I messed up with my girlfriend big time. How can I get her back?

[Jase95]

I was going through some things and made the mistake of not telling my girlfriend who is now my ex. I shut her out and ignored her, she had been really good to me, loved me and supported me. She had been calling me and texting me but I haven't responded. She didn't deserve to be treated that way. I needed space and should have told her not shut her out. Not sure what is going on in her mind but I guess she hates me for what I've done to her. I believe in talking about things I don't do the cut lose thing with no explanation, but somehow I got caught up in me and forgot about her feelings. How can I get her back?

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I called her last night and she won't answer her phone, won't respond to her text, won't respond to email, Facebook, Skype or her Yahoo messenger. Two days now and she won't respond to me. This is hurting me deep man!

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So what do I do now? 4 days and no response from my girl, this is hurting me. She's not seeing anyone else according to sources.

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My girl called me, it was very emotional for both of us. I thought that we were both too young to understand the meaning of love but I suppose it depends on the maturity of the individual. My friend told her that I was asking questions on some strange website and that she should check it out and apparently she did. A few people said that our relationship would not work out, she being black, me being white, us living very far apart. We both conquered that and always will.

[Bronzybrownchick]

Jase95: I don't know what advice I can give, guess I shouldn't really be answering your question then? Your young but seem like a smart guy. I can understand where your ex is coming from as this has happened to me recently, I was cut of by some guy when I showed him nothing but support, cared about him a lot too, couldn't think about seeing one else although I was constantly approach. In addition to my full time work, I took on a little part time job to save some money to help him out, and was going to surprise him with a airline ticket. For some unknown reason he just cut me off, no explanation whatsoever. Yet this is the guy that I encouraged and supported and cared for really deeply, call me naïve but I did believe most os the things he said to me, trusted him. I don't know how to trust anymore or believe what anyone says. It seemed like you had a good girlfriend but thought about self too much. If she cares about you too, I'm sure she will answer your calls. You obviously know that you had a good person and don't want to lose her. Give her a little time, and just leave her a message. Let her know how you feel. She'll read it and realize that you do care about her and didn't mean what you did. When you do get her back don't ever do it again, whatever the problem is talk to her, that's a mature way of dealing with things.

[Jase95]

Maam you seem like a nice lady, sorry about what happened to you. I didn't intend to do that to my ex, didn't intend to hurt her, but I have. My girlfriend black, I'm white but nice looking, and my ex she is real nice very pretty. Maam she is very smart and very caring. I've known her for a year met her on Facebook she just catch my eye. We spoke and then we met months later, her friends weren't happy. She's the second black girl I had the first was nasty and mean, but my ex was good real kind

[Bronzybrownchick]

Sorry that I scared you, that wasn't my intention. At the end of the day whatever decision you make is up to you, because people on this site give advice but then you'll find out that not everyone on here is 100%, they'll give advice but don't go by their own advice! And some people just shouldn't be advising others as they themselves cause problems for others. Go with your own instincts or speak to real people that can help you.

[Jase95]

Thanks for responding to my email, but bad of you to copy and paste it into an answer. But you did make me laugh, it was like that looks familiar and I realized what you did! Hey that's what I sent to you. I was kind of scared but it's from your own experience and you shared it with me so it's good. You were right about her reading my messages a source told me that had but I'm upset that she didn't respond. I heard that she seems sad too. Do you reckon that she still has feelings for me?

[Bronzybrownchick]

I believe she does, but who knows the minds of people? One minute a person can be nice and tell you nothing but sweet promises then the next minute you find yourself in the dark trying to comprehend many things.

Go with the mind and not your heart, if you follow your heart you will probably regret the mistakes you've made, you are a clever guy don't let anyone play with your emotions it can do a lot of harm to self.

[Jase95]

You're missed by all.

[eve1988]

Tell her that you are sorry ...but don't just tell her your sorry you have to show her to. Young girls are vary forgiving but thay are easy to hurt...but it will be okay if she still loves you she will sit down and talk to...NEVER make up or try to talk a problem out with a girl over the phone or on an email. To some girls that shows you could care less about there feelings.

[Jase95]

Eve, with some girls being easily hurt that all depends on the girls personality. My ex doesn't get upset easily but with what I've done to her, she is probably listening to her friend saying 'I told you so you shouldn't have gone out with a white boy'. I know what her friends are like.

[eve1988]

Well then that's her lost and your right YOUNG man it all depends on the girl.

[Bronzybrownchick]

See eve1988 is spot on and you are a smart guy.

[7gnat]

I agree with Whatsgoingon12. If you explain yourself and tell her that you will not shut her out again she may understand. Did you friend request me for help with this matter?

[Jase95]

I was adding people on from the activity feed, just need a variety of answers to decide what steps I should take. You were one of the people on the activity feed so I added you.

Man people don't answer your questions until you add them.

[Jase95]

Yeah I did friend everyone for help. I did try calling her again but she won't pick up, the girl must hate me. I shouldn't have done that to her. Man she was really good to me you know, listens to me, makes me laugh, always there for me, dated me even when her friends said stick to your own kind. Now look what I've done f***ed up a good relationship, I'm a stupid white dude!

[7gnat]

Fair enough. I will answer as many of your questions I see of yours and expect the same of my friends-adding you now

[7gnat]

Hey just be patient and text her that you were a fool to make that choice and will never take her for granted again. Tell her you love her and you were going through a hard time.

[Jase95]

I haven't reached the point were it's love so I can't lie and say that to her, but I do care about her deeply she means the world to me and I'll do anything for her. I hate her friends man! Why can't she make her own decisions! I'll text her later, I need to chill out play ball cause this is too much.

[7gnat]

Ok man but just don't push and hey think about this...maybe you do love her. From what you described that could be love but who knows

[Jase95]

I don't intend to push, but I will fight for her, when get a good girl the worst thing you can do is lose her. I know I was caught up in my own sh*t, but she didn't do anything, she's kind, caring, smart, pretty and she has a good heart. She use to listen to me go on without complaining and she use to give me good advice. You don't get qualities like that in girls nowadays do you? When I met her we clicked connected and all that sh*t. I wanted her to be my girl. Man this is deep.

[7gnat]

Just tell her all the stuff you are saying here. She may forgive you.

[Jase95]

Yeah I will, thanks man hope she will forgive I'll update tomorrow. And I will answer your questions peace man

[7gnat]

Good luck!

[7gnat]

Ok if you want her back listen. NO MORE. Let her have er space. You HAVE to or it will push her away. No calls or texts, no email NONE ok? I KNOW WHAT I AM SAYING. NONE ok?

[Jase95]

I think you are right man, I know deep down in my heart I love her, you know what my man? I was dating a bitch two years ago she was nasty as hell, it just so happened that after I went on Facebook I saw this hot girls profile, was just looking for fun I was bored. We became friends and as I got to know her I realized she was different, but man I didn't know that I'd fall in love with her. Her friends didn't want her to date a white dude but she had a mind of her own and I f***ed it up for us!

[7gnat]

Not yet you didn't. Just be patient and wait ok? You will be OK. If waiting 2 or 3 days doesn't work we will think of something.

[Jase95]

Thank you man thanks a lot, you and Whatsgoingon12 have been good and Eve1988. I read Bronzybrownchicks answer and I'm scared, I don't want to hurt my Ex like that man, I don't want to hurt her. I hope her feelings for me is stronger than her stupid friends advice, man my Ex always made me smile even when I was down. I can't do without her, I can't and it's killing me. Man I read all your questions but don't know where to start. You have lots man. Hey you went out with a black woman. Read your Q

[7gnat]

And you have not contacted her in the last 2 days? She will contact you soon many. Just give her space and a little bit more time. You will see. Please be patient

[Jase95]

No I have not and I'm losing my patience, it's getting to me and affecting me at school.

[Jase95]

You said go find another one tomorrow, pa I don't want to. I think I should text her tomorrow.

[7gnat]

I really believe in being just a bit more patient. She knows that you are wanting to call and or text her. Wait just a couple more days. You will see.

[Jase95]

Okay dad, I'll wait a few more days for her, the good news I hear that she isn't seeing anybody else and that she's seems a bit lost and really sad. I know from my sources that she really misses me.

[7gnat]

If that is true then waiting is the best thing to do and you will maybe get her back. Good

[Jase95]

Dad my friend said he told her that I was on her and that she was reading my questions she answered someone else question but was referring to me, she was an anonymous answer and gave two answers on there. Oh by the way Dad congratulations on your engagement and your gonna be a father? Your wife to be put out a question but I didn't get to answer it.

[7gnat]

That was a joke. I am not to be married and not engaged but thnx lol

[Jase95]

Lol Dad you got jokes :) It's like 5am in the morning and I am so excited late last night my girl called me. I was overwhelmed when I heard her sweet voice she said that she still cares about me and that when you love someone you don't just give up on them she didn't give up on me, well I don't cry never and have done, but she made me cry over the phone, it sounded like she was crying too. I thought she would listen to her friends but she didn't. Man I can't believe I cried I love her.

[7gnat]

That is SUPER wonderful! I knew if you did not push it she would call you. So so happy for you

[Jase95]

Well I did text her and left a message on her Facebook but only once, yeah I'm happy very happy over the moon, and she came to see me today and man did we make up for all that lost time :)

[7gnat]

Fantastic

[Jase95]

Dad sent you a private mail, hope you don't mind.

[7gnat]

Yes I saw.

[Whatsgoingon12]

this happened my ex too...explain yourself,shes got to understand.

[Jase95]

Called her and she won't answer.

[Whatsgoingon12]

You must give up.you must show her you are wiling to fight for her

[Jase95]

I will fight for her, she deserves it. I can't let her go or if she doesn't want me I need to let her know why I did what I had done. Man I can't lose her.

[Whatsgoingon12]

well that's a good attitude.she would be foolish to turn that down