Am I overreacting concerning my boyfriend having inappropriate conversations with an ex girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

Recently while I was using my boyfriends phone I found an inappropriate texting conversation between him and an ex girlfriend of his. The texts involved him telling her about an intimate dream he had about her and also mentioning that when he gets money he wants to go visit her. I also found texts of him texting other girls saying he wanted to hang out with them and that he wishes to go see them sometime. I confronted him about the texts and he apologized and says he mostly texts these girls because he is just toying with them because he is insecure and needs the attention. I really try to give him all the attention in the world. I tell him how handsome he is, I cook for him, give him massages, and do tons of other things for him though I do not always get the same back. So its hard for me to accept his answer. Now when I see him texting I'm curious about who it is and if its some girl who he's saying he wants to see. For the most part I still trust him but to be honest I've lost a little trust when it comes to him texting. Am I overreacting when I am upset and hurt by his text messages? & what are some of the suggestions about what I should do?

[selfishstars]

Getting attention from and feeling desired by people feels good, but it doesn't give you a free pass to flirt or sext with other people when you're in a monogamous relationship. He's also making plans to meet up with these girls (whether or not he intends to follow through).

How would he feel if you were sending texts like this to other guys? Likely, he'd flip the f*** out and totally lose trust in you.

You need to explain to him that this kind of behavior is not acceptable and not something you're willing to put up with. There are no excuses for it. If the attention he gets from other girls is more important to him than his relationship with you and your feelings, then he isn't worth it and you should move on.

[JennaMaee]

I know you don't want to hear this..but I would not put up with that, id leave him..from what your saying it looks like you treat this guy like an angel and you don't get much back...and he still talked to other girls..hunny I think you deserve a little better...sorry if its not what you wanted to hear but good luck, hope it all turns out!

[JennaMaee]

P.s...You are not overreacting!

[Pedantic]

You could always go and get a more secure boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

He seems to have insecurity issues. It also seems that he doesn't appreciate you enough and feels that you're not enough for him. If I were you I would tell him to straighten up are break up with him. He is basically cheating on you.