Why is he so hot and cold?

[Wintergrace]

There’s a guy I like in school. He works a lot and goes to school full time. So I know he is stressed with a busy schedule. This guy has mentioned going out sometime, etc. He’ll randomly compliment me, and on occasions we text. However, we only text a few days out of the week. Most of the time his replies take 5-24 hours… Every. Single. Time. It’s annoying and a major runoff. By no means does he have to be constantly available, but 24 hour late replies make the conversation lacking. Anyways, I’m confused because he will send me veryyy long texts once he does reply (like he runs out of space and has to send it separately). He also will ask me questions, but I only get a reply about once per day.

[TheBootyChest]

I am not a fan of the "game" where people wait a certain about of time before replying JUST BECAUSE their is a rule about it. If I like someone even if I am busy, I will say something about it. I might say "I'm sorry I haven't been able to reply a lot these past 24 hours, but just know that I really like talking to you."

Would you be okay if he said something like that?

[Wintergrace]

He did once and I was maybe a little too understanding. I told him not to worry about it because I understood how busy he is right now. He would take a while to respond then (like 6-12 hours). However, now it’s more so 12-24. It’s not like he’s exactly waiting to a set hour, but it does feel like I’m being restricted to a one message a day limit.

[TheBootyChest]

How genuine do you feel he is during his messages?

[Wintergrace]

Usually pretty genuine. They’re always on topic, sometimes ask me a question, and usually 2-3 paragraphs.

[TheBootyChest]

As bad as the timing can suck and hurt, I like that the conversation is like that. In fact, I am kinda jealous. LOL.

If you couldn't fix the timing of his texts, what would you want changed?

[Wintergrace]

Really just a message every 6-12 hours when we’re conversing or some quick responses on occasion.

[Wintergrace]

I do really enjoy our conversations when we do have them.

[TheBootyChest]

I know how tough it is to give up on someone because the conversation is really good, but I have been blinded to other things that I don't accept. (Not saying anything bad about your situation.)

Like for me, if I ask questions to people, they can reply over time, but they are very open and specific about details and I love that. But then they aren't interested in me at all and that hurts me in the long run.

[spartan55]

The conversation is lacking because it's by text. No big mystery there.

[Wintergrace]

What would you recommend?

[spartan55]

In person or at least on the phone.