Would you break up with your partner if they gained weight?

[FabulousGirl010]

Yes

No

[happyhippo]

My partner gained weight through the period of our relationship and I don't think that's a reason to break up with someone. He's now trying to get back in shape, already lost 10 kg and dropped few percents of body fat.

[devilman666]

How much weight did he gain? If he gained an additional 100lbs would your answer have been different?

[Goodwifie]

No way.
My husband has gained a little bit of weight but it's not a good reason to leave him.

[devilman666]

So if he jumped from lets say 190lbs to 400lbs 2 years after you married him then you'd stay?

[Goodwifie]

@devilman666 it wouldn't happen because I love him enough to take care of him.

[devilman666]

The question was hypothetical.

[The_Psych_Student]

If I love someone, it's because I feel in love with what's inside not the outside. As long as that person is happy with themselves then I'm happy.

[RetroAlpha]

Hell no. What a stupid idea! You find a wonderful person to share your life with and just scrap all of that because of a health issue? Nope.

[ChurchOfIron]

Becoming fat is weakness. It shows lack of discipline, lack of an ability to commit--which is pretty bad for a relationship--outright laziness. It is not healthy, and it is not attractive. It is extremely unattractive, to me.

It's an addiction. An addiction which kills a hell of a lot more people than drugs, heart disease, diabetes, etc, etc. So, I'd treat it the same way. "Get help, or I'm gone."

Once the fat began to change her body's natural shape and morph her facial features, I would give her the ultimatum. Because yes. There are requirements in a relationship. It is a partnership. Two people bringing things to the other's life in order to make each other's lives better. That means there are requirements. Not beating the shit out of your partner, for instance. Not lazing around doing nothing. Not eating Cheetos on the couch, while your partner does all the work. And, keeping your body healthy and attractive. That's my requirement.

If she did not get herself back in health, I would leave. I work in fitness. I take care of my body. I'm not going to be with a slob with Cheeto dust in her cleavage, carrying a lighter and a spoon to boil sugar, salt, and fat in, then injecting into her sweaty armpits.

[somewheresomeway]

Notice how fat people try to do mental gymnastics to make themselves feel better. Some fat girls feel entitled to a athletic guy (like my old rolmmate) delusional. Others bully skinny people out of insecurity (like my old boss)

[Anonymous]

I did leave a woman once because of that. But I admit that a lot of thing need to go in consideration.

1) How much did she/he gain? If you freak out about 10 lbs you need psychological help ASAP.

2) Did you gain weight too? I see a lot of FAT biatch who weight more than me and act like i'm an fucking obese because I don't have a flat tummy or an 6 pact. Meanwhile these biatch are 1,75x my size... and I'm not fat but i'm not small either...

3) Is she/he willing to lose weight and how much? At least try to motivate your partner to lose weight.

4) Are you guys able to eat healthier? Newsflash eating healthy is expansive... If you got a lot of bills to pay like an house, cars, etc... there's a reason why you go for cheap unhealty food...

5) Are you asking him/hers to be unhealthy skinny/unhealty muscular? Newsflash!!! Having those muscle mass that everyone want is actually unhealthy to get and to have. The problem that people developed are to the bone and join problem (arthritis) and the Aorta (Aortic Aneurysms).

6) For woman... You know what we told you when you were a kid... that the woman in the magazine aren't real and you shouldn't try to look like them if you got and specific body shape... Well same apply for the men. Now stop treating him like shit for not looking like the model you fantazise on that is heavily photoshop/modified.
Example : Jason momoa's plastic muscle... Look at him in Justice league and and notice how his muscle look like an plastic armor because of the computer modification. It's not even real and they did a poor job at it.

[Poppykate]

Actually, I have halved my food bill by going healthy. There has always been a big push to eat fresh veggies, which is great. But snap frozen or canned veggies can work as well in a pinch, and is way better than fast food.

[Opinion Owner]

@Poppykate

Yeah well there's the overprice unhealthy and the under price unhealthy.

Also, eating veggie isn't enough to be consider healthy. Vegan and vegetarian spread a lot of myth about veggie = healthy. There's a lot of nutriment that veggie don't give that other food give. Vegan and vegetarian usually have problem with reparing body tissu and bone structure because of their alimentation. The human body absorb around half of the nutriment The Bean and lentille (Their secret weapon to not eat animal product) which are often overcook (damaged) and yield less nutriment than they actually have.

If you want the best alimentation take vegan recipe and add what they refuse to eat (dairy, meat, fish). Fish is actually a great meat if you do not abuse.

[Poppykate]

That is good advice. The reason I mentioned veggies, is that 80% of people aren’t eating enough veggies. I agree with the vegan/ vegetarian- I haven’t meet one that looks healthy. They always seem to be lacking something. I currently have a dietitian looking after my diet, after I got unwell recently, she has provided some excellent advice taking into account my food allergies.

[devilman666]

It would depend on the anount of weight gained, but I feel certain there is a point where I would go "this is ridiculous" and leave. With the way the question is framed the only other option would be to be willing to date a 400 lb person who can't even leave the house on their own. I'm simply not, I'd probably be okay with dating a 250 lb woman, but a 300+ pound woman starts getting questionable. I don't find fat rolls attractive at all, once it starts reaching near obesity I get turned off entirely. Such a relationship wouldn't work.

[AlienParasite]

I don't think that's a reason to break up. Everybody gains weight now and then, specially when ageging.

However, I have to say that if I were with someone who keeps gaining weight over and over again without doing anything to change it , it could reach a moment when even though I still like their personality and our friendship, I wouldn't feel sexually attracted anymore to that body, making me enjoy sex less or even feel uncomfortable and therefore affecting the relationship. But for that to happen the person would have to gain a lot of weight not just a bit.

[MagiAlphaOne]

Only after they refused to lose weight. Each person has a limit on what they will tolerate. To quote Clint Eastwood, "A Man's Got to Know his Limitations."
My wife and I are on diets and losing the weight. As you get older, you health becomes more important. It is completely fair to say, "If you cannot take care of yourself, how can you take care of your family, or me?"
All of this can be dealt with up front. Both Men and Women have to agree on finances, religion, health, etc.

Further, if a Man is healthy and fit, he is justified in wanting a healthy/fit girlfriend/wife. Same goes for debt and finances.

[redpanda_]

My ex dumped me cause I lost weight and started getting attention from other guys (to which I didn't respond to)😂

If I love someone, I love them. My partner was a bit bigger when we met (not massive) but has lost a lot of weight since knowing me. I loved him as he was, as he was super cuddly, but I'm glad he's still his super cuddly self despite being like 2 or 3 sizes smaller than he was before.

I'm not superficial, of course there has to be a little bit of an attractive look to them but I care more about what their interests are, their beliefs and personality.

[Nik1hil]

honestly, YES..
i will not lie...
as a partner.. you sign up.. your physical body to other one to worship.. and they have the right to choose..
apparently i like a little meat on bones.. there is more to grab..
but yeah.. i have a limit so do not cross that..

IT APPLIES TO ME TOO..
she can give me specific guideline..
to point where i am not allowed to eat spicy food i want..
maintain muscles as she likes..
dress like she finds me more attractive
behave like a men.. instead of a chimp i am..
and she can actually leave me.. if she find my dick size not good enough.. i do not want anyone compromising with what they want and adjusting with me...
as it will make them unhappy and our relationship a sad little tragic story..

[BuchitaBuchys]

I voted no, but that depends on 2 things.
- The amount of weight gained. I'm ok with "dad bods", I'm NOT ok with obesity.
- His willingness to lose the weight. If he's willing to drop it and become healthy, I'll stay as long as he's actively trying. But if he's ok with being fat and the risks associated with it forever, no thanks

[somewheresomeway]

This should be female MHO.

[BuchitaBuchys]

@somewheresomeway thanks

[Anonymous]

Not women so much but men do break up over physical all the time but they just dont admit it even to themselves cuz it seems shallow. I find they exaggerate other problems and break up for those reasons but really it was the physical all along. Ao its not surprising how many men said they wouldn't.

[Fitness-Fanatic]

Not if I loved him. When I fall in love with a guy , only his changed behaviour towards me, or infidelity , could cause me to end the relationship. Some people gain weight because of a medical illness, so they can't help putting on extra weight. So I'd still stay with him, regardless of the reason why he gained weight

[Anonymous]

My ex gained over 100lbs and I tolerated it. Then blamed the lack of sex on me, when she new it was a huge turnoff. Even asked me why I didn't pick her up and fuck her against the wall like I used to, accused me of having ED, all that shit.

I look at it this way now: if she doesn't give a shit, why should I? You know I don't like fat women, but you let yourself get fat anyway, which proves that you don't give a damn about keeping me happy. So why should care about your happiness? I'll go find someone who cares, and we'll both be happy. You go find a chubby-chaser, and you'll both be happy. Everybody wins!

[djmzes]

Simple
Another truth: your beauty will fade away one day... Whether you like it or not.

[gingemini]

Well If he gained so much weight that he ended up looking like one of those giant workout balls, I'm not sure If I'd dump him, but If he didn't try to get back into shape, I might eventually break up with him.
Because think about it, an important factor in most relationships is sex. And with that much weight it would be reallt hard to have sex and plus it's just not what I'm into, so he probably wouldn't be attractive to me anymore. However, that doesn't mean I would stop loving him as a person.

[Melodie_Flowers]

No!!
I'd help them to lose weight, and help my partner figure out why the weight gain. It's uaually due to stress, or medication, even genetics! So I'd be more than willing to help my S/O out with meal plans, exercising and we could both persue a healthier, active lifestyle, while monitoring their weight and making sure it's lost in a healthy way.

If I love my s/o i'm not breaking up with them just bec some extra chub. That's an awful thing to do!!

[whitneybarbosa1]

No I would never. I would definitely talk to them about it though, because something could be going on you don’t know about. When I was about 14 I went into a really bad depression after my mother relapsed and I gained weight, but worked on getting healthy and losing that weight after my friends confronted me about it.

[v851234]

It depends really, if we are talking a small weight gain, no, but if we are talking a massive change, physical attraction is a thug for most people, and I do have a limit on what size I find attractive, someone doubling their body weight may be past the limit for most people for example, in which case I may say yes.

[FinalVow]

Depends. if it was out of there control (medication, genetic) then whatever. but if they could control it and didn't then it shows they don't have a lot of self respect then maybe. before everyone loses there minds over this know that I have to many things to do than reply to rude crap so I will just block or report or both

[PeterB1517]

If I don't want to fuck them anymore because their ass is huge, their legs got cellulite rings on them, and their stomach has got this pound of fat rolling down top of pants, then "Bye!" I'll use the experience I got with you to find someone younger and better looking.

[Sociopathvictim]

if she gained the weight in her breasts, hell no.
But if she gained weight and turned into a pear, id consider it. She needs to be who she is at all times unless there is a medical illness or pregnant.
Im not going to be a man who sits on the sofa with a fat belly.

[animelover14]

No, that's a shallow and cheap move to do. However, I do prefer a guy who is healthy but if he gained weight then I wouldn't care as long as he does something about it. People's weight is constantly in a state of flux.

[devilman666]

"As long as he does something about it" alright, so what if you married a man at 170lbs but two years later he weighed 370 lbs and didn't care to even try to lose weight at all?

[howarth2469]

Yo devilman shut the fuck up with your stupid ass comments some people ain't as shallow as you are fucking cunt

[devilman666]

@howarth2469 someones a white knight. Good job shutting down the conversation instead of making a point.

[howarth2469]

Devilman i made a point that people like you are shallow if you truly love someone u dont care how they look clearly your just a dick

[devilman666]

@howarth2469 that's not making a point, that's just you labelling me. You didn't argue or promote anything, just labelled me as shallow and called me names lol.

[howarth2469]

Ye but your promoting that love should be based off of looks and for the majority thats not how it is and its nice ur tryna flip it on me but mate u been called out

[devilman666]

I don't think I was doing that. You're putting words in my mouth. I actually was trying to make a point, my point being that most people do have a maximum size they will deal with in a partner, most people simply won't do everything for a partner who is so obese they can't even leave the house (people that obese exist). I'm not trying to flip anything, I was simply saying that you have said nothing of value to me.

[howarth2469]

You have said nothing of value to me either thats a thing called opinions i get what your saying but you dont know when it comes to love my friend

[devilman666]

@howarth2469 I meant what I said you not saying anything of value objectively not subjectively. As in you came in and simply labelled and name called, which is objectively useless and does nothing to build communication. I may as well have come in and called you a worthless libtard (for the record I view myself as liberal). Until your comment where you put words in my mouth you didn't make any point, you just tried to end the discussion by calling me a shallow cunt and telling me to shut up. Whatever though, I'm not wasting my time with you if you won't engage in civil discussion.

Yeah, I said most people. There are obviously people willing, are you trying to imply the majority of people are willing to date a 400 pound person? Or that if someone gets fat after you start dating them are you then just stuck with them for life?

[devilman666]

@howarth2469 yup. I'm done talking to you. You are worthless to this conversation in every way possible, I tried to have an open and inviting discussion, but fuck that. You're just a retarded piece of shit who still sucks on his mothers tit and lives off his parents income, on top of that you're a libtard sheep who just does as he's told and doesn't question things.

[howarth2469]

😂😂😂😂 hahahaha made you mad bro where is your calm thought you were a dominant man not very dominant now your more of a bitch calling me a libtard sheep mate i question everything and again you suck on your dads dick for money like your girlfriend does your one of these guys who watch like one thing on a subject and you instantly know everything about it dominant 🤣🤣🤣🤣 more like a 22 year old bitch

[howarth2469]

Also retarded do you know the meaning of such disgusting language as this

[devilman666]

I thought you would understand that I was just mimicking your approach to the conversation. Guess you really are brain dead though.

Here, I'll just make it easy for you since idgaf. I'm a beta bitch who don't know what retarded means and yes, my dad's penis tastes amazing. Why would I have a girlfriend when I have my dad's penis? Harr harr so funny.

[howarth2469]

I don't know your a 22 year old introvert mate im 17 and i have better and more views on this world than you could imagine ok i have a lot of extreme theories and ideas but one thing i do know is you need to open your mind a little my friend like your attempts at roasting me have fallen short

[devilman666]

Sure.

[howarth2469]

I do i checked you out your opinions are petty you need to expand your train of thought where u from exactly

[devilman666]

Now you want conversation? why the hell should I indulge you and waste my time? I'm trying not to assume you're a troll, otherwise I would just stop responding entirely. All you've done is label me, shut down conversation, and acted smart. "More views on this world than you could imagine" "I have a lot of extreme theories and ideas" so you're a terrorist?
"Attempts at roasting me have fallen short" not as short as you are. Again though, I wasn't making an attempt to roast you, just trying to show you how pointless it was to get all triggered and resort to name calling.

[howarth2469]

😂😂😂😂 get triggered says you also not a terrorist more like views that average people and yes men like yourself wouldent agree with also i ain't looking for a conversation just like confusing people and on the acting smart part again says you if you look into your replys you act like your a fountain of knowledge must be a shitty fountain if that's the case

[devilman666]

Again you said nothing about my arguments or beliefs, you just lavelled them shitty. Why is it shallow for me to refuse to date someone who no longer fits my standards or my beliefs? If I date an atheist woman and she converts to a religion is it shallow to leave over that? Give me some reasoning instead of saying all this bullshit nonsense? You're jot looking for a conversation though and you just want to confuse me? In that case I won't bother telling you where I'm from, I'll just stop replying as you seemingly admit to being a troll. You have no desire to talk, just waste time and make fun of people.

[howarth2469]

Um did i say you in particular you were stating on peoples comments constantly wouldnu date someone who gains weight its there fucking opinion you dumb twat if u got a serious problem we can sort it you get me but if u ain't got owt intresting to say then shut your fucking mouth dont try and slate fat people cos u see them with women while u bang on about that u were still a virgin at 22 if there fat but there happy then you have no reason to question there partners love if she or he is happy with there partners weight then who are you to say any different explain to me what makes you so qualified to try and change someone thoughts about love your one of them people who needs a good fucking hiding

[devilman666]

It's called starting converstion. I saw women saying things that I don't feel are true. I feel like no one wants to say they wouldn't refuse a 400lb person for the rest of their life, but I honestly believe most people don't want such a thing.

Why are you bringing my personal life into this? My status as a virgin has nothing to do with the weight of other people, though my own weight could certainly be argued as a fault of mine. My status as a virgin is over my life choices and have nothing to do with the discussion, you're just trying to roast me to avoid making a point. We can sort it out? Are you threatening to fight me online? I though the internet was finally past that.

[devilman666]

Nothing makes me qualified to do anything, I'm sometimes surprised I'm qualified to work and continue living. I just have an opinion and wanted to start honest conversation with others, I'm not against changing my position if I'm shown to be wrong, unfortunately there is no right and wrong here, just preference and shame. So if I am not as open as you are to dating overweight people then I'm a bigot. I think you refusing to date married people is whats really bigoted though honestly.

[devilman666]

Wants to say they would refuse to support a 400lb person for the rest of their life.*

[howarth2469]

When did i say i wouldent date married people the fuck u on about you have run out of things to say my good old 22 year old dominant introvert

[devilman666]

Are you saying you would date a married woman? Your insults are as weak as you are and your roast is getting repetitive, you tiny dicked weak ass loner

[devilman666]

I can go through your posts too faggot.

[howarth2469]

I know you can 😂😂 go ahead i ain't bothered you just confused me with the married woman question where did that come from like your so random also i ain't a homosexual i am straight depressed and have a average size penis thats pretty much all my post summed up so go ahead come up with something new to try and insult me cos you have some nice juicy posts mr dominant also im not weak first of all i can dead lift my bodyweight so nice try also calling my insults weak yet after you said that sentence you tried to roast me again like bro stop you can't insult me your to busy being dominant and worrying about fucking girls at partys 👍👍👍👍

[devilman666]

@Howat yeah, I gave up on converation and decided confusing people seems like fun. I also dont care about the insults, if anything I like being called dominant and idgaf about the rest since they're labels I use on myself all the time.

To be honest I don't care for insults, I responded because I was annoyed that you were trying to read into me so much.

Sorry to hear that you're depressed, I've been there. I'd think about saying something nice, but I don't want to seem like I'm trying to be a fountain of knowledge.

[howarth2469]

Yes depression is not nice but im looking into you because i wanna know the person whos arguing with me you seem very self aware of your looks buddy and your weight but i ain't gonna insult you in that department because for some people thats a very depressing subject however but you fell for my trap to get you angry a sign of anger is a sign of one persons loss in a battle

[devilman666]

You could just ask me about myself. I'm trying to open up honest converstion with anyone who wants to actually talk. I don't care if you insult my weight or looks, it wouldn't be anything new anyways. Nice trap, I don't see how feeling a particular emotion means the person loses, but if so you went into it angry so I win by default?

[howarth2469]

Thats the trap my good sir i wasent angry i was simply lighting the match for a aggresive you to jump in simple

[devilman666]

And you assume I was angry? Like I said, annoyed you went digging for things to make fun of, it seems useless and childish. You seem to love assuming things about people.

[animelover14]

@devilman666 It would be a concern for me. If his increasing size affects his overall productivity towards our marriage then I may leave him. Although, I'm not married and I would not know if this is how I would feel when I actually do get married in the future.

[devilman666]

@animelover14 fair enough. Can you really call it shallow to leave a partner over their weight then? when you might do the same just under different circumstances?

[animelover14]

@devilman666 I would only call it shallow if you leave your partner just because of their weight alone and nothing else.

[animelover14]

By the way, I found your argument with the other guy to be quite amusing to read. I came back to this site after a few hours and found about 26 notifications from this.

[devilman666]

@animelover14 I still don't quite think I would agree, what if you aren't sexually attracted to obese people? What if obesity is a natural turn off for you? I agree that leaving someone over temporarily gaining a little weight would be shallow, but I don't see why everyone needs to be okay with the partner doubling or tripling in mass simply because they're already dating the person.

[devilman666]

Yeah, it was quite lengthy, sorry for spamming your inbox lol

[animelover14]

@devilman666 Haha, no worries. ^^

Perhaps their partners are doubling and tripling in mass due to other reasons besides letting themselves go. They might be overweight due to genetics, thyroid issues or even stress.

[devilman666]

I'd like to point out here that I find it shallow to leave a partner for a medical condition, but I meant more like a partner who could keep themselves in shape and then decided not to.

I wouldn't leave a partner over genetics, stress, or thyroid issues. Maybe if other things were going on, but not because of weight tied to a medical issue. Though I will argue that if the two partners aren't compatible anymore then it might be better for both to find people who are more compatible. I know weight can seem shallow, but it can be important in sexual health which is a vital part of a healthy relationship as well as personal health.

[howarth2469]

Like you would know mr dom

[devilman666]

@howarth2469 was that comment directed at the fact that I am a virgin and thus can't know about sexual health or parts of a relationship? That's what it sounds like but you didn't give any context.

[howarth2469]

Na just saying it lol