breaks means , the relationship isn’t worth it

Miristheiss · Answer

The relationship is already over.

NicholasRedone · Answer

Broadly probs more harm than good lol

In_Trance · Answer

More harm

LiamJHayden · Answer

A break to me is s break up.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

A break is a break-up.

UnwantedScorpio · Answer

Is it weird that I just have my finger a blowjob

Pterodon · Answer

It’s a breakup

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