My girlfriend broke up with me a week ago and I need to get her back, what should I do?

[Tony_Bear]

this girl means the world to me and I'm still very in love with her. I miss her like crazy but she said she just wants to be single. She says that it's over for good and I'm not getting a second chance. I want to show her that I've changed but I don't know how. When we first broke up she said she misses me and that she still loved me and wanted to kiss me but now she says she doesn't miss me at all. What can I do to get her back?

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+1 y

Okay...I don't want to get over her so quit telling me too. I know that would be best but I'm not ready to quite yet. I asked how to get her back not how to get over her damn.

[faberfan]

The only reason you are still clamoring over this girl is because she dumped you. Here's something you should realize; most girls don't randomly break up with their boyfriends, they think it over for weeks before they make their decision. Truth is, she mentally broke up with you long before she physically did. And she left you feeling the same, but she feels completely opposite now.

If she wants to be single then that's her choice. No amount of pleading, begging, whining, etc., will change that. If she says it is over, then it is over.

You want to show her you've changed? How exactly have you changed in a week? That's lunacy. It's something people say to get their ex back, "Oh it's different now babe! I've changed!". People don't change that fast, and they usually revert back to their old ways. You haven't changed in a week.

And of course she still misses you. You were part of her life, and now you aren't. We all miss those who we used to be with, even after dumping them. It's human nature. And sure she still loves you, but there is a difference between "i love you" and "i'm in love with you". She's not in love with you.

Trust me bucko, you don't want her back. The same issues will arise and she will dump you again. She doesn't love you, otherwise she wouldn't have broken up with you.

I suggest, if you do want her back, to use the good ole "NO CONTACT" routine. Pretend to be happy, and don't talk to her. She might just return to you after she realizes she isn't happy without you, which is possible. But there is no guaranteed way to make someone come back to you, it's ultimately her choice.

[j86692403]

No contact for a min of 4 weeks. If she calls you before 4 weeks then you're heading in the right direction. Best thing to do during those 4 weeks is develop yourself personally. Go to the gym...take up a hobby...do something productive and definitely start interacting with other women! IF she calls you before 4 weeks and wants to talk, let her. But don't act mean, needy, or anything out of the ordinary. Act as though you're talking to an old friend. IF you two decide to meet up, act as though you really developed youself. Be confident, walk with your head held high. Use teasing as a way to judge her feelings towards you. Give her a pet name but not one you would give to a girlfriend. I think most women would agree that giving her no contact time will let her think that she's lost you and it will feel the most at 3-4 weeks. Being/Acting confident is a major + for a lot of women. Pretty much you're going to make her realize what she had lost was a really good thing. IF nothing comes of it, at that point being a month or more past this you probably will be ready to move on with yourself without her

[Tony_Bear]

Well I do go to the gym, everyday. I tried no contact but she texts me everyday and calls me before she goes to bed every night. what does that mean?

[j86692403]

It might be that she's still interested in you or that she just wants to remain friends...hard to tell

[paigexhottness]

Girls are jealous people. I suggest you act uninterested and flirt with other girls. If it bothers her, you may have a chance to get her back.

If you don't want to go that route, a bouquet of flowers is always a nice gesture.

Don't act needy or desperate. That is a huge turn off! Begging never works. Give her time to miss you. Take it slow and hopefully everything will fall back into place.

[Shlei3]

It's over (maybe not forever MAYBE) so I suggest that you live your life like she isn't coming back. Pushing the subject more can/will push her away even more. It's time to move on as hard as that is.

[Shlei3]

Ok then, you could try begging her or talking to her about it again.

[Mr_Luthor]

Don't beat a dead horse, its hard wanting someone that dose not want you, but you have to move on. Just let her go and stand your ground. If you two are meant to be show her how you can get along without her. Its ok to miss her but she has to miss you too. Watching you stand tall being a man will remind her of what she's missing, no woman wants a man with no backbone. As you stand tall on your own she may realize what she's lost or you may find someone else that appreciates the who you are.