My boyfriend had sex with his ex when we broke up and we have been back together for 2 months now he tells me...?

[Anonymous]

I love my boyfriend very much and he says he loves me and is in love with me and wants a future with me marriage , kids everything.Last night he told me when we broke up in the afternoon that night he had sex with his ex girlfriend because she called him for a ride and he went to her house and they had sex.I asked him when we got back together is there anything you need to tell me before I say yes to getting back together he said no baby I love you.I told him last night well you not going to talk to her again right? he said no way but if she needs something I will help her because I'm a nice guy I help everybody if they need it.I don't know should I break up with him? I am so upset and when we broke up I couldn't eat, sleep or anything I was so upset I don't understand how he could have sex with his ex?

BTW.. She is now friends with almost all his friends on Facebook & I'm not. Please help I have didn't sleep or eat since I found out.and today is our anniversary :(

[Anonymous]

it hurts because when you broke up you were sad & it showed how much you cared about him. So to you it seems like he didn't care much because he didn't seem affected by the break up & he went out & had sex. However...guys are weird. Their actions don't match up with their words that don't match up with how they feel. There's no way to determine anything by going off of clues. They do things that don't seem right to us & we get upset about it.

You're thinking about breaking up with him because now you're unsure about how much he actually cares about you, respects, how important are you to him, etc. So the best thing to do is to talk about it with him. Don't accuse him by saying "you don't care because..." but rather explain that you're hurt because you wouldn't imagine him having sex with someone immediately after your break up if he had true feelings for you. and then explain that you're hurt because he lied about not having anything to tell you before getting Back together. it probably was because he didn't want to jeopardize his chances of getting back with you & he knew it would hurt you & he didn't want to do that. I believe its possible for you two to work through it if you're both calm & honest

[Lexgrs]

Girl honestly reading this breaks my heart. If he is serious about you and a future with you he should be willing leave the relationship (even if it’s just a friendship) with his ex aside if it’s making you uncomfortable. I hope you’re doing okay, and I hope he realizes how great you are

[Anonymous]

Well he didn't break any rules or anything, you all were broken up. But I understand what you mean and why your upset. You have to understand men don't look at sex the same way as women do. To many guys sex is just a release, something to use to relax. It's like working out or playing video games to us, simply a good time. We don't have all these emotions and deep feelings involved in it all the time. Most guys could simply f*** a chick and walk away no strings attached. Even though he had sex with her, he probably doesn't have any feelings for her at all. He didn't tell you because he didn't want to hurt you and new you would be upset. But he most likely doesn't love her or anything. So it just depends on your own feelings and where your boundaries are.

[sexyasianboi26]

To each of his own, every couple draws their boundaries differently than others.

In my opinion, it is not cheating. Why? Well when you both broke up, was it not an agreement of "we are not official no more". So when your boyfriend had sex with his ex, you can't claim that he cheated on you because you didn't own him. And this is logic.

But when you truly love someone, love defies logic.

[Anonymous]

That was messed up but you were broken up...