How long does it take you to get over a break up?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The worst heartbreak, it took me like two years… I it that was very messy sy. A few months before I moved on, he messaged me to move on and then I did. He’s been stalking me lately and unblocked me off everything so my heart is hurting all over again😬
I met someone after I moved on from this ^ fella. He was extremely similar to this ^ guy. We were on and off so often that I stopped caring who knows when but im so proud of myself because I messaged him that he needs help- he calls me several time in late hours, stalks me, drunk messages me… the last few times I’ve told him off bad and embarrassed him.

So the first one I moved on from but also not really. He could message me today after 2 years and I’d fold lol🥴
Second guy, well I moved on after the second break off we had.

Valdemort · Accepted Answer

Never dated, so never had to break up. But I always mourn past relationships for a long time if there was a lot of investment.

First time I had feelings for someone, it took about 7 years to get over them. We didn't even really know each other for over 2 months. Lol.
Sometimes I don't miss the people, but the connection I had with them before it went downhill. I still feel that way, years later.

It's probably not the same for a breakup, but I hope by the time I start dating and things would actually go bad at some point, I have the tools to just move on.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Depends on the breakup but everyone is different and even every relationship a individual has is different. A lot of people immediately go on the rebound though before they have grieved many times getting into a more toxic relationship then the last. Sometimes even going back to someone that was toxic because they never allowed themselves to grieve.

True healing takes time and a lot of people don’t want to face the feelings and emotions that come from it. There is denial, there is sadness, there is anger, there is depression, among many other negative feelings.

The only people who truly move on immediately are dark personality’s they can dump someone they been with for years and never think twice. If someone immediately moved on it’s a major red flag.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

It's different for everyone. Some people are over it immediately and others might never completely get over it. It depends on how you process your emotions and think about things in your head.

Personally, I get over breakups pretty easily because in all my cases, my past partners have left me. If they don't see the value in being with me, then why should I care about them? Just move on with your life and find someone that values you so much, they'd never think about leaving you.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

My aim on Girls Ask Guys is to help you navigate the ups and downs of love with confidence, so let's dive into this! 😘 Getting over a breakup is like untangling earphones – messy and different for everyone. Some need a few weeks, while others take months or longer. Focus on self-care, embrace your feelings, and remember that each step forward is a step toward healing. 💔✨ Just don't rush! You'll find your rhythm again. 💃🕺

Simslover92 · Answer

I'll let you know when I'm completely healed from it. Some days I feel I'm completely over the breakup and other days I feel still heartbroken. For the most part I think I'm over it, but there are days where I miss him tremendously.

ohsheeT · Answer

The first time it took some time.. The second time not very long because of what I learned the first time

DishLady · Answer

I’ll let you know when I’m over it.

fartingspinster · Answer

I think it depends on the intensity of the intimacy and how much of a safe place that person was for you.

I had a relationship where I was over them before it even ended, another where it turned so sour near the end because he was selfish and rude that I didn't need time getting over him at all. Then I had a relationship that only lasted 6 months on and off and I couldn't get over them for years. Still hurts a bit every now and then and its been 7 years since.

Not that I ever want to get back together because I know it won't ever work out, but that person entered my heart and my soul. It was an insane level of intimacy.

JaneDoe93 · Answer

Lol I just asked this question about a week ago. It depends on the intensity of your relationship, duration, and how much work you put into healing (it does require work).

Be gentle with yourself. Breakups are an incredible loss that you need time to grieve. You just lost someone who was once an important part of your life and maybe with that, a loss of sense of self too. Spend some time gathering yourself - finding the person you were before they entered your life :)

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

However long it takes to realize its not fixable. With each relationship blunder, I've managed to get to a mental point where I now know exactly what all the dealbreakers are, so the next relationship I have isn't going to be a breakup, as I'll have accounted for any personality differences that would potentially cause it when selecting the next girlfriend.

This has resulted in me rejecting most women who hit on me.

Anonymous · Answer

The time it takes you to fully and properly grasp and understand to turn your feelings into knowledge and experience.

That goes for anything you hurt in life.
Or maybe if you are religous and just believe it was for the best until God shows you, or believe in God even if you don't get to see.

foxsquirrell · Answer

The last one took me over 8 months and we never actually dated. I just thought I found my soul mate on Instagram (she was a normal person, not an only fans model or anything like that) and one fine morning she blocked me abruptly without prior warning. I will never forget it. I will always keep in mind what a girl is capable of doing.

lilBigPotato · Answer

If he breaks to, it can take a long time. If I break up, I'm probably already over it the moment I tell him

AReyMarz · Answer

Depends, if you feel like you let a good one go you might not forgive yourself, but I’d say normally about a month to a couple months off you actually had feelings.

Shiprex · Answer

Depends but I think men tend to be able to depose the pain and sadness into something else and find someone else and be an improvement on themselves from the wisdom of the loss from before.

glennos89 · Answer

Depends on how deep the connection was and for how long we have been together for. I lived 6 years together with my ex and it took me at least 2 full years to get over her

knottyguy · Answer

It depends on the length of the relationship and the reason for the breakup. If it had been a long relationship and we just agreed to separate, it might take up to year for me. If it was a short relationship, maybe a couple of months.

trumpetplayerforlife · Answer

I don't think you ever fully get over them if it was a bad one good ones I think it depends how long you've been together

7Phoenix7 · Answer

Took me a year or two...  But it's different for everyone

Unap0logetic_ · Answer

Everyone is different. My first before it was a few weeks. My last guy took me years to get over the end of the relationship. I no longer love or care for him, but I have lots of resentment.

Nikki1989 · Answer

5 minutes to a week or two. I don't dwell on what could have been.

polodude2013 · Answer

Still getting over mine. My last relationship was toxic so I'm taking my time to heal and get over it.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Honesty that depends on the person and how strongly I felt for them but normally I get over things pretty fast. What about you how long would it take you to get over someone

Alex-Snow · Answer

It depends on how long we have been going out and if we were intimately involved

dudeinohio · Answer

5 minutes typically... but took a year to get over ex wife.

shortster · Answer

It depends on the length of the relationship; but it is common parlance of 3 weeks for every year you were together.

Anonymous · Answer

I broke up with my girlfriend after she told she voted Trump. I got over her now after seeing all these people losing their jobs and dying.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

My last breakup took so long, I’m still recovering from it and it’s been over a year

JackBlackHeartAttack · Answer

Depends on how the relationship was leading up to the breakup.

hello4433 · Answer

Sometimes people never get over it and even if they are over it they don't want any other person in their life.  So it depends on the person.

Professor-college · Answer

Well the first one took me more than a year and after that it's only been one more and that one took less than 2 months

linguistrosey · Answer

From my last relationship, it took me about 7 monthsre-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

masterSir · Answer

depends on the relationship. my wife died tool me forever. the rebound dates, not so much.

itsannalee · Answer

Few days, mostly i moved on before break up

LissaMH · Answer

My last break up took over 5 years to get over him

Lugiapoke · Answer

A short duration if you find someone to keep you busy

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly once I get laid by another woman I move on

biraileeşkadını · Answer

A true lover never parts.

molonski2 · Answer

Around 23.5 years...

Agape93 · Answer

Pretty much instantly

exitseven · Answer

Maybe a day or two.

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

More then 10 yares

MasterKS · Answer

It should taken as normal nowadays.

linka_pat307 · Answer

Right after it happens

Alexandra1996 · Answer

Depends on how long you’ve dated it.

LiamJHayden · Answer

A day at most.

Pterodon · Answer

Depends on depth of feelings involved

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Until she $tarts to make some sex money.

debtfree_oneyear · Answer

It happens so often I'm use to it

nicfire171 · Answer

Depends on the relationship I suppose

PartyGirl2004 · Answer

It can vary. Everyone reacts differently.

DizzyDesii · Answer

24-48 hours

WhitneySnow · Answer

Couple weeks

MoonFace2 · Answer

Years

Anonymous · Answer

Depends how long the relationship

ienjoylookingatgreen · Answer

it's easy

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