How do I know if my husband hates me?

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Guys, what are some not so obvious signs?  He still wants sex though...

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I don’t think he hates you if he is still having sex with you , if that was the case his dick wouldn’t get hard whatsoever, My dick wouldn’t get erect for a girl I hated lol , So get the hate word out of
Your head, You both have been together for so long to the point you both just got set in your ways and the passion and excitement you both once shared is not the same. To bring that spark alive again , you are best to have a sit down talk with him and express your feelings of concern to him without pointing fingers at him , try to find out a way you both can reignite that flame. Plan a romantic trip for the both of you , tell him to take some time off from work and tell him you want to spend quality time with him because things have been feeling dull between us. I’m dilute your husband still loves and cares about you , you both just got lost along the way , it happens to a lot of long term relationships. So don’t think you are the only one that is encountering this. Life gets ordinary after awhile especially if it’s the same thing over and over , so to get yourselves out of that funk , plan something you both never did before and stick to it , some quality one on one time with your husband will more than likely ignore the spark between you both again.

OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

OK, your update explained it much better than your original question. Have you guys just settled into a rut? Is he a lump generally? No energy. Just wants to sit around the house? Lacking in curiosity or lust for life? A procrastinator? If the answer is yes, there's your answer, it's his innate personality, not you.

Or are you the lump? Boring? Couch potato? No interests? Can't really carry a conversation?

If that's not it, you may have to tell him you want more. Get off the couch. Dinner out once a week. Do something. Go biking. Have some friends over. Take up tennis. Go for a hike.

Ask him why he's so satisfied with doing nothing. He may be depressed or overwhelmed. Career, family, cars, house, kids, you, etc. Maybe he feels alone and won't speak up. The only way to find out is to have a conversation with him.

melnc · Answer

You’ve been his wife for 16 years , you should know the answer before even asking the question.

LiamS95 · Answer

Whatever would make you think your husband hates you?

Stevepro68 · Answer

If he doesn't want to sleep up against you in bed that is when I knew my Marriage was ending.

Bricealan · Answer

Has he tried to throw you out the upstairs window?

Anonymous · Answer

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Anonymous · Answer

Two questions for you: 1) What evidence do you have to suggest he hates you? Or do you just have a guilty conscience about something? 2) How does he treat you during sex?