Roommate's boyfriend likes me! I like him back! HE'S MOVING IN!!!!!!

[sinfulangel]

So, I live in a apartment with two girls and they're like my best friends. One has a boyfriend of 4 years. She wants to marry him, have his kids, and believes he's her soul mate. Now, he is not my type at ALL. But, when I met him, it was like love at first sight. We instantly connected on so many levels. There was this magnetic attraction. He told me I was beautiful, my beauty radiates, talented, pretty, smart, hilarious, and I had such beautiful hair. He would try and take my stockings off, and he wouldn't sleep in the same bed with her a night he spent the night, he talked to me until I fell asleep. Nothing physical has happened, but I feel like it could. It feels like he likes me so much. And then after that one night he wanted to move in, my sister said it's because of me because before he didn't wanna move in with my room mate. Now he's moving in, likes, me, I like him back, and I feel a complete connection. WHAT DO I DO?

[hellokitty96_18]

To be honest... I am in a similar situation, but the thing is that I have a boyfriend of my own. My roommate is not my friend but I catch her boyfriend looking at me every now and then. Maybe because he is a bit uncomfortable or because he is my guest and he wants to respect me. But I think he is cute. Like really cute. His girlfriend, my roommate, is freaking beautiful though. I wouldn't see any reason why he would lust for another woman, but I like to imagine that he is lusting for me from time to time. The keyword is "imagine". You just want to feel pretty and imagine that you are her, your friend in a relationship because you aren't. See the reason why I "imagine" is because I am in a long distance relationship so I wish my guy was here like hers. You wish you had a guy, but you don't need a guy like him. He WILL treat you the same way he is treating her if he is truly having a thing for you. This "connection" is just you wanting a relationship and admiring what she has to the point that you want EXACTLY what she has and you figure you now have the chance to have it since the guy is a cheater and giving you that. But do you really want to be with someone who is willing to make another girl feel like she can have him?

[Radiohead200]

obvouisly you are held by your emotions - your attraction for him is overcoming your morals and what you intuitively KNOW you should do, which is not get involved with this guy. Why do you like him anyways? Is it because he is taken and you can't have him?

You are in a dangerous situation. You are in close proximity to someone you have a mutual crush on, whom is dating one of your best friends. I would back off emotionally, and tell him nothing can happen between you because you value your friendship.

But wow, he must feel like the fricken man though, he knows he can get laid by his girlfriend AND by you, I bet he talks to his buddies all the time about how he could potentially get with you too. but, he would be a dumbass to do so.

[TheUglyOne]

You really need to ask lol? He's planning to cheat on YOUR friend, is this the type of man you really want? You really think he won't cheat on you? Do you really want the reputation of "the other woman"?

If she is truly your best friend, you be a friend. You rebuff the man. You tell her that her sleeze boyfriend has been putting the moves on you.

Assuming of course you're actually interested in doing the right thing and not here asking for someone anyone to give you a big nod of approval to betray a friend and get controlled and played by a cheater.

[sinfulangel]

I have told her! He said all those things right in front of her! She has seen it for herself, and she just says it is brotherly, but nothing about it feels brotherly. And I just feel this connection with him, I feel with no one else. Should I really pass that up? And I know she is my best friend, but she sees nothing between us, and I just feel crazy. She thinks he just likes me as a friend, and I disagree, but how can I tell her that?!

[bDizzie]

Don't be that girl, it's your best friends guy. Find another one. A single one.