He dumped me and unfriended me on Facebook has he completely moved on?

[Anonymous]

He dumped me nearly two months ago. He immediately unfriended me on foursquare after the breakup and then unfriended me on Facebook about two weeks after the breakup. He also unfollowed my Facebook art page after I did not reply to an email message he sent me I blocked him on Facebook as well so maybe he saw that too I still do not know how he found my art page since I BLOCKED him. We had been messaging each other through email and I just did not want to continue talking with him because I felt like it was prolonging my progress with moving on from him. Despite him hinting that we could stay in contact through email if I wanted to. I said no and that I never keep in contact with my friends through email.

So he unfriends me on all of these places...has he moved on? I never did anything to really hurt this guy. But I kind of got a glimpse of the true person that he is. And I was shocked and surprised. I never knew he was a player but I found out soon enough when I had to get my hands a little dirty trying to get my things back.

[Supra9700]

Well not entirely. He may just be trying to get rid of anything that reminds him of you. The same way a person burns a picture, love letter, etc. to try and forget that person. It's not to say he has moved on completely. He's just trying to speed up the process by getting rid of all the connections he had with you.

[Asker]

I dunno. My gut feeling is telling me he is getting rid of me because he is already talking to/dating a new girl. He was acting very suspicious the week before our breakup. He was constantly glued to his phone and didn't want me near it. He became super protective of it. I've never in my life had any of my exes so readily delete me from their friends list on various social sites like he did. It just seems like he was eager to get rid of me. And when I tried to talk with him to try and work on

[Asker]

He turned everything on me and made me seem like that bad guy. That I wasn't appreciative of the things he did for me and how he just wouldn't have time for me. He didn't want to talk about it and just kept saying things like "why do I feel like the bad guy here?" despite him throwing insults at me and apparently blaming me for everything. And then at the end he said he's usually right about these things...Like he was convincing himself that he is right in whatever he is doing.

[Supra9700]

Well, then, you should move on too. He's nothing to lose, nothing to cry about. Honestly, you shouldn't be friends with him anymore. If someone treats you like s**t, they're not going to be there for you when you need them most.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, he's way moved on.

"I never did anything to really hurt this guy."

i think it's hilarious that you can type that, after you tell us how you blocked him and told him you didn't want to continue talking to him. Yeah, no way could that possibly hurt a guy...

[Asker]

You're saying this simply because you don't know the whole story. He was a real jerk to me. I left out a lot of details to make the story short. He acted as if I was an annoying fly buzzing around his ear. He unfriended me from ALL of these community sites I mean how quickly he did it made me think this dude really no longer wants anything to do with me. He then says he doesn't want to be friends right now but that I can email him if I wanted to? No he isn't being very nice. He's sending mixed

[Opinion Owner]

Doesn't matter to me that he was a jerk to you. I figured he was, or you guys wouldn't have broken up.

It's that you think you didn't hurt him, which was amusing. If it makes you feel any better, you hurt him.

[Asker]

messages. If he doesn't want to be friends...but is willing to stay in contact with me through email WTF does he want of me? Why does he feel the need to unfriend me from all of these community sites but is okay with email messaging? He doesn't contact ANYONE through email. I know because I use to be in his company when he checked his email. The only time he emailed anyone was his colleagues at work...and that was on his work email address. I'm not going to be tucked away as a simple email.

[Asker]

It doesn't make me feel better. And I honestly don't think I hurt him. I honestly think he could care less. After all he acts like I am such a pest. It probably didn't even dent his ego. I left the door for friendship open though. I told him that if ever he wants to get in contact with me again he knows where to find me. I wasn't as nasty as you think I was. I just simply said I wouldn't message him through email cause...I just DON'T I use Facebook to stay in touch with my friends he knows that

[natattack]

he probably unfriended you on everything so he wouldn't be tempted to creep on you're stuff and find out what you are up to. he might not be moved on already but he's obviously trying to.

[Asker]

I doubt it. I had a gut feeling that he was seeing someone else. His behavior was very suspicious the week before we broke up. He became super protective of his phone never wanted me near it and he was constantly texting on it. Plus he kept it on silent too. He accused me of being unappreciative and just all around made me out to be the bad guy when he broke up with me. Tried to talk with him about these things but he didn't want to and just kept blaming me for everything.

[natattack]

yeah that makes it sound like he just blocked you so you wouldn't find out that he was seeing someone else right away. sorry mustve missed that part.

[Asker]

He didn't block me. He just unfriended me from all of the social sites we were friends on. After exchanging a couple emails with him talking about why we couldn't be friends right now I decided to just block him all together on Facebook. After that he unfollowed my art page. I still don't know how he found my art page since I blocked him. I hadn't updated it in weeks and so it never showed up on the news feed. It doesn't matter anymore though, I don't need to be worried about this. He's not worth it.

[bassman]

Uhhh... Yeah! You know the answer!

[Asker]

Wow, you don't have to be a jerk about it. I'm still kind of hurt over all of this. I think he had a new chick backed up though. He was acting really suspicious the last week we were together.

[bassman]

Didn't mean to be a jerk.. which I'm not.. I''m just blunt.. wanted you to get the point.. minus me giving you a bunch of BS...

[Asker]

Well thanks for the brutal honesty. Its actually what I really need in order to move on. I've been doing great so far. It's been three weeks since I last had contact with him. I haven't been crying or anything since then so I'm doing a lot better. I have just been CONSTANTLY thinking about him so much to the point that he's in my dreams now. Every night I dream about him. Its really upsetting me and I don't know what to do to get him off my mind. That's why I asked this stupid question.

[bassman]

I wouldn't give this moron the time of day! why would you? if one of your girl friends treated you like this guy did.. would you care to talk to them again?

[bassman]

Learn from your mistakes... guys give signs of who they are early in a relationship...learn to pick up on these signs early..then you will be dumping them! Lot less hurt that way.

[Asker]

Yeah I have learned, trust me. I guess a small part of me wishes he'd just come crawling back to me saying that he was wrong and that he was stupid in breaking up with me...yadda yadda, yadda. Its just more of me wanting my ego boosted. I would never take him back, he hurt me far too much. But the chance of seeing him grovel at my feet I wouldn't pass up. I'm just being honest. haha.

[bassman]

he's gone forever... don't think twice about him... you're better off without him..there are a lot of really good guys out there.. Go find them!

[Asker]

Thanks. I know there are. I'll just have to be a bit more careful with who I choose to date next time.