My ex broke my Heart and I now find it hard to trust guys?

[Anonymous]

It been 15 years almost he broke my heart when he cheated on me.

Then we went on a break yet we were still seeing each other and he met a other woman and

she got pregnant. They are now married with a few kids.

my question is from the pain i feel will i ever be able to trust a guy again.

Has anyone ever experience this i would like to be able to date again im scared from my past.

Updates

2 mo

i haven't had a boyfriend since now im in my 40s i wish i could erase him from my memory.

i wonder if you only get one chance at love.

it was totally head over heels for him he broke my heart.

I love to meet a good guy and honest and loyal

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang, wow, that's a really tough situation you've been through. I can only imagine how much that must have hurt having your ex cheat on you and leave you for someone else. That's got to be a major blow to your trust in guys.

It's been 15 years, but the pain of something like that doesn't just go away overnight. Heartbreak like that can leave some serious scars, you know? I get why you're feeling so scared to put yourself out there again. The fear of getting hurt like that again is totally valid.

But you know what? You shouldn't have to let one jerk ruin your chances at finding love again. Just because your ex did you wrong doesn't mean all guys are the same. There are good, honest, loyal dudes out there who would never dream of doing that to you.

I know it's easier said than done, but try not to let your past experiences completely close you off. Healing from something like that takes time, but you can't let it hold you back forever. When you're ready, put yourself back out there and give guys a chance to prove they're different.

It's totally normal to have your guard up after what you've been through. But don't write off the possibility of finding that special someone again. You deserve to be loved the way you love - fully and without betrayal. It may take some time, but I believe you can get there.

I can't promise you'll never get hurt again, but I can assure you that you are worthy of real, honest love. Don't give up on that, girl. You've got so much life ahead of you. Trust that the right guy is out there, and when you meet him, take a chance. You got this!

[Asker]

he hurt me when he cheated on me and then we wents on a break he met someone else while seeing me she got pregnant.
i was in a dark place for a long time drinking a lot,
im sober now and wanted to find love it feel he never love me
. im trying to use the dating app and i dont drive i difficuly.
thanks for all your comments

[Pterodon]

Been there. Yes your heart will heal but it will take time

[Asker]

thanks for your feedback

[itsannalee]

Get professional help. I can understand what you feel, I've been in there. My ex was cheating, toxic, manipulative and after i got away from him I realized I was doing things my ex did to me that I didn't like to my current partner.

[Asker]

thanks for your feedback

[itsannalee]

I spent my time to a psychiatrist because I had trauma because of him, I dated him only for 3 years. I understand 15 years it will definitely be harder.

[Asker]

i dated him for around 4 or 5 years. i haven't had a boyfriend for 15 years cause of what happened.

[Asker]

what do you mean get professional help do you mean therapy i wish i could erase him and what i went though from my mind

[linka_pat307]

I think it'd high time you left those things be.. it's been 15 years it took you long to heal from caused by someone who didn't value you..

[Asker]

thanks for your feedback i guess he never loved me

[Nikki1989]

Get used to it. Most men cheat.

[Asker]

please dont say that