My new boyfriend is still in the process of getting divorced. We have sex almost daily and he always pulls out. When I ask, he says he doesn’t need any accidents to complicate the divorce and he’ll stop doing it when things are finalized. Does that sound right or is he holding out hope of getting her back? I don’t really know how to read the situation and he knows it bothers me.
It's difficult to say for sure what your boyfriend's motivations are, but it's important to communicate with him and express your concerns. Pulling out during sex can be an effective method of birth control, but it's not foolproof, and if he's not using any other form of contraception, it's understandable that you might be worried.
It's possible that your boyfriend is still holding out hope of getting back with his ex, but it's also possible that he's simply being cautious and trying to avoid any complications that could arise during the divorce process. It's important to have an open and honest conversation with him about your concerns and ask him directly about his intentions. It's important to establish clear boundaries and expectations in any relationship, and if you're not comfortable with the situation, it's important to communicate that and decide whether the relationship is right for you.
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Do you have plans to have babies after the divorce? Are you using any birth control other than the unreliable pull out method? Does he have babies with his ex?
It does seem reasonable to me that he wants to see what happens with the divorce before starting a family if that is the plan.
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Well you are definitely reading this one wrong. He is being smart not wanting to knock you up right now. Most reasonable people would appreciate that. You however believe it means he wants to get back with his ex... good lord...
This is why I don't think people should get into relationships while still in the process of divorce or separated.
Pulling out is like maybe 40% more protective. Especially at yalls age…. so what are you naming your baby?
If you can’t then how would I read it.
you’re the one who knows him
It could be too early for him to be in a relationship and you are a rebound for him.
He is avoiding trouble as much as possible
He don't want kids
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