If your partner gained weight would you a) leave them, b) threaten to leave them, c) help them get back into shape, or d) cheat but stay with them?

[Anonymous]

I'm not fat, I run 5 kms daily. But I am tired of posts on this site about people being "lazy" if they gain weight. There are a lot of reasons why someone can become fat and it has nothing to do with being lazy (people that say laziness are typical nasty, ignorant & uneducated).

KNOWN reasons include:

~ Medication can cause weight gain, in fact it's extremely common for certain medicine
~ Mental health issues - depression, insomnia, etc. can be cause for weight gain
~ Medical issues such as hypothyroidism is very typical in causing weight gain issues
~ Serious injuries that handicap mobility (e. g. broken legs) can cause weight gain
~ Poor diet overly processed but cheaper products can obviously cause weight gain

Plenty of reasons that involve weight gain without being lazy.

Leave Them

Threaten to Leave Them if Don't Lose Weight

Help Them Get back into Shape

Cheat but Stay - being fat means they can't find anyone else, perfect "doormat"

[Little_Bumblebee]

Depending on how much and how fast it happens, I would worry about whether or not something is going on with them.
They might be struggling with something, or it could be medical etc.

I would want to help them either way.
Ans it's easier for me to be healthy and work out when I'm not alone in it, so it would be win-win

I struggle with my weight and have done so for most of my life, especially some mental things ha dmade it difficult as well.

So I don't want to judge others if it's just a little weight gain. But it could be a symptom of something, and that's important to consider.

[Haha456]

someone who truly loves you for who you are will be determined to get you back into shape for your own health's sake rather than to fulfill their sexual pleasure. But truth is, very few people understand what true love means.

If you know your spouse will dump you once your looks fade, you need to get rid of them. Thats not true love.

[Drumlin2001]

My OH has a history of being much bigger, when I met her she'd lost a lot of weight. Since we've been together we've had 2 kids and she's gained lot of weight. Dosent bother me. She has spoken about wanting to lose the weight for her health, I'll support her

[Guy13]

Invest all of myself into her with gym, diet, and overall lifestyle change with the hope that, “I only want a life with you.” resonates.

If for no other reason than to not be emotionally susceptible to the girl running her game on me, etc…

[Anonymous]

Where’s option e? Stay with them regardless.


I’ve only had one partner point out my weight when I was fat, and now I’d say I’m more average.


My last ex, I really liked him, gained a bit of a tummy. I figured it was because we both ate together a lot, and mostly hung out indoors watching TV and playing video games. He would ALWAYS point out his little tummy, but I loved it. It didn’t take away from him as a person or my then-bf, I still liked him a lot. They say people in relationships gain happy weight from eating out with their SO.


I’ve also dated other partners heavier than me. I don’t think it’s a turn off and worth pestering them about, unless it becomes a health hazard. Which it never has been.

[Opinion Owner]

Also before anyone takes anything I said out of context. Idc about weight, and I go to the gym 5 days a week.

[ShiftingMonke]

I was hoping for that option too.

[godfatherfan]

Anyone that would do 3 of your 4 choices are pieces of shit that should never be in a relationship. You can talk to them, but ultimately, you just accept them for who they are. Anything else, you should leave because your a true POS.

[Katie1964]

I would talk to him about it and try to find out the cause. Then, we would work on the cause together. I would not leave him, threaten to leave him, cheat on him or force him to do anything he didn't want to do himself.

[Astarlessnightsky]

E) Just accept it, there is more to life and a healthy relationship, its not just some numbers on the scale.

[Anonymous]

Guys - here's a little tip for you. If you really care about, and love your girlfriend, you stay and actively help her back into shape. When you do this, she will be so fucking in love with you because you helped her, she'll make you feel a God. Or, she'll dump you for someone who's in better shape than you are. LOL

[Ninania]

Continue loving and supporting them as the wonderful person they are. I care more about their mental health and self worth than whatever changes occur to them physically.

[Pyrofox]

If it was me I'd do C, but make it clear I'm gonna push them and myself for every ounce of excess food we both eat XD.

[AdithyaR]

All of those options are horrible, I'm doing none of those. I stay cause I love the person not their weight. If they gain weight so what? There's more of them to love now. I'd be totally fine with it.

[genericname85]

C but only up to a reasonable effort. if that fails, then A.

[LimitedBenefits101]

Leave and find a new fish.

As they say there are plenty of fish in the sea

[ParaAustral]

I don't care, if I love them I will stay. Only reason weight would bother me is because of health reasons.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

C) let's beat this together

[Babygirl_S]

Voted C.

[ShiftingMonke]

As if Henry Cavill will ever not be in perfect shape.. 😂

[Babygirl_S]

@ShiftingMonke As if Henry Cavill is my partner 💔😭

[ShiftingMonke]

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