Why would he unfriend me on Facebook, 4 days after we broke up?

[rejected_fred]

My boyfriend broke up with me randomly 4 days ago, after what seemed to be a good relationship. Now maybe he wasn't happy in the relationship, fine. And I was getting over him just fine. But today, I went onto my fb profile page and saw a birthday post from my ex. When I put my cursor over his name, it said "add friend". When you're friends with someone on fb, it doesn't say "add friend". When he broke up with me he said that he wanted to stay friends and said that I could call him if I needed someone to talk to. I wasn't about to talk to him any time soon as I needed to get past the break-up. But why would he unfriend me on fb? Especially when neither of us barely go on fb? Also, I'm pretty sure that he still has his former girlfriend on fb, who cheated on him with his best friend 3 years ago. Why would he delete me, but not her?

[byronbuckles]

It hurts, but it happens.

There can be a few reasons:

1. He wants to move on. For now (and for however long), he doesn't want a lot of reminders of you.

2. He thinks you will be hurt if you see him with someone else in pictures or posts or something.

3. He needs to cool off from the relationship for a while before he can friend you again. Time can allow you to be friends in the future, like he is with his ex.

4. He doesn't want to encourage you to try to get back together, so he's setting a boundary.

I realize it's awkward, especially when a couple breaks up and each goes a totally different way after the breakup.

[knowmeyourself]

This.

[TheDigitalSaint]

I delete all of my ex's from Facebook. If there was any reason for a girl to leave my life, she needs to leave all of it. That's my particular line of thinking, which includes Facebook. As for the ex-girlfriend, attraction and choices in love aren't always logical, otherwise he would have deleted her years ago or perhaps there are other extenuating circumstances that you are not aware of but that he never shared with you.

[NicoleA_XO]

I deleted my ex from Facebook a few months after we broke up. Not to be a bitch or because I was bitter, it was just to help me move on because I know now he's never coming back and seeing everything he's doing will only make it harder to move on. I'm still in love with him, I have nothing against him really, but I did delete him, just for my own selfish reason. Could have nothing to do with you honestly.

[BirdofParadise]

I always delete my exes... the less I know of them the better. He might have found himself checking out your profile all the time and decided that was enough and he deleted you to keep himself from looking. That's why I delete them, all the will power in the world isn't going to keep me from checking them out in a moment of weakness... but deleting them will!