He was still with his ex when we started dating?

Anonymous

Hey all, I'm a bit in two minds about what to think or do about my relationship.

My boyfriend (m32) and I (f27) have been seeing each other for about a year now, everything is going good, we met each others family's, friends etc and I'm happy with him. We've known each other for years and it feels good. However, a few weeks ago I found out that when we started dating he was still together with his ex. When I confronted him about that he told me that they'd broken up by the time we started seeing each other. Though, his ex (she's someone I know via an event we work on, didn't know they were together though) told me that they hadn't broken up until later (he says they ended it in July, she says the end of September), so I am not sure what the truth there is. I do know that they were still having sex until late September, while we started seeing each other in August.

I kind of left it after I talked with both of them, but it just feels strange. Like my relationship with him is build upon a lie, with him still sleeping his ex (even though they were over according to him), and I feel hesitant to bring it up with him again before I had time to think it over myself. I am happy with him, and things are good. But this is something that makes me wonder, would he do it again if I lost his feelings for me? Also, I used to have a relationship with one of his close co-workers (we lived together at one point), obviously I didn't feel the need to tell my ex I was dating this guy, but it seems like my boyfriend never told him either?

Kinda want to know what people think about it? I'm not sure how I feel about it at the moment.

He was still with his ex when we started dating?
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