Would you break up with your partner if they gained weight?

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happyhippo · Accepted Answer

My partner gained weight through the period of our relationship and I don't think that's a reason to break up with someone. He's now trying to get back in shape, already lost 10 kg and dropped few percents of body fat.

Goodwifie · Accepted Answer

No way.  My husband has gained a little bit of weight but it's not a good reason to leave him.

The_Psych_Student · Accepted Answer

If I love someone, it's because I feel in love with what's inside not the outside. As long as that person is happy with themselves then I'm happy.

RetroAlpha · Accepted Answer

Hell no. What a stupid idea! You find a wonderful person to share your life with and just scrap all of that because of a health issue? Nope.

ChurchOfIron · Answer

Becoming fat is weakness. It shows lack of discipline, lack of an ability to commit--which is pretty bad for a relationship--outright laziness. It is not healthy, and it is not attractive. It is extremely unattractive, to me.

It's an addiction. An addiction which kills a hell of a lot more people than drugs, heart disease, diabetes, etc, etc. So, I'd treat it the same way. "Get help, or I'm gone."

Once the fat began to change her body's natural shape and morph her facial features, I would give her the ultimatum. Because yes. There are requirements in a relationship. It is a partnership. Two people bringing things to the other's life in order to make each other's lives better. That means there are requirements. Not beating the shit out of your partner, for instance. Not lazing around doing nothing. Not eating Cheetos on the couch, while your partner does all the work. And, keeping your body healthy and attractive. That's my requirement.

If she did not get herself back in health, I would leave. I work in fitness. I take care of my body. I'm not going to be with a slob with Cheeto dust in her cleavage, carrying a lighter and a spoon to boil sugar, salt, and fat in, then injecting into her sweaty armpits.

Anonymous · Answer

I did leave a woman once because of that. But I admit that a lot of thing need to go in consideration.

1) How much did she/he gain? If you freak out about 10 lbs you need psychological help ASAP.

2) Did you gain weight too? I see a lot of FAT biatch who weight more than me and act like i'm an fucking obese because I don't have a flat tummy or an 6 pact. Meanwhile these biatch are 1,75x my size... and I'm not fat but i'm not small either...

3) Is she/he willing to lose weight and how much? At least try to motivate your partner to lose weight.

4) Are you guys able to eat healthier? Newsflash eating healthy is expansive... If you got a lot of bills to pay like an house, cars, etc... there's a reason why you go for cheap unhealty food...

5) Are you asking him/hers to be unhealthy skinny/unhealty muscular? Newsflash!!! Having those muscle mass that everyone want is actually unhealthy to get and to have. The problem that people developed are to the bone and join problem (arthritis) and the Aorta (Aortic Aneurysms).

6) For woman... You know what we told you when you were a kid... that the woman in the magazine aren't real and you shouldn't try to look like them if you got and specific body shape... Well same apply for the men. Now stop treating him like shit for not looking like the model you fantazise on that is heavily photoshop/modified.
Example : Jason momoa's plastic muscle... Look at him in Justice league and and notice how his muscle look like an plastic armor because of the computer modification. It's not even real and they did a poor job at it.

devilman666 · Answer

It would depend on the anount of weight gained, but I feel certain there is a point where I would go "this is ridiculous" and leave. With the way the question is framed the only other option would be to be willing to date a 400 lb person who can't even leave the house on their own. I'm simply not, I'd probably be okay with dating a 250 lb woman, but a 300+ pound woman starts getting questionable. I don't find fat rolls attractive at all, once it starts reaching near obesity I get turned off entirely. Such a relationship wouldn't work.

AlienParasite · Answer

I don't think that's a reason to break up. Everybody gains weight now and then, specially when ageging.

However, I have to say that if I were with someone who keeps gaining weight over and over again without doing anything to change it , it could reach a moment when even though I still like their personality and our friendship, I wouldn't feel sexually attracted anymore to that body, making me enjoy sex less or even feel uncomfortable and therefore affecting the relationship. But for that to happen the person would have to gain a lot of weight not just a bit.

MagiAlphaOne · Answer

Only after they refused to lose weight. Each person has a limit on what they will tolerate. To quote Clint Eastwood, "A Man's Got to Know his Limitations."
My wife and I are on diets and losing the weight. As you get older, you health becomes more important. It is completely fair to say, "If you cannot take care of yourself, how can you take care of your family, or me?"
All of this can be dealt with up front. Both Men and Women have to agree on finances, religion, health, etc.

Further, if a Man is healthy and fit, he is justified in wanting a healthy/fit girlfriend/wife. Same goes for debt and finances.

redpanda_ · Answer

My ex dumped me cause I lost weight and started getting attention from other guys (to which I didn't respond to)😂

If I love someone, I love them. My partner was a bit bigger when we met (not massive) but has lost a lot of weight since knowing me. I loved him as he was, as he was super cuddly, but I'm glad he's still his super cuddly self despite being like 2 or 3 sizes smaller than he was before.

I'm not superficial, of course there has to be a little bit of an attractive look to them but I care more about what their interests are, their beliefs and personality.

Nik1hil · Answer

honestly, YES..
i will not lie...
as a partner.. you sign up.. your physical body to other one to worship.. and they have the right to choose..
apparently i like a little meat on bones.. there is more to grab..
but yeah.. i have a limit so do not cross that..

IT APPLIES TO ME TOO..
she can give me specific guideline..
to point where i am not allowed to eat spicy food i want..
maintain muscles as she likes..
dress like she finds me more attractive
behave like a men.. instead of a chimp i am..
and she can actually leave me.. if she find my dick size not good enough.. i do not want anyone compromising with what they want and adjusting with me...
as it will make them unhappy and our relationship a sad little tragic story..

BuchitaBuchys · Answer

I voted no, but that depends on 2 things.
- The amount of weight gained. I'm ok with "dad bods", I'm NOT ok with obesity.
- His willingness to lose the weight. If he's willing to drop it and become healthy, I'll stay as long as he's actively trying. But if he's ok with being fat and the risks associated with it forever, no thanks

Anonymous · Answer

Not women so much but men do break up over physical all the time but they just dont admit it even to themselves cuz it seems shallow. I find they exaggerate other problems and break up for those reasons but really it was the physical all along. Ao its not surprising how many men said they wouldn't.

Fitness-Fanatic · Answer

Not if I loved him. When I fall in love with a guy , only his changed behaviour towards me, or infidelity , could cause me to end the relationship. Some people gain weight because of a medical illness, so they can't help putting on extra weight. So I'd still stay with him, regardless of the reason why he gained weight

Anonymous · Answer

My ex gained over 100lbs and I tolerated it. Then blamed the lack of sex on me, when she new it was a huge turnoff. Even asked me why I didn't pick her up and fuck her against the wall like I used to, accused me of having ED, all that shit.

I look at it this way now: if she doesn't give a shit, why should I? You know I don't like fat women, but you let yourself get fat anyway, which proves that you don't give a damn about keeping me happy. So why should care about your happiness? I'll go find someone who cares, and we'll both be happy. You go find a chubby-chaser, and you'll both be happy. Everybody wins!

djmzes · Answer

Simple Another truth: your beauty will fade away one day... Whether you like it or not.

gingemini · Answer

Well If he gained so much weight that he ended up looking like one of those giant workout balls, I'm not sure If I'd dump him, but If he didn't try to get back into shape, I might eventually break up with him.
Because think about it, an important factor in most relationships is sex. And with that much weight it would be reallt hard to have sex and plus it's just not what I'm into, so he probably wouldn't be attractive to me anymore. However, that doesn't mean I would stop loving him as a person.

Melodie_Flowers · Answer

No!!
I'd help them to lose weight, and help my partner figure out why the weight gain. It's uaually due to stress, or medication, even genetics! So I'd be more than willing to help my S/O out with meal plans, exercising and we could both persue a healthier, active lifestyle, while monitoring their weight and making sure it's lost in a healthy way.

If I love my s/o i'm not breaking up with them just bec some extra chub. That's an awful thing to do!!

whitneybarbosa1 · Answer

No I would never. I would definitely talk to them about it though, because something could be going on you don’t know about. When I was about 14 I went into a really bad depression after my mother relapsed and I gained weight, but worked on getting healthy and losing that weight after my friends confronted me about it.

v851234 · Answer

It depends really, if we are talking a small weight gain, no, but if we are talking a massive change, physical attraction is a thug for most people, and I do have a limit on what size I find attractive, someone doubling their body weight may be past the limit for most people for example, in which case I may say yes.

FinalVow · Answer

Depends. if it was out of there control (medication, genetic) then whatever. but if they could control it and didn't then it shows they don't have a lot of self respect then maybe. before everyone loses there minds over this know that I have to many things to do than reply to rude crap so I will just block or report or both

PeterB1517 · Answer

If I don't want to fuck them anymore because their ass is huge, their legs got cellulite rings on them, and their stomach has got this pound of fat rolling down top of pants, then "Bye!" I'll use the experience I got with you to find someone younger and better looking.

Sociopathvictim · Answer

if she gained the weight in her breasts, hell no.
But if she gained weight and turned into a pear, id consider it. She needs to be who she is at all times unless there is a medical illness or pregnant.
Im not going to be a man who sits on the sofa with a fat belly.

animelover14 · Answer

No, that's a shallow and cheap move to do. However, I do prefer a guy who is healthy but if he gained weight then I wouldn't care as long as he does something about it. People's weight is constantly in a state of flux.

SmileyInk · Answer

No of course not, peoples weight goes up and down through out their lives, of course if they start getting unhealthy overweight, then I will intervene and give them all the love and support they need to get back into better shape!

Anonymous · Answer

Well of course no. But now that she's my ex for two months and gaining weight CRAZILY... then i am very cheerful rn coz bitch i was the better man for you. I would accept her the way she was but she didn't want that. She literally had no ass, flat. I rejected the most popular girl in our school just for her... not just popular... FLAWLESS BODY, BIG ROUND VERY JUICY BOOTY PERFECT SIZED BOOBS BLONDE GREEN EYES VERY BEAUTIFULLY THICK AND SHE IS TALL TOO OMG WHAT A LOSS... and i did that for what? To be dumped for my friend? Who was like my brother? She left me for him?😂😂 I'm so stupid letting many chances of many many other girls go just for One dumb lame bitch

Jamesguy901 · Answer

How much weight are we talking? I think people are thinking just a few tens of pounds maybe.. Which for most women, wouldn't be so terrible. But what about hundred (s) of pounds? How much is too much? Can you critically think about this person you love, and envision their lives a couple hundred, even 100 pounds heavier? Sex? Helping around the house/yard? Sleeping together? Managing children physically? It's not just about how they look, it's also practical.

MissRosette · Answer

What can of a girlfriend I'd be if I breakup with my boyfriend over this? We are humans not plastic or robots! It's normal for us to lose and gain weight.. I might be fat next year who knows!😐😐 people who breakup of silly things like that aren't worth the time thinking about them.😤

OnitheWanderer · Answer

Haha.. If you break up with your partner for such a trivial matter. Then you are a fool, shallow, close minded person and best believe they will find someone better than you.

Anonymous · Answer

No. More likely, I’d notice if their diet changed or something and figure out the cause of it subtly... if there wasn’t an obvious one, I might mention that I was worried about them and ask them if they had thought about getting tested for a thyroid issue or another medical issue that could lead to random weight fluctuation.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends. If they gained weight to the point where they're obese and refused to get my help or work out then maybe but even then i dont think I'd be able to leave them. But if their weight affects other things like them becoming lazy and unproductive then yeah maybe that would start becoming an issue.

kespethdude · Answer

Only a bully would break up with someone over their weight. If anyone is one of those bullies, do everyone a favor and delete yourself from the Internet. Note: I am not talking to the question asker here.

Jjpayne · Answer

It depends... On how much weight, I mean, overall no, but if we are talking wreckless weight gain, no concern for control, that might be a factor. But that's a very rare and exteme case of weight gain, let me show you hold on. But 99% of the time no.

PinkMichae · Answer

Never. My guy has gained like 20 lbs and so have I. We don't like it and work together to change things so we can get healthier again. But we love each other no matter what and still find each other sexy.

Therisinghero12 · Answer

First off depends on how much, if it’s an unhealthy amount maybe, I don’t want my significant others health problems on my back or barring me from the physical activities I enjoy, let alone if they have a heart attack or something. But I’d be understanding and try to help them nonetheless, and if it’s just a little I don’t see a problem

Lavinnykins · Answer

Started out as having a crush on a very thin guy over 10 years ago; he's now around 4 times the size he was and I've come to realise I'm in love with him. He's bigger and I have fallen in love with him instead of lusted after him.

macdaddy36 · Answer

My SO and i have had issues due to both weight gain and weight loss actually but what ultimately matters is there health and if there giving up on themselves at that point a seperation may be the only way to help them

Kurαȷ · Answer

I would first urge them to do something about their weight gain.
If they show no effort to change, then I would break up with them.

That being said, it would, of course, depend on the amount of weight gain and the reasons why it happened.

vishna · Answer

Only if they refused to eat healthy and try to lose the weight. I would ask them to work out with me and we'd eat together and be healthy together.

littlea7 · Answer

No. As aging happens and as life happens, weight gain will happen. It doesn't have to be like that necessarily, but its something that people can always work on. Not a deal breaker, especially as it gets more serious.

AquaBoo · Answer

If they gained a few pounds, no I would not. If they gained so much and it affected their everyday life and their health, they were unwilling to change but complained about it all the time. Yes. Yes I would.

Bruce_VVayne · Answer

No, never. I never had a girlfriend based on just their body.

mrkdvsn · Answer

From the beginning of our relationship, my wife has gained and lost substantial amounts of weight numerous times. But I lived through them all and we're still together.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

If a person broke up with their partner simply for gaining weight then that is shallow!

Tyme1313 · Answer

I would break up without thinking twice. I’m not going to end up cleaning someone’s ass on an episode of “my 600 pound life.” That’s he reason I would never date anyone overweight. 🙅‍♂️

TheBootyChest · Answer

No. I understand that people's bodies change over time. And it's unavoidable.  I might encourage that we both start exercising, but if she was adamant about not doing that, I might be concerned.

Jaded214 · Answer

No. If I felt like he was becoming unhealthy I would talk to him about it. Make suggestions about things we could do together to help with it. Breaking up would only be an option if he wasn't receptive to anything and didn't try.

Northern_star · Answer

you mean seripus weight gain, like pulling the pin of the fat grenade harddd?

Would you break up with a man that loses his well paid job an has to move back to his moms place when he is 35?

some would not, but 98% definitely would.

4pple · Answer

only if they keep gaining weight to the point that it's unhealthy, and keep ignoring me when I say that it's unhealthy and that they should be careful, otherwise no

AM-205 · Answer

In my personal opinion, that is one of the more silly things to break up for! If I had a Significant Other, I'd be head-over-heels for her, regardless of her weight!

nathanp97 · Answer

If she gained it through being lazy and over eating yes. Assuming she is more than a little bit overweight. I'm an active person, if you can't keep up I am going to be gone

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

If I still can. I'm a man... women have a way of digging their raptor claws in and keeping you around.

xTom98 · Answer

Ill give her chances to work on it and even help her, If she decides to keep on getting fatter then Ill break up 🤷

dragonslayer1516 · Answer

If you’re going to break up with someone just because they gained some weight the end you’re shallow

Kdude010 · Answer

If either one of you break up over weight gain, you weren't meant to be with e/ other. Real couples stick it out through the good and bad.

GlenTrez · Answer

It depends on the amount of weight they gain and the effort they put into trying to lose weight. I don't want to be with someone who loses interest in keeping their health up. If I'm still trying to be healthy so should my partner.

RationalMale · Answer

If your partner changes their looks or weight enough to stop being attractive, you're definitely in your rights to end things. We allow divorce for no reason at all, why would you have to stay with a girlfriend who cut her hair off or got fat?

Anonymous · Answer

If I notice that it is sudden then I would incourage him to see a doctor maybe he has health issues, but if it just that he is eating too much, well will have to use that energy of his in bedroom.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends. Some girls can gain some weight but still be attractive. Others let’s themselves go out of laziness and blame men for “fat shaming” when it’s their own fault.

I can’t stay in relationship with someone who doesn’t take care of their body. Some weight gain is inevitable with age. Although I’m still in excellent shape I’m not 24 and 6 percent bodyfat anymore. But I eat healthy six days a week and workout every day.

It all comes down to what’s realistic.

truthbeknown · Answer

Depends. If it became a disgusting amount and they didn't care and became entitled and lazy about it, yep, bye bye!

lexythelou22 · Answer

I wouldn't mind if he gained weight honestly. He's insanely thin and I'm chubby, the size difference just feels awkward sometimes 😂

Factshurt90 · Answer

Depends on how much.. I don’t mind a Buddha belly they are snugly🤷🏾‍♀️  I’ve dated one fit guy, one skinny, one fat.

Zenurus · Answer

How much, for what reason, would she do anything about it, could she take my input and how would her behavior and atiitude towards life and me change.  Depends on these factors.

DevikaButts95 · Answer

As long as they're not like 500 pounds and their face is still comfy to sit on, then I could never care. Lmao.

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