Do you think taking time apart from a troubled relationship is wise to do?

[Finchie40]

From my experiences in relationships , to me it means the relationship is over , if you can’t fix what is broken together , then taking time apart isn’t going to fix anything , pretty much why I ended it with my ex. Towards the end of our marriage , my wife started to exclude me from everything , like I no longer mattered to her , I wasn't even a thought, when it came down to her decisions, she would just say I am going away next week with her friend without even discussing it with me. That’s when I knew our marriage was over, because she never did that before to me , and I never did that to her , so when a partner automatically excludes you and is looking forward to having space From you as much as possible , do not wait for them and realize they don’t value or respect you or love you anymore , they just like the convenience of you period and they love what they can receive from you. That isn’t love , that is convenience. I am not saying your partner has to hold your hand every step of the way , but you should always be their top priority when it comes to making plans with friends’ especially vacations that you talked about going together but now all of a sudden your excluded. What are your thoughts on this?

[sage2021]

Whether you are talking about a marriage relationship or a significant other relationship and things start to go South is it time to take a break from each other or stay and work things out?

Taking a break might sound good at the time but I don't encourage taking a break from each other. For one thing, you are probably going to meet someone else and then you only add fuel to the fire 🔥 because now not only do you have your original problems but now you have huge additional problem.

I believe that the two of you should regroup and set some boundaries and agree or not agree with what is on the table to negotiate. If it's not amicable for both of you, then you stay and renogiate again until you reach a mutual understanding of what is allowed and what you aren't going to agree to.

Try that first for a 90 day period and see how it's going at the end of the 90 days.

Sit down together and have another conversation about what is agreeable and what you decided you didn't want to go through with and discovered this during the 90 trial period.

If after doing this a few times and it's totally obvious that the two of you should end the relationship and both agree to it, then you won't just be taking a break but ending the relationship all together.
But try to give it your best first. That's only fair.

[Crimsyjo]

Yeah I started doing more of that kinda thing once I fell out of love with my husband. When they've hurt or disappointed you enough but you not yet brave enough to leave or (like in our case and many relationship cases) you have children so you kinda try holding on for "the kids sake" but once love is gone you really can't fake it and your behaviour says it all.

[Finchie40]

Yea we agreed we will always love and care about each other but we know we are not good for each other anymore because towards the end all we did was butt heads with each other and we were both miserable , I tried saving my marriage multiple times to the point I had no more left to give , unless i wanted to walk around with Sucker on my head. I realized my wife no longer wanted to do things with me anymore , she made a friend that she prioritizes more over me and that’s when I knew our marriage was over , she stopped including me in things and started acting like I didn’t exist , the intimacy and affection faded as well to the point I felt like what’s even the point of being together if she plans on being apart from me as much as possible and doesn’t want to travel with me and share things together , I felt used and felt unloved and unwanted. To the point I talked to her about my feelings of concern and she just says stop acting like a victim , I said I am over being disrespected by you and not being happy with you , she said she still loves me but she thinks taking a break from each other is going to fix us and I said sorry , if we can’t fix this together then we are best to part ways , I was honest with her that I don’t want to be with a girl that doesn’t consider me when it comes to making decisions. I said the kids’ are older so go live your life and I am going to live mine , I told her to go find her happiness and I am going to find mine , she claims she isn’t rushing i into another relationship , I told her I don’t care what she does , and told her I am not rushing into another relationship either but I am going to date. So I think it’s best we file through with the divorce , So she grabbed her things and moved in with her brother. I told her we will split the money from the house as long as we can be mutual with each other and not enemies. She agreed , she said she doesn’t hate me , she just knows we are no longer good for each other , her new friend

[Finchie40]

Apparently is more important to her than I am to her , so just goes to show how someone you thought you would be married to the rest of your life can easily change on you. Now that she has been out of the house , I been focusing on myself and open to dating again

[BDRick]

To put it simply, there are a lot of variables involved. Such as how old they both are, for how long they’ve been together, married or dating, customary norms in location, religious beliefs, and how attached they normally are to one another

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Heck if I know. At this point we are pratically having separate lives. We get along perfectly and the relationship is amiable, but we pretty much do our own thing.

[Finchie40]

Do you cheat on each other

[MikkiM]

Marry a filipina woman there is no divorce in the Philippines.

[BonzoInBitburg]

I agree with this. There are a lot of really great Filipinas that are single over there.

[caitycat21]

Usually “taking a break” is literally just an excuse to cheat

[Babebytheshore85]

Sounds like it's time to end it. Why would anyone carry on with a troubled relationship?

[Nikki1989]

When you hear the words “I need some space” you know your relationship is in trouble. It doesn't mean it is over, but you do have some work to do.

[robocop666]

David X says never get your old girlfriend back because you'll only remember why you broke up in the first place. 99.999% of books on male dating and pick up artists are shite but he is good.

[Godihateyou]

No. End it. Time off is for idiots. It's not going to work better later amd you are only going to be closer to death.