Why is he so hot and cold?

[Anonymous]

I’m a married woman who had an 8-year long affair with a married man. We were deeply in love. He decided a few months ago that he loved me too much to share me and needed to end things for his own mental health. He texted me today and brought up a trip we took and the great memories we made. Then he asked me out to lunch. He’s made it very clear previously he does not want a relationship and he’s moving on. But then why does he want to get together? If he wanted to chat we could just text or call. He’s so up and down with his feelings. He’s in the thrust of a midlife crisis, not wanting to be with his wife but not wanting to be with me, unhappy with his current state. I feel like carnage in the wake of it all. Why can’t he just voice his actual feelings?

[StevenMcGarrett]

It sounds like he is in between wanting to be with you and feeling guilty about cheating on his wife. Right now, his brain is leaning towards the latter although his cock is definitely missing you.

[Asker]

I’d say that’s accurate. He’s in therapy now trying to figure out how to be happy. He’s also used hookers in the past so I think there are some deep-rooted sexual issues.

[StevenMcGarrett]

Yeah, his cock needs sex but his wife isn't doing her job. It is tough for him because he married her and I'm sure he intended to be faithful to her but if isn't putting out, there is only so. much rejection he can take until he finds someone that can meet his needs sexually.

[Asker]

Oddly, she is. 2-3 times a week he said. It’s the only women he’s ever been with. (Aside from the hookers and such).

[StevenMcGarrett]

Hmm, oh okay. Does he feel that is enough? I would need it every day.

[Orion84]

I'm not sure I can give any helpful advice to a disgusting cheater about how to continue being a disgusting cheater.

I have no experience in that department.

[Asker]

Oh bummer.

[missindiana93]

Or you can work on your marriage instead of being a whore.

[Asker]

But being a whore is more fun.

[Summeroflove]

Number one you’re having a affair so you should know that’s wrong and feel bad. Number two if you think someone whose cheating with you knowingly is going to be loyal to you think again.

We all know that you both would do the same shit to one another. Be a non coward adult and divorce.

[Valdemort]

Another clown bites the dust 🤡

[In_Trance]

Deeply in love but not deep enough to be together?

[Asker]

Kids, finances, all the usual things that keep two people apart in these situations.

[In_Trance]

Seems more like escapism to me