Is it a bad idea to contact my ex after 10 months of no contact?

Question

It’s been 10 months since my ex and I last spoke, and we’ve had absolutely no contact since then. I still miss him and have been thinking about reaching out, but I’m worried that it would be weird after so much time has passed.

Would you think it’s a bad idea to contact him after 10 months, or is it still okay to reach out if I genuinely miss him?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Every single one of us that has been through a breakup can either say yes we miss that person we broke up with or we don't

But the breakup happened for a reason It was the moment in time for us to grow To regain our conscious Regain our Insight And find the next person that's out there waiting for us Every day in life There is change There is growth And if there's not And you're just standing still You're not going anywhere That means you never learned your lesson And you haven't moved on And you're wasting life Start living life Find that next person Learn from the lesson that was Handed to you Because I guarantee it something better will come from it You have to be willing to grow you have to be willing for change You have to see things in a new light Because that's what it was all about It wasn't meant to be otherwise it would be

I apologize for being such a dick about it but I can only say this because I been there I've done it I've watched it happen many times there's people on here I'm watching it happen to and I feel bad for them because they're stuck

Everything that we go through in life it's the same scenario we deal with it and we move on and we keep growing becoming better human beings and starting a whole new life a whole new chapter a whole new outlook

RavVid · Accepted Answer

Reach out I say. Nearly a year is quite long enough to move on so don't expect much out of it. I think if you are genuine and go about it nicely there is nothing wrong.

HollyK21 · Accepted Answer

At this point in my life, I’d genuinely advise against it because a good outcome rarely ever comes from reconnecting with an ex. However, I didn’t just wake up with this knowledge. I had to go through my own experience and receive the lesson in order to genuinely understand why it’s best to let an ex stay an ex.

For you, this may continue to stay on your mind until you do it, and you may always wonder “what if” if you don’t. So ultimately if you feel too inclined to reach out, like you just can’t take the feeling anymore or whatever then sure, go for it so you can receive the outcome. If I were you I’d do a lot of unpacking before that choice though, like exploring my emotions about it. Maybe write everything out — why you broke up, what led to the breakup, how you were/have been feeling, what you hope to gain by contacting him again vs what you realistically know in your heart you’d get. Just sort through all that, then decide, and if you do reach out then be fully ready for potential disappointment, even if not immediately. Determine whether or not you can emotionally handle that again, as well.

choco-latte · Accepted Answer

I mean if you really want to then you should do it just so you don’t have any regrets later… but just be aware that a lot can change after so many months. He might have moved on, or may be seeing other people… who knows. So try not to get your hopes up too much, but just say hi and ask about him. Good luck.

Anonymous · Answer

why would you contact an ex? what will even come of it? what will you hope come of it? your expectations probably won't match the actual outcome. i just don't see the point in it.

Kvass · Answer

Stay away, no sense making lonely mistakes

bowenw · Answer

I think it depends on why the two of your broke up.

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing good is likely to come from it

CarolineWhizz · Answer

Yes definitely

dudeinohio · Answer

Yes. Bad idea. Move on.

In_Trance · Answer

Yes it is

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