No. That's part of life. Anybody who thinks it's not needs to wake up to the real world. I will not leave a person because he gained weight. A person has to find it within themselves whether or not they want to be healthy or not. And that is if they are able to do so at all. A lot of people have problems. And it's not meant for other people to just run because they can't handle everything. Now if they know they can't handle it then it's best they don't get in it. All it says is that you only with a person because you're selfish. Then if something happened to you, and God forbid and no amount of exercise diet, or anything helps, then what? A lot of people have this problem because other people too busy judging another person's body. We don't always know why a person gain weight. Sometimes you can do nothing and still gain weight. You can do nothing and still lose weight. That's what happened to me. Anybody who wants to shame your body because you're not able to do certain things, or people who have problems. Most people would like to slim down or least get to a healthier weight so that way they can feel better when it comes down to health and nutrition. But a lot of people's problems with self-esteem has to do with how others treat them.
That's just asinine if your in a commited relationship, marriage, etc. There's going to be changes as time goes by especially when the years go by. It's called growing old with one another. Your hair might change , weight possibly, health, so many things will come up but stay strong and true. If something comes up communicate, love one another. Don't be insecure & immature. Just my opinion ✌️
2. What is her reason for gaining weight? Did she get on prescriptions and it impacted her metabolism? Is she eating out of depression? Or did she just get complacent and lazy?
3. What is her attitude about being heavier? Is she trying to use “fat acceptance” and “every body is beautiful” woke bs to try to shame me for (naturally) feeling less attracted to her? Or is she frustrated and looking for motivation/help in getting back in shape? Is ready to face the hard truth that she needs to make some life changes?
It really depends on her attitude about it. Being overweight is not just about looks it’s about health. Morbidly obese people will have severe health complications and live shorter lives. That’s just an immutable fact.
I take care of my body health and appearance. I would appreciate and am more attracted to my partner if she does the same. If she does gain weight, I would hope that she's willing to try her best to lose it.
Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you can stop trying. It doesn't mean we're shallow either and will leave you as soon as you get fat. We build emotional connections with our partner. But we also don't want to be physically unattracted to our partner.
The answer isn't a simple yes or no. It's based on a few factors. How much weight is it? Is she willing to try to lose the weight if I mention it? How seriously does she take her workouts? Does she give up and say screw off if she sees no results in a few weeks of effort? Etc.
I stay open with my wife, and her with me about how we feel about each other, how we change, and those feelings with that. If she put on a lot of weight and I did not, I'd tell her to work that shit off by running, swimming, dieting, whatever she has to do, but I'm not finding her physically attractive anymore, and that's a problem.
Same goes in reverse if I became a fat ass while she's still looking sexy. I mean, we've talked about acceptable and unacceptable stuff far beyond that, but weight is something you can fix with some shoes, discipline, and road. If it was both of us consider if we think it's acceptable to both be disgusting slobs settling on each other, or more simply push each other to work out. The exception there is pregnancy, because while she's carrying my child and breast feeding she's sexy no matter how much her weight is fluctuating through that.
I'm talking morbid obesity, not getting a little softer and squishier.
No Ofcours body shape is one of attraction aspects but it is not the main reason , there is personlaity which is not changable.. Do i love her just because her body? Of so this isn't love it is just attraction mixed with feelings of intimacy.. So i find the personality is the main thing and that doesn't mean that body and beauty not things to care of.
She loves me because i am kind , helpfull , do my best to show my love , care about her , consider her my soul.. When i get more weight she will not leave me only because of that.. Yes she will want me to lose it and get back my previous body shape and we will help each others to fix thtat. Gaining over weight is not good at all , stopping you from living your daily life as previous , health issues and low self esteem
I have done before. It wasn’t just a bit of weight though, it was a lot. And she gained it because she was lazy.
She’d complain to me that she was gaining weight and how she wants to lose it, and then she’d order a 14” pizza and a 2l bottle of Pepsi to herself, every night.
Then when she said she wanted to lose it I was like “you know I could help you with a diet plan and we could go out and do some stuff together”, she’d just say that she couldn’t be bothered, that it’s too much effort, and that I should love her for her.
Eventually I just couldn’t get hard for her during sex at all. I was just completely turned off. And because she kept eating shit while complaining to me I just had to go.
On a wider level if people let go of themselves, become lazy, or give up on their lives, it's not attractive. And it is only so long before it starts seeping into the relationship and adversely affecting the other person. People who want to move forward in life need a partner that supports that. Not that just sits in front of the TV eating a tub of ice cream and watching Coronation Street, or indeed, BBC news.
Nope. I love chubby girls. I’d only be concerned if my gfs weight gain is because of something like depression. Than I’d try to help her depression, not necessarily the weight gain part since the weight gain could be rooted in binge eating from her depression. If that makes sense
Hell no guys really don't care if you gained a little weight and now you're chubby. But if you become obese like really obese and it's affecting your relationship and your overall health and probably his mental health for worrying about you I would say that's a problem.
No, but if she refused to lose it and it was becoming a health issue do to the volume of pounds already added, I'd dump her for not caring about her health, because I don't date stupid people.
The amount in that pic with the measuring tape wouldn't bother me and won't lead to disease/death.
Seeing ribs and pelvic bones would though, as would obesity, but I'd only dump her if she didn't care enough to fix it when she could.
Generally yes, at a certain point. For me, being attractive for each other is a respectful thing that I'm doing for my partner so i expect them to reciprocate. Of course I won't just ditch them. I will support them to stay attractive for me. But if they're not doing it, I'll leave.
3
0 Reply
Anonymous
(36-45)
+1 y
No, I wouldn't leave, and if there were only a few pounds, I'd probably hardly notice it (I prefer her to not be too skinny anyway). If anything more than that, then I'd probably wonder what's the reason for her weight gain in terms of health problems.
If we're talking about serious obesity, then I'd like her to rule out any health problems first, then (if no health problems) I'd like her to lose at least some of that weight.
Of course not. Depends on the guy and what he likes values the most in a relationship. If you have feelings for her and are emotionally connected, it would be very stupid to leave her just because she has gained some pounds. If that is an issue for the guy, then he should commit in helping her to stay in "good shape".
No I would not unless she needed to have the wall of her bedroom torn down and a crane so she could go to the hospital. Then I might rethink our relationship. But chances are if she gained 100 lbs it's because I talked her into growing a bigger ass.
I was talking to this one girl who got fatter and fatter everytime I saw her and she still looked as beautiful to me as the day we met but I that’s not because of her looks but because of the type of person she was it made me see her differently it doesn’t matter what she looked like I liked her not her body
I mean I liked her body her ass is super round and soft n her boobs she’s really curvy but you get the point I’m making here
Depends on the amount, and her willingness to do something about it when faced with the issue. The moment she determines that you'd never leave her no matter what is the moment to make her have a serious reality check, or look for a replacement.
I'd however encourage my girlfriend to lead a more healthy lifestyle, because obesity is a serious problem, and can lead to other health problems?
2
0 Reply
Anonymous
(18-24)
+1 y
I mean studies show that people tend to gain weight in healthier relationships. If you’re talking about a little bit of weight, that’s normal. If you’re saying obesity, I wouldn’t leave them but maybe encourage them to get back in shape. Mom bods and dad bods are common and shouldn't be shamed though, especially in a long term relationship
No I would not leave or over at at little extra weight it all depends what you call a little extra weight 50 pounds is a little extra weight 300 pounds is a lot of extra weight I would not leave her for blowing up to be 300 pounds if it was a medical problem but if she just sat there and stuffed her face and packed on 300 pounds on her ass I would Weaver it's self-inflicted I'm gone
When I was younger and hadn't invested much in a relationship I might have. My wife gained a lot during her two pregnancies. It took a while to lose it and she'll never get back to her young wife weight but it's good enough for me
When people realize that they married the person INSIDE of that spouse's body... the world would change. People are blind. They see what's on the surface but the real person is deeper inside. Everything is a test! The individual that dumps their partner for some physical"defect" is a shallow vile selfish piece of sh! t! Karma has no statute of limitations. Some of you reading this should be shaking in your boots...🤨 Something's coming for you...
If someone would, trust me they did you a favor. They obv don’t have feelings. You are just a toy. “Oh no this toy is better, let me get that one rather. “
I suspect some have more strict limits than others and is more important in your age group than mine. The reality is that people's weight fluctuates over the months and years depending on mood and lifestyle.
You gotta be a real dickface to do that, uf she got burned freddy krueger style and ended up in a wheelchair i promise all the girls would still hate her for having a man love her like i do"
Are we talking about a skinny girl that puts on a bit, or a chubby girl that puts on more or a very chubby girl that puts on more?
1
0 Reply
Anonymous
(36-45)
+1 y
If my partner chose not to address this issue once their weight began to escalate or either had no plan to alter their position, or made half-hearted attempts to avoid losing it over a period of time, then yes, I would leave. I myself to this standard as well. It's important that as a couple, partners make true efforts to maintain the health of their bond.
Not me if we have been together for a while, life happens and I would still be the same about her appearance from the beginning to that current period. 🌹
If she gain so much to the point where I had to literally take care of her, i would ask her to lose weight and if she didn't and started complaining or whatever than i simply leave
Depends on the amount and if she is willing to loose some weight if she is becoming unattractive to me. However I like my women a bit heavier than most guys anyway.
It depends how bad and what her attitude is. If she really wants to lose weight I would support her. If she lets herself go and doesn't care I would consider dumping her.
a bit of weight? No way in hell I'd leave any woman for just a bit of weight.
0
0 Reply
Anonymous
(36-45)
+1 y
That’s exactly why you should get married. Make him work for the breakup. If he can’t stand the extra pounds then he’s going to owe several years worth of his salary. Otherwise, he might just stick around.
Girl's Behavior 
Guy's Behavior 
Flirting 
Dating 
Relationships 
Fashion & Beauty 
Health & Fitness 
Marriage & Weddings 
Shopping & Gifts 
Technology & Internet 
Break Up & Divorce 
Education & Career 
Entertainment & Arts 
Family & Friends 
Food & Beverage 
Hobbies & Leisure 
Other 
Religion & Spirituality 
Society & Politics 
Sports 
Travel 
Trending & News 
+1 y
+1 y
