Would you wait for a partner that needed space from you that ignores your calls or text or would you move on?

[Finchie40]

I moved on when my wife pulled this shit with me , she said she needed space and time to figure things out and said she doesn’t love me the same anymore. I said that’s fine but understand if you leave , I am not going to be a sitting duck waiting for your return. So she packed her stuff and left , I was hurt but what made it worse was the fact she wasn’t returning any of my calls or texts , so I figured she met someone else , So I ended up jumping in bed with another girl that I knew had the hots for me and told this girl the truth about everything that was going on in my marriage. She completely understood and said my wife is definitely up to no good , and said she is here for me. My wife eventually called me back and I told her the truth that I met someone else , that she is best to move on herself. My wife is now calling me a cheater? I said you cheated on this marriage the second you left and the second you didn’t answer my calls or texts , I told you I am not a toy you can play with when it’s convenient for you. Being with that other girl made me realize there are better people in this world , My wife is a selfish POS person that never takes accountability for her selfish actions and behaviors. She says it’s her menopause , I said I know a bunch of women that went through menopause that didn’t walk away from their husbands , I told her to go get help and hung up the phone. Now she has been sending memes that make her seem like she is a victim when really she is the POS and she is still being hit and cold with me , one minute she wants to fix our marriage and the next she doesn’t. I told her she needs serious mental help.

[Lilbit84]

This seems like deja vu to me. Dated this guy for a few he told me he was going to work on him self. Well when he said that he was actually working on him self alright. He had gone met another chick. Well a few months go by I get a text. He wanted me to come over and "make love" said his new relationship hasn't made it that far yet. Lol I was like wtf dude. I thought he was " working on himself" lol.
You deserve better. Hell being treated like a convenience instead of a person isn't true love to me. When your wife found out you moved on she got to thinking. But in reality she doesn't want you to be with no one but yet doesn't love you enough to help her work out the issue. People would rather sometimes run than fix a relationship and get to the root of the problem. I'm so done with relationships. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[Finchie40]

Exactly , partners that all of a sudden need space , when they never did before , is a clear sign they are up to no good , whether they met someone else or not , they are still walking away from the relationship that they chose to be in , which to me is still cheating in my opinion, especially when it was never ok for me to go away without her and how dare I don’t answer her calls or texts. Which I never did to her whatsoever. I would put myself in her shoes when it came down to making decisions and thought how I would feel if the tables were turned , but my wife didn’t do that for me what’s especially when it came down to her making decisions. She only thought about herself , she is an immature selfish person that can have a relationship ball by herself , boundaries didn’t mean shit to her whatsoever. Setting boundaries with her was a joke. Boundaries to her meant I had to follow them but she didn’t have to , and that’s why our relationship turned to shit , I tolerated this shit with her for too long , because I loved her and our kids’ and just wanted to be a happy content family but unfortunately you can’t have that with selfish immature people , so when she pulled this shit with me , I realized she didn’t love me , she just liked the convenience of me , I was a placeholder that she would throw a bone to, when it was convenient for her. So this time around I didn’t play into her games and that’s why I said Yes to that other girl , that wanted to be close to me , that cared about my feelings , that made me feel wanted. So having sex with her felt amazing , because I was nothing but honest with her because I didn’t want her being a rebound , She understood and it didn’t stop her lol

[loveyouoak]

Your wife is right. I swear I saw myself in your wife. I don't think your wife cheated on you at all; rather, you actually cheated on her. Couples grow cold toward each other over time and want to be alone for a while. That's normal. If you loved your wife, you would wait for her and not get into bed with another woman. Maybe she really was acting like that because of her menopause. Couldn't she be right?

[Finchie40]

It’s not about who was right or wrong , my wife and I were both wrong if you really want to get down to it. Space is not meant for relationships, if you need space from your partner , you walk into another room or you go stay at a friends’ house with communication to your partner, not just ghost them and not return texts or calls , it takes 2 seconds to text someone back that you care about, so the fact that she didn’t text me or call me whatsoever was a huge red flag to me that I wasn’t tolerating , I would never disappear on my partner even if things aren’t going so well between us , I would still let her know that I am safe and ok not leave her there with a question mark not knowing what happened to me. So at that moment is when I threw in the towel and said Fuck this selfish Bitch , she’s going to be selfish , so I’m going to be selfish as well. I lost all respect for my wife the second she pulled that shit with me. That isn’t love that is toxic shit. Plus there are a lot of other things prior to this that added to the fire. so was I wrong for screwing that other girl? It didn’t feel wrong at the time

[lorenzomichael]

I’d move the fuck on. Who needs that kind of shit? There are to many Women in the world and you really don’t have to look far to see them you just have to pass through all the bullshit. That’s why I’m straight up with them. I like being single I own my own house I have a few toys I make a real good living as a union ironworker my parents left me money I’m set. I mean yeah I was married for 21 years I have a 21 yr old daughter and a 25 yr old son they’re both doing great. My little girl just graduated college. Girlfriend are special but I’m never giving my life to any of them. So yeah tell her you’re gonna give her as much space as she wants. And then tell her to go fuck herself.

[WonderingManII]

I kinda know the feeling. I think jumping in bed with another woman may have made your situation with your wife worse. But other than that, I think you are right. At this point unless you two get marriage counseling it is probably best to move on.

[Finchie40]

The only reason I jumped into bed with that other girl was because I threw I. The towel with my wife , I lost all respect and trust for her

[sage2021]

I would move on. They are disrespecting you by ignoring you trying to reach out to them.
If they don't have time for you now, why would they all of a sudden have time for you after your space break?

[Sal_Monella]

Secure your finances. Delete all questionable social media. Send her a demand letter to return home and resume her duties as a wife. Set a deadline. See a divorce lawyer now. She will eviscerate you if you don't prepare. Cashier all emotions. This is war.

[Godihateyou]

Need space is the female way to say miles. of strange dick. Block her number ignore. Move on.

[chocolatetwopointo]

id be the partner who wanted space

[MinaV]

I wouldn't leave my partner

[Babebytheshore85]

Move on

[Aldan1609]

Yes, I would