My ex responds to my texts but doesn't initiate any.

[AntonioTea]

We are in our early 30's, we built a house together, we were engaged. She ended it saying I made her feel unattractive. She struggles with her weight, however her weight was never a concern to me as ar as her looks. My concern was purely with her health. When I say weight struggles she s overweight little not a lot, she would e considered chubby not fat. She did the typical lining someone up before leaving, and she lined up a guy who embodied everything she ever said she found unattractive in and on a guy. I'm good-looking and athletically built. He is skinny and not very good looking. Also in personality he is my opposite. I was very romantic wry her, even ordered bread from Paris and made a French meal for her on Valentine's day because that's her favorite city. Point missive always qoved and thought of her. 8 months have gone by Nd I made most of the mistakes trying to win her back. So I stopped contact for two months. Then her birthday arrived and I sent a simple Happy Birthday text. She responded fast. I have started texting her again once or twice a week she always responds but never initiates contact. I have been dating, but I know she is my heart. I believe she is still with the other guy. Any advice?

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Update, she has left her rebound, she still keeps responding to my texts, she even deactivated her facenook account and checked out my profile, then re deactivated. Yet she still doesn't initiate the contact. I should add I know she didn't want to end ourbrelationship, she felt she had to.

[embemm99]

The new guy she is dating... I use to do this its had to explain but this guy broke my heart and I'm an attractive, smart person so I would downgrade on purpose so I knew the guy would never leave me... he would pretty much idolise me. (Of coarse I never knew I was doing this it was a sub conscious decision I made to avoid getting hurt, I thought if I was the settler in the relation he would never leave me) - problem was I never got strong feelings for these guys, they were nice, good intentions but just didn't love them like that.

I have been broken up with and the one who broke up with them.. my advice is to avoid all the advice that says - play hard to get, keep busy, forget her your better than her.. its bullsh*t!

Meet up once! don't do this over text/email/Facebook! because firstly it gives them too much time to reply and you will not get a real reaction, second she will over analyse it and pin point where you went wrong

So meet up with her tell her how you feel but do NOT beg! Explain to her everything you have explained here... and get her reaction if she can honestly sit there and say she feels nothing then let her go, but it is easy for her to say she doesn't feel anything on text. This will put the ball in her court and if she wants you she will have to let you know! Say how you feel and then say "let me know if you still feel anything for me because its not fair on me I need to know if I need to move on from you"

** If you don't confront her now... it will be too late and you will ALWAYS wonder what if!

[AntonioTea]

Thank you. I'm one who believes relationships take effort, they don't magically mend or fray. She and I were more like a married couple then just dating, we both got comfy and both got boring due to the struggles of life. However I never thought the grass was greener I knew what and who I had. I believe she is doing what you said you do. I know her parents would be heart broken by this guy, who she probably is hiding from them. Thank you.

[tothebeach]

Forget her. I know it is hard. Sounds like she treated you well, if she didn't appreciate I am SURE someone will. As a girl I honestly find it SO hard not to sms someone I like or have a crush on etc, so I don't think it is a good sign that she's not initiating contact. Another way of looking at it is that maybe now isn''t your time. Let her go, don't waste your time right now thinking of her, maybe one day the time will be right, but that time won't come if you are moping around or chasing after her (though doesn't sound like you are).

[Xx_DRE_xX]

Move on man, it futile. Start over with a person who isn't damaged like her.

[Faye2011]

Don't think any negatively. You should talk to her. And fix your problem.

[AntonioTea]

I agree about talking, she just seems very guarded right now.

[winherback]

See if she does anything for you on your birthday.