Would you give a separated spouse another chance if you found out they were dying?

[Finchie40]

My separated wife and I have been back and fourth in our marriage for the past few years , we still love and care about each other , we just know we aren’t good for each other anymore because we have to many resentments towards each other to the point I want to meet someone else and I have dated and slept with other girls’ but nothing serious has come of it during our separation. Which My wife knows I did , Her on the other hand claims she didn’t sleep with anyone else and took the time to focus on herself , which she claims she did , which I do believe her because not to long ago, her doctor told her that her health isn’t good and that she possibly might have cancer just like how her Mom passed away , My wife said she loves me and wants me by her side until she passes away. i told her I would be by her side and we ended up back in bed together , shortly after Her and I took a trip together and we had a fun trip , but my romantic feelings for her sadly aren’t the same like the use to be before all hell broke loose in our marriage I told her the truth that I need more time to myself which she assumes I am going to date and screw other girls while I am doing so. I said if that’s how you see me then why be with me at all? I said I was t the one that ruined our marriage to begin with so the only person you can blame is yourself. She says she’s in love with me and wants to be with me. I told her to not rush into anything and let’s see how her doctor visit goes tomorrow , they are testing to see if she has cancer. She said if I do have cancer You will be with me? If I don’t have cancer are you going to move on? I said possibly
What would you do in this situation

[Purpleronnie]

I’m not sure how I may think I would proceed could be any bearing or of any support but here it is.
Mimicking your scenario in the detail you have shared.


We ended the relationship for valid reason and as much as there is generally always ‘feelings’ , and familiarity etc leftover , the fact that these weren’t enough to prevent the split should mean that its final.


I have never and would never get back with any of my ex’s , terminally ill or in perfect health and anything in between my happiness comes before that of anyone in my life.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Probably no, for my own moral integrity.

Also, cancer doesn't necessarily mean death nowadays, especially if treated quickly.

[Anonymous]

If you are so kind and respectful to each other, why did you break up with your wife? What was the problem?

[Finchie40]

She wanted to be selfish and single first , once our kids’ got older and I didn’t at the time , I wanted our marriage , but realized I couldn’t force her to stay with me , so when we separated, I ended up meeting other girls’ and the second I met someone great , my wife then decided she wanted me back , and I told her she should of thought of that before she decided to separate. Now that I had met other girls’ i realized I I don’t really want my wife back , I don’t hate her I just no longer have the same feelings that she does for me

[Opinion Owner]

It is very bad your wife lost a loyal man like you. But I still think you should go back to her — everyone deserves a second chance, right?

[Finchie40]

Baby steps

[Nikki1989]

Nope. An ex is still an ex.

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

I would be there, but not interested a romantic way. Sorry for her condition but personally once a relationship ends, I'm emotionally done with it and that partner.

[Anonymous]

I'm in same boat

I'm with my wife because I didn't meet anyone else

To split would be difficult huge

It's an awful situation

How can I retire if it means I will see more of her?

[jimmy2]

My marriage was similar but my wife hot MS and I took care of her to the end

[Dongie]

Another chance as in get back together? NO!

[Dongie]

I'd be sympathetic and help her in any way but I wouldn't destroy myself to do so.

[Charliefretz329]

No, there is a reason we separated

[qwerty2469]

Lolz. No