As long as her basic person has not changed, she is not killing herself medically, and keeps a tiny waist then it is doable from a visual and emotional standpoint. Let's be honest, unless one lives in a cave, there are both professional and friendship, both verbal and non-verbal, reflected outcomes. Professionals think it and friends, Wal-Mart, and Construction guys say it... So let's get honest with the rest of one's life effects.
Friends (He/She) comments would be, "she/he sure has let herself go, what have you done to depress him/her, she a milk Squirter now?, if you need some chains to wrap around the fridge to lock it down... or remote lock release or set to timer, and Camera monitoring then let me know", does he/she float or sinks, car rock getting in and out?" Not even going to C. Worker and the Wal-Mart
If a guy is smart and nice - he could be very chubby or obese and I would stay but if he is severely and morbidly obese then I might reconsider things. I would also leave if he smelled bad from being fat or if his face looked disfigured from obesity.
I know someone and he was married for 24 years, then she died. She weighed 130 pounds when they first got married. 12 years later she became ill. When she died she weighed 33O pounds. He stayed with her until the end.
My husband is chunky even though he goes to the gym, i still love his chunky self. Plus he's squishy and keeps me warm at night... like a toaster.. until you gotta turn the toaster off cause it's too hot and you feel like you're fire. Then you're sitting there in your sleep thinking "omgosh, did I leave the oven on? Is there actually a fire!" Then you wake up and realize it's just your husband the whole time lol 😆 🤣
firstly, I would never be in a long term relationship with a guy for over 5 years. Secondly, I would never marry someone who is only with me when I look good but disappear when I suddenly look bad. I won't look the way I look right now forever. I can gain 30 pounds after birthing 4 kids. I might have lost my figure. But I expect my husband to still be there. So no, gaining weight is not a valid excuse to divorce someone.
At some point, YOU will also gain weight and sag and look like a grandpa. do you want me to divorce you when you look like that?
depends on the reasons why but a LOT of weight is unhealthy, and there is no good reasons to gain so much weight and also no healthy ways to gain so much weight
so I would just not let them reach that point, we would address the issue together before it becomes a problem... but we are talking about a LOT!!! of weight not just a couple of kilos, which is the most natural thing for pretty much anybody around
I would never fast shame them or give any ultimatums, however i would push them and hopefully they would do the same to stay active and healthy so that my life partner doesn't let it life together go to waste. By this i mean being too unhealthy to travel or get around good or make us did it savings cutting the roof off and hitting a crane to get her outside the house. In that case you've gone and took it too far.
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For sure. All it shows me is that they’re comfortable with me and they know that I love them for who they are, not just their body. Over time we can make a fitness plan to avoid becoming overweight. I would only leave my partner if over time they became morbidly obese and refused to get off their butt and do something about it. I don’t want to get steam rolled in my sleep 😵💫
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I’ve dated fat women and skinny women and I’ve dated less attractive women and women who were so hot they were scary.
Don’t get me wrong I’d never date someone who disgusting to look at but being fat is hardly a deal breaker so yeah starting skinny and getting fat ain’t that big of a deal to me
Depending on how fat they get, sure. But also when you get so fat you can't even walk, then that means you're not my love anymore, you're a rock who's gonna grab me by whatever fabric and say "Staaaay" scarin' the bejesus outta me.
Women have children and men change jobs and get fat. My wife has gone from chubby to skinny to pregnant to skinny etc... I got fat once. We are still together. If you think bodies don't sag you are in for a rude awakening. Not everyone can work out hold down a job and raise kids and look good.
If they just started gaining weight I would want to know why and see if we can both take some accountability with it and BOTH work on our health. Make a plan for now and in the future so it doesn't get out of hand.
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