How can deep romantic love turn into hatred instead of a peaceful goodbye?

[Veronika_p]

Two strangers meet, fall in love, spend years together, make memories, build a life, and at one point look at each other like they're the most important person in the world. ❤️

Then somehow, years later, that same love can turn into anger, hatred, resentment… sometimes even violence. And in the worst cases, people become so consumed by bitterness that they actually start thinking about hurting or killing the person they once couldn't imagine living without. 💔

How does a heart make that journey?

I understand that people change. Relationships become unhealthy. People betray each other, grow apart, fall out of love, or realize they simply aren't meant to be together anymore.

But if the love is gone, why can't people just walk away?

Why destroy someone's life because a relationship didn't work? Why turn beautiful memories into something terrifying? Why not remember that there was once a time when you both cared about each other deeply and simply accept that the chapter has ended? 😔

Not every relationship has to have a happy ending. Sometimes the most loving thing two people can do is let each other go.

You don't have to hate someone just because you can't love them anymore.

And honestly, I wish more people understood that. 🥺

If you once truly loved someone, do you think it's possible to walk away without turning that love into hatred? Why do you think some people struggle so much to let go peacefully?

[glennos89]

I think it depends on the reason (s) why the break up happened. I think most people do it because they feel betrayed or hurt.

Personally I dont hate my ex. We had a good relationship but it didn't work out in the end because our arguments became to heated everytime. We ended up breaking up but there is no hard feelings from both sides. Its just didn't work

[johannesjohn]

Falling out of love doesn’t make what you shared meaningless. Sometimes, true maturity is being able to say goodbye without hurting someone you no longer love.

[ohsheeT]

I was married two girl and we were both young

And I realized that she was not the person that I thought she was and I tried to make it work we did many things because I had to try but it just wasn't going to work I explained my reasoning and she didn't accept it because she was angry she was pissed and instead of trying to be happy or anything like that any moment at any time she was trying to hurt me and I did not understand that we had a son together it was now about him I tried to be her friend I kissed her ass I did everything possible and no matter what I did she would try to destroy me and that went on for a lot of years and I never did understand that

The next time I got into a relationship and I knew it was going to work I would communicate this to the person and we would end things as friends

I started dating one girl And Maybe a week into dating her A friend of mine Ask me about her And eat this guy was a really good guy Really good friend of mine And he asked me was it going to last and I said I don't know I said we're both kind of different and I asked him why And he said that he was in love with her And I busted up laughing But like I said he's a good friend of mine And I understood all the reasons And he To date her if I was going to Be breaking up with her he wanted me to introduce her I didn't know what I was doing LOL But I did go to her and I talked to her about it And I said I really want to introduce you to a friend of mine And I wouldn't do this If I did not believe in him And he would be a really really good boyfriend has been And father So she said okay she would do it And I introduced them both they got married And have three kids

But I don't care who I date if I if I'm going out with them the very first thing is I'm your friend and if I'm going out with somebody I really like them and I think about things and I don't ever want to hurt anybody so I pay attention to everything that happens and if it doesn't work I mean we got to save each other so I always try to be friends there's no reason and being nasty aggressive verbally destructive there's just no room for that you start out as friends you ended as friends you understand and respect the reasoning behind it and you just do not try to destroy the other person because you're angry at them for wanting to break up

I've been in relationships there's no argument for 4 years at least 4 years because I don't believe in it I believe in listening putting yourself in their shoes and the biggest thing is not having an ego ego destroys every relationship if you have to be right the relationship is not going to last and if two people have to be right it's definitely not going to last

And With Friends and just people I know I've seen the most beautiful relationships go to the sickest the worst atmosphere the worst life the two people could have together and is all about ego each one has to be right and that's just can't happen that way you know you have to leave the ego out of the whole picture it will destroy everybody

[Laws-Of-Existence]

I don't know about others but my parents were discussing divorce every single year since before i was even made. I never once heard one say love to the other but heard death wishes and stories about how the other has "cursed bloodline". Then there was churchianity programming that makes one scared for life for even thinking about the act of kissing or holding hands. And of course, the miserable parents purposely take time and effort to present themselves as role models, because by ensuring that their child is the same they are framing their own failure as a success, they feel good about fucking up and pretend that it will get them to heaven.

[Iron_Man]

Those people that wanna kill their former friends or girlfriends are psychotic nut cases. I would never want to end a relationship on a bad note. I want to go out with style and class. I wouldn’t want to have hatred. but I would do whatever it takes to make the relationship work and hopefully it won’t come to that having bitterness

[BCRanger10]

Probably because they've shared a much deeper and more intimate bond with each other that they wouldn't with other friends or family members. And if it ends, the anger and hate (if it's actually there) is, in my opinion, a coping mechanism, something to help protect them from feeling the hurt of the loss.

[ThisDudeHere]

For some, staying in a broken relationship feels better than the alternative of being alone - either because you don't want the stigme of being a loner or because you have gotten so used to companionship that you're no longer sure you could function by yourself.

[MannMitAntworten]

I have only let go and have been let go peacefully. Some folks live for turmoil. I am not one of them. Thankfully, neither has anyone I have ever been involved with.

[sage2021]

Even if they just walk away from the person, the person who was left behind hurts like hell! 💔

[Veronika_p]

But it's better to walk away than planning to physically hurt the other person

[sage2021]

I would never physically or emotionally hurt the person.

The day that my husband (who I loved very much) left my son and myself, and even though I knew he was cheating on me, I helped him pack up his stuff, but I was crying the whole time.
If someone doesn't want to be with me, I don't leave scratch marks trying to grab onto them and try to make them stay. I say "There's the door"!

[Veronika_p]

🌹 you deserve some flowers

[sage2021]

Thank you❣️

[NathanDavis]

they didn't grow up together...

they grew apart

[Shiprex]

I think the betrayal is the source of the bitterness.

[dudeinohio]

This is essentially true, that love shouldn't turn to hate ordinarily.

In cases of abuse or betrayal, i can understand it, though.

[AngryCarl3]

Love and hate are different sides of the same coin.

[Bklynbadboy12]

When one of the two have been wronged and the person that did it won't take responsibility for it or doesn't show any remorse

[WhitneySnow]

I agree!

[Veronika_p]

Thank you 🧚