What makes you finally let go of a person you once loved but weren’t valued?

[Pearl222]

[ohsheeT]

Understanding the words, love yourself when you love yourself. You value yourself you have boundaries

You hold yourself to a higher standard of giving love of showing love

When you understand this
You understand that other people can just use it as a word

And the word means nothing if you can't back it or if you don't understand it , you can't give it

But when you do understand it and it means something to you, you express it by doing what you do for that person unconditionally.

And\nWhen they can't give that back to you, you can't feel it. And it feels empty within it's when you have to value yourself , take a stand because it's who you are. Why?\nWould you want to just keep giving somebody all of you when you're getting nothing in return

You value yourself.\n And do you expect more? This is how we grow
You've been there before in other ways, and you know the value of yourself and the love that you have within that you give to others unconditional. But you do have boundaries , and if they're not meant you have to make a choice.

It's the understanding of how you value yourself of who you are and what you give of yourself unconditionally.\n And you're not really asking for much and that's the whole key is , you shouldn't have to ask for it should be given to you as you give it to them on the same level

Your true meaning of love within you is greater than their true meaning of love.

You understand It's not just a word that can. Be thrown out there. it is an emotion an energy that is felt with out even saying the word

[Finchie40]

Understanding that things will not get better and accepting it for what it is , a relationship takes 2 people putting in the effort not just one , if things are one sided , it will never work out. You should never beg someone to change for you because you can’t change anyone , only you can change yourself , and sometimes that means walking the other way

[sage2021]

For me it was having to move 3,000 miles away from him because I loved him but unfortunately he suffered from commitment phobia!!

[Nikki1989]

When you see the imbalance clearly, it becomes harder to pretend the relationship is mutual.

[ManOnFire]

When I came to realize I was holding on to someone who wasn't holding on to me. It was like I snapped awake. Here I was grieving the loss of someone who was not feeling the same way about me, who made it clear they were done, so why was I missing them?

After that sudden awakening I no longer stalked their social media, I deleted their number, and I just had a kind of weight lifted off of me. This felt more powerful than the grief did. Ever since then I have never looked back wanting to reconnect with her.

[exitseven]

I flew 1500 miles to see her. we had not seen each other in over 6 months. It was all i was thinking about for weeks. She shows up at the airport wearing a dirty hooded sweatshirt, She has some weird perm and it was combed over to one side. She told me that she almost forgot to pick me up. Just like that my whole perception of her changed. I saw her as she really was and I saw our relationship as one sided with me doing all the work. I tried to ignore it but a few months alter I called her late one Saturday night and broke up with her over the phone.

[MontBlanc]

I think you finally let go when you realize holding on only keeps you from valuing yourself.

Love is meaningful when it’s mutual.

When someone doesn’t appreciate you or respect your worth, clinging to them only prolongs your own pain.

Letting go happens when you choose your own peace, growth, and self respect over the hope that they might change.

[Zack-Bann]

Time and a change of habits


Once you wake up to realize you’re no longer the same person yourself you won’t be smitten by the same things


Dig deep into your closet, you’ll find a top or a jacket or something that you once used to define who you are but now couldn’t even see yourself wearing as a joke.


That’s the exact same logic

[MrChinaski]

It sounds like you already have clarity. That's the best you can do, in my experience.

I always feel a frustration that it seems like it should have been so simple to resolve. But of course it never is.

Love what you loved about them. Try not to be angry. Be open to better relationships.

All easier said than done...

[MrChinaski]

And if that fails there is always Bob Dylan.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bq-bNR-z7Nk

[PolarPoint]

doing everything whatever I can do to keep going relationship , crying yelling begging giving my everything etc., and then I get blocked. That time I let of this person. Normally Im not able to let go of a person. I have no ability about that

[NathanDavis]

never been there... I would never go to a person that wouldn't value love

[Rangers]

Acceptance of the fact that most relationships don't last and recognize that you need to move on

[AgentG111]

When I can confirm they acted like a complete POS / Waste of carbon.

[In_Trance]

Sense of value