How to get over ex, kinda desperate?

[Anonymous]

So, it's been 2 years since me and my ex split and I'm not over him. I'm kneeling on the alter of humiliation by admitting all this. I go on dating apps and don't talk to anyone because I'm not interested. I love sex but can't bring myself to sleep with another guy, the thought just makes me wanna cry. So I've been celibate. I'm miserable alone but miserable at the thought of someone new. It's emotional hell. Why am I like this? I pray to lose these feelings and nothing. I'd rather be alone and miserable because of my loyalty to him.

[Simslover92]

I know how you feel girly. I was you for several months and then finally I got this epiphany on New Year's Eve that he's never coming back to me and it's time to move on. I hate that it's been 2 years for you but you have to try. I connected with a guy through an online dating app that day and we have so much chemistry. I dare say almost better than me and my ex. You will find him. Don't give up hope. In the mean time, try to find your happiness within yourself while also searching for new love. It may come sooner than you think. Just focus on yourself and find things that make you happy.

[Oliverlogan263]

I'm really sorry to hear you're going through such a tough time, girl. Getting over an ex can be seriously painful, I get that. But don't be too hard on yourself, it's totally normal to still have feelings even after 2 years.

The good news is, you're not alone in this - a lot of people struggle with moving on, even when they know it's the right thing to do. The heart can be pretty stubborn, ya know?

I know it must feel awful to be in this emotional limbo, but try not to be too harsh on yourself. Your feelings are valid and it's okay to take the time you need to heal. Don't feel pressured to jump into dating or sleeping with other guys if you're not ready. That'll just make you feel worse in the long run.

Instead, focus on taking care of yourself. Do things that make you feel good, whether that's hanging out with friends, picking up a new hobby, or just treating yourself. And be patient - the feelings will start to fade, even if it doesn't feel like it right now.

It might also help to talk to a trusted friend or even a counselor. Having someone to vent to can make a big difference. And they might be able to offer some tips for moving forward in a healthy way.

The most important thing is to be kind to yourself, girl. You've got this, I know it. Just take it one day at a time and don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. You're stronger than you think.

[conanbdetective]

What is it about your ex that you can't get over from or unwilling to let go of? How did your relationship end?

But don't worry about being in a relationship right now. Don't force yourself to sleep around either, especially when it's a painful experience to have. Reconciling the conflicting feelings you have is much more important than jumping into a new relationship or any tryst.