Do you keep or get rid of gifts from your ex?

[itsannalee]

Do you keep any gifts or stuff from your ex, or get rid of them like throwing them away, sell it or give them away?

[OneViewpoint]

I'm a minimalist in general. So when it's over it's over. Everything from texts to photos to physical things go out the door with the ex. The physical clutter is part of it but the mental clutter is the real target here. How do you move on when you're clinging to the past? You can't necessarily delete the memories but you can delete the stuff that triggers the memories. Eyes on the road ahead, not the past.

[itsannalee]

Well move on is about the feeling, not only about the past. I moved on long time ago with exs, but ain’t no way i threw away those designer stuff they give me. If the stuff they give me still useful, i keep them.

[OneViewpoint]

ROFL, women don't give men "designer stuff". It tends to be maybe a t-shirt or a cheap but "thoughtful" trinket. And that's OK. I've never been about the "stuff". And purging a lot of low value stuff at the end of a relationship is pretty easy.

[itsannalee]

Well i do give them designer stuff too, perfume, wallet, shoes.

[OneViewpoint]

That is extremely rare. And it's generally fine. I don't think guys value designer labels the way women do. And when we have interests we are generally very picky about what we want. I've been told I'm impossible to buy for. If I want something, I just buy it when I want or need it. It keeps the stuff to a minimum at Christmas and my birthday, LOL.

[itsannalee]

I always think if i love something good people around me love it too. So i always try to give good things just like i get too.

[OneViewpoint]

That is admirable. A sense of balance and fairness.

[AgentG111]

I would have to say it depends on what the item is. Also depending on the length of a relationship and the terms you may have items that are useful for your life and getting rid of them wouldn't make sense.

I know I have several items that I've kept from ex's.

[Genie23]

I do. In order to forget about him and move on, I need him and everything that reminds me of him to be out of my sight. That's how he'll be out of mind otherwise I'd keep looking at those things getting reminded of those moments and other memories... That won't be healthy.

[BeeNee]

I think I've unintentionally kept gifts from my ex. Like I'm sure they're in some deep dark pit of a closet somewhere, but like, framed up on a wall, no.

[AviatorTom]

In general, I keep gifts... if they are useful, regardless of how I acquired them.

I often don't remember who gave it to me.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I have kept them. But not out of sentimentality, I just like keeping memories.

[WonderingManII]

I guess this is a good thing about not having any exes.

[itsannalee]

😂😂😂😂

[DJB72]

Depends what it is and how we split. I don't see me getting rid of much my wife left because she died. I've still got some stuff my first girlfriend gave me 30 years ago

[CherryLove007]

A wonderful gift is precious and at the time everything was happy. I generally keep the gifts. I have a ring from his mother that I never resized yet.

[ilistengood]

Depends, did she break us up or did I. If she did chances are eventually the gifts will be in a box in closet. if I did it ill probably toss the stuff.

[dwreborn]

Not sure what iam gonna do i dont think i can throw away stuff she gave me we are getting along during the separation and all in all whatever happens we want each other to be happy even if its not together

[Miristheiss]

It has been a long time since I had an ex. I have been married for a while now.

I kept the stuff. She had given me a suit and some cologne. I kept using that stuff and kept wearing the suit.

[beenherebefore]

I have a piece of decoration and an expensive watch in my possession that were given to me by ex boyfriends. I kept them because I really like them not because it reminds me of them or has any kind of sentimental value.

[Iron_Man]

She really upset me. I gave it back to her a lot of stuff, but I regretted it and I wanted it back but she already moved out so that was back in the day

[PeachyPie93]

Well I keep them. Since I got electronics, jewellery and many other things but pictures and cards go in the bin. The jewellery I don't wear but I also can't get rid of it..

[Nikki1989]

I never throw away good stuff. That would be wasteful and just plain weird.

[XXblack88]

I put everything in a box and that box will get put away until I have moved on. once that has happen I will open it up and decided what to do with it from there.

[lucas262]

Ill put it like this, 1st time o met my brothers ex she told me she's keeping a necklace from her ex in another state. I said surely you'll give this expensive thing back. But no, and I knew then and there what she was, but turns out she was worse.

[LiamJHayden]

Once it is given to me it is mine. I keep what I want and give away what I do not. It is not at all contingent upon it being from a ex. But I've never had a bitter breakup, so the answer might change at some future date.

[DocT1977]

Anything that came from my ex goes with the ex. Clutter from the past only takes up space that I could be using for things of higher value.

[WindAtMyBack]

No reason to get rid of them. It would never even occur to me.

[shortster]

I keep all gifts from people. Why would I get rid of a gift just because it was from an ex?

[exitseven]

most I have thrown away or maybe my wife tossed them out.

[Joshydavid25]

Keep them.. Especially if it's something useful.. That's just the waste of a good thing..

[i_Jedi]

Nope, I don’t get rid of them, if it’s still useful, I’ll keep it lol. Why waste something that works?

[janemarie15]

YES! Even though we have a bad memories, even he cheated on me. I'll keep the gifts from him. Because somehow we have a good days as well. :)

[ChaseBee]

Unless it is something really useful then I would say no. I don't keep clutter and I also don't hold on to the past. Once it's over it's gone.

[Jennz6]

I keep some of it

[Bklynbadboy12]

I get rid of everything

[Paige90]

Keep

[Richardjd]

Good girl you deserve every gift you get so you keep them

[LifeHitMeandRan]

Get rid of it.

[ManOnFire]

I no longer have any gifts from my exes.

[red-lipstick-girl]

If it works for me, I won't throw it away.

[DrPepper12]

Keep!! Memories matter!

[Sam1133]

Lol I donate my ex & gifts to poor guy 💀

[Batsy01010101]

Never got any gifts so i wouldn't know

[Kelly6]

@itsannalee Keep

[SunshineFlowers92]

Regift them, lol. If possible.

[dudeinohio]

Keep most of them

[JohnnyB123321]

No. I don’t get rid of anything.

[Allmenrsick]

Men want nanny for marriage.

[eagle1951]

gone with her

[worldscolide]

I burned them

[Meatballs]

Burn baby burn

[bunniesrcute]

get rid