Should I reach out to my ex who treated me badly but I still miss?

[Anonymous]

I broke up with my ex a year ago. He treated me really badly in a lot of ways, but I still miss him so much that it drives me crazy. Do you think I should reach out to him? I also have this stupid belief that he’ll come back at some point.

[Screenwriter]

Girrrrl! Please see a therapist and work through this. Do NOT reach. out to him. He is abusive and this puts a fine point on the fact that somehow you think you deserved his abuse. You need to discover that you did not deserve it and should never accept such treatment again.

Get recommendations and get into therapy.

[Kvass]

If being treated like sh’t wasn’t enough the first time, go ahead.🤷‍♀️

[Asker]

oh... I am never sending that text again thanks girl

[tiredpanda]

[Asker]

HAHAH

[tiredpanda]

No, but seriously don’t do that. You said yourself that he treated you really badly. I know you still miss him and haven’t fully moved on, but missing someone doesn’t mean going back to them is the right choice. You can miss someone and still know they’re not good for you.

Give yourself time to heal instead of going back to the same situation that hurt you. You’re better off without him

[Asker]

thanks tiredpanda!! <3 reading this made me feel better, I just find it hard to get over him it's been a year. I won't reach out to him bc he really hurt me.

[tiredpanda]

No problem :)) There’s no set timeline for getting over someone you really cared about. You’re allowed to still miss him just don’t let that make you forget why you left. And if he ever tries to come back, stay away and don’t give him another chance to hurt you.

Maybe try to keep yourself busy with things you enjoy when you start thinking about past. not to force yourself to forget him but to give yourself something else to focus on and enjoy.

[Friendlybro79]

"He treated me really badly" Be smart don't do it

[Asker]

yeah... thanks <3

[Friendlybro79]

You're welcome. Be brave and ignore this urge. You'll find someone that actually loves and cares about you. Believe in that and you will be ok.

[Asker]

Thank you kind stranger you made my day <3

[Friendlybro79]

Oh you're welcome and it's nice to know this. That made my day!

[Asker]

<3 take care!!

[Nikki1989]

Yeah, don't do that. Have some self-respect.

[slatyb]

No, you should not. Instead reach out to a therapist.

[Abbycado]

Nope.

[Asker]

yeah... it just sucks that I am still not over him

[In_Trance]

Get your shit together

[Anonymous]

What do u miss about him

[thund3rlight]

No , no and no

[jahaims]

Ignorant question

[dudeinohio]

No. Do not.