How would you feel if you saw your ex lost weight?

[Anonymous]

I'm meeting one of my exes for lunch, who hasn't seen me in a year. In the past year, I've worked out like crazy and watched what I ate. I was able to drop 30 lbs going from a size 10 to a size 4. Do you think he will notice? Do you think he will be interested in dating again?

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+1 y

I'm not asking this question to be shallow, but it's always nice to have that little "f**k you" moment when someone breaks-up with you and this has been a year long coming. I want just want to make his jaw drop! Girls can relate haha

[Arwens-Fire]

Of course he will notice and even compliment you on it,however it doesn't mean he will want you back. Not everyone is that superficial.I don't know why girls do this to yourselves.:( It takes a heck of a lot more to really consider a relationship with someone.If he suddenly and miraculously wants you back because your body is bangin',its because that's all he wants is...your body.But kudos to you for making yourself feel good,but I don't think it's a healthy mindset for you.I think you should just go and have a good time,because there is a great probability he has moved on and is not thinking about getting back with you. :/

[MiniMarquez]

First: GOOD ON YOU! You should be very very proud of taking control of your body, providing that it's done in a healthy way and not in an I need to impress people way.

Second: Who gives a damn? He is your ex and if he starts drooling all over you and wanting to be with you again how are you going to be able to tell if it's for YOU or you're rockstar body? You want someone who isn't a shallow jackass and wants you for you and how you make him feel in general not just in the pants.

I know you are worth more then that.

[hunterfan]

agreed, find someone who loves you for what's on the inside. the outside can always change, but its the inside that counts!

[Asker]

Thanks! I did lose the weight in a healthy way, just a lot of gym time and I had to cut out my favorite food :(

But you're right I would never get back together with him, but I just want to show him what he can't have. This payback is a long time coming haha. Thanks for answering! :)

[kaylakinsify]

First I'd like to congratulate you on your weight loss, that's amazing! Now this Ex boyfriend would have to be dumb and blind not to notice your hard work. And it's possible he'd be interested in you again. But the fact is do you want to be with someone who only likes you again because of your new appearance? Because he obliviously over looked your other amazing qualities the first time around ( assuming he did the breaking up). I guy should be interested in much more than a girls appearance.

[ihaveagirlsname]

Nicely done! Actually, this exact situation happened to me (but flip flopped). You want that "oh wow!" moment, but don't get discouraged if it doesn't happen. He'll be thinking it, but may not want to give you the satisfaction of telling you that you're looking good. To be honest, you should know you look great and let that be enough. Now, I bet you have more confidence in your appearance and that mixed with some attractiveness is a winning combo.

[martyfellow]

I can relate too. Good for you. After all, living well is the best revenge, isn't it? A doube bonus for you, you also get to to watch him react to your new look.

Sure he'll want to date again, but I get the feeling you aren't interested..

[Luckylobo_taco5]

I recently went through this. Broke up with someone almost a year ago, because she was really fickle while we dated, and i take uncertainty as a “no”. I went from 217lbs to 170lbs in that time, and I’m sure she came across my profile on social media or a dating app and saw the progress I made. She sent a text saying “I want to apologize for the way I treated you”. Which is nice, but there wasn’t much conversation after that. So, you might get noticed, but it depends on the person, I’m sure, when it comes to someone actually acknowledging out loud what they notice. I feel women are less apt to say something about seeing physical progress because they don’t want to look shallow, maybe?

[ivarei]

I'm sure he'll notice and think you're more attractive, but if he starts wanting you back because you lost weight it'll be for all the wrong reasons. find someone who loves all of you and not just your body.

[ivarei]

unless the only reason you broke up was because of your weight.

[ivarei]

@update, I can totally see where you're coming from. I hope to have that sort of revenge someday too.

[Asker]

Thanks! Though I hope you never get your heartbroken, it's honestly the best motivation for running that extra mile.

[ivarei]

lol. too late. I've experienced it more than once, but it doesn't mean I would love to meet some of those guys and rub what they're missing out on in their faces.

[Deepthinker25]

kudos for the lifestyle change and getting fit :D and he may find you more attractive, but him wanting to date you again may not happen. don't get your hopes up

[Iamnobody]

Well my ex was a twig when I met her and still is, so I wouldn't be able to tell the difference really.

[hakuna_matata]

yeah of course he will notice! no one likes watching their ex move on...improve tremendously and have a great life without them...

[BirdofParadise]

That is a lot of weight to lose, he will definitely notice and probably regret that he can't have you anymore.

[MiniMarquez]

In that case good on you! Show him what he's missing out on now! =P. Sorry I thought that you meant you want him to be interested again lol