My ex still replies to my texts and answers my calls?

So at first, my ex asked to break-up. I tried talking to him and we finally made up. But after that he was very cold toward me, so I figured he took me back because he was sorry.

I must admit that I still love him a lot. Sometimes, I would text him, he would only reply very short answers like Yes, No, OK. But when I call him, he would talk naturally, he would even update me about what he's been up to. But sometimes when I get emo and cry, he'd say "I'm sorry, I have something to do, I'll call you again." But he didn't call back.

I know I should let go, and I know I should move on. But I want to know, does he still care about me? Or does he just do all that because he felt sorry?

I forgot to mentioned that after he took me back and I felt that it's because he felt sorry, I told him that we should just break up and he said ok.


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  • Well, feeling sorry for you is a kind of caring, so the short answer is, "Yes. He still cares about you." BUT pity is NOT love and is not the basis for a full, healthy, loving relationship.

    He broke up with you. You tried to patch it. Didn't work. You still love him, you say, but I wonder if it's really love for him that keeps you initiating contact. Seems to me it's more likely that it's your weakened sense of self-worth reaching out to him, seeking scraps of affirmation from him to help you feel better about yourself in the here and now ("Oh! He texted back! Oh! He's talking to me!" "I must be a person worthy of love!") in the long-shot hope he'll change his mind and get back with you.

    You are trying not to fool yourself, and I commend you for it. You don't really want to, but you are correctly interpreting his silences and one-word texts as a message from him that he does NOT want either a romance with you or a close day-to-day friendship. He's sensitive enough to know you're vulnerable, so rather than getting nasty and dumping all over you, he's silent and hoping that you'll take the hint.

    Maybe his passive gentleness endears him to you even more, but fight that inclination. I know you don't want to, but TAKE THE HINT ALREADY and leave him be.

    Besides, you are love-worthy in your own right by virtue of your status as a human being, whether this particular guy loves you or not. You're demeaning yourself by groveling for his attention, and your insecurity-driven neediness probably strikes him as clingy and unattractive anyway. You're a WOMAN, for crying out loud! One of the most powerful forces of nature on this planet. Take a deep breath, stand up straight, square your shoulders, leave the nice guy's pity behind, and start moving through the world with a sense of strength. You'll be better for it, and so will your future romances.

    OK, pep talk over. Though it might have sounded glib and rah-rah, I meant every word of it. YeeHah! <--- note authentic cowboy talk; I'm a transplanted city slicker to rural Lakeside CA and have a horse to prove it!

    • It's really hard because I thought he was THE ONE. I know people may say I'm foolish for thinking so but that's what I have always believe in, since I first met him. I know he doesn't feel the same anymore and I know he has moved on. I am trying my very best not to contact him. Thank you.

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  • He just feels sorry or is being nice. Nothing he does demonstrates any emotions, other than just being a nice guy and politely responding to your conversations. The fact that he doesn't say or do anything to try and get you back despite that should tell you he's done.

  • Are you together now? Sound's like he's not really interested... crying Mrs, doesn't want to know

    • Oh I forgot to mentioned that after he took me back and I felt that it's because he felt sorry, I told him that we should just break up and he said ok.

    • Exactly, I'm sorry man, better to leave it

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