I put pressure on him and now he's running away.

[Anonymous]

I put pressure on my boyfriend to tell me how he feels about us, because we've been together for a while now, and he said he doesn't know and he needs to figure it out. He is pulling away and we haven't really talked much or seen each other in more than a week. I'm getting really nervous and I don't want to lose him. I'm so angry at myself for crying in front of him and putting all this pressure on him to declare feelings for me. He says he doesn't feel love yet and doesn't know why but he is happy with me.

But he doesn't want to see me today and now I'm worried that he's going to break up with me. What can I do? :[

And do you think this is a reason to break up with your girlfriend..if she put too much stress on you emotionally ? I'm trying to play it cool now...but I don't know if it's believable

[Anonymous]

That's unfair of him. Playing such childish games because you wanted a more precise knowledge of each other feelings for one another. He should at least by know have a bit of an inkling for what he feels, since you said you two been together for 8 mo now. Maybe it is because you're making yourself too available like you said. I'd say stop trying to chase after him and make him do the chase, or at least have a conversation about where you two see the relationship going. If he's not willing to give you an answer, he's not worth it.

[Asker]

thanks for your response :)

yeah...I need to stop chasing him. I've been chasing him so much :[...it makes me sad that it will probably end because he's all cuddly with me and we have fun together. He kind of freaks out every time I ask how he feels. He's like "I need to figure it out." So weird.

[Anonymous]

i think he is stringing you along and doesn't want to commit and now he feels pressured so he is pulling away, if you had to run after him too much that can push him away even more but honestly it sounds like he is just a baby and you deserve better

[Gustafsone12584]

I think it's ludicrous on how he's treating you for telling him how you feel. He doesn't sound like he's adult enough to deal with his, so he's running away from what's important. Now it does depend upon how long you've been together to say it's too much stress on him emotionally. How long have you been with him?

[Asker]

8 months. I told him I loved him at 5 months and he kind of freaked out and ignored me for 2 weeks. And then I ignored him back and he came back around and everything was going fine since then. But then last weekend I said I couldn't take it anymore and I wanted to hear how he feels about me..because he never really says anything sweet. And he said he's attracted to me and he really likes being with me and he cares about me but doesn't know why he doesn't feel love. He said "something is missing"

[Asker]

and that made me feel really sad and I got all emotional and probably scared the sh*t out of him. His last ex really f***ed him up. He was so in love with her and she never made time for him and kept him on his toes...I'm the opposite, always available and loving, trying to do things for him. Maybe he's bored and that's what's missing :[

[kheserthorpe]

If he leaves over this you're better off without him. Really.

[Asker]

that's a good point! He's been hurt by his past two serious relationships so I know he's scared of it happening again...but he says he doesn't know why its taking so long to feel "love" for me. And that makes me feel like crap.