It's easy to become very attached to dogs, if my boyfriend and I were to split up and I didn't have regular access to our dog I'd be heart broken. To a lot of people their dogs really are like substitute children, and it sounds as though they cared for the dog in that manner. I think that he maintains contact with her and the dog is a little bit like how people agree to share custody of children.. it's probably an arrangement they set up when they parted ways and have maintained ever since. Why specifically do you find this to be a problem? If it had anything to do with their reluctance to part ways.. well, they could have gotten back together any time in the 2 1/2 years they spent apart before you met. I know it can be hard when a partner has shared commitments with an ex, but I guess it's just one of those things we have to accept if we love and want to be with the person. If you could care for the dog instead of his ex, it doesn't mean to say you'd have the right to freeze her out of the situation, or that your boyfriend should necessarily want to. The more you come to accept it as a shared responsibility they took on together and continue to undertake, the easier it will be to deal with. I think it probably speaks highly of him as a man if he has an amicable relationship with his ex and continues to behave considerately and responsibly toward her.. these are positive traits he'll bring to your relationship too, doubtless, except you'll also have his heart. Hope this helps.
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I can feel your pain from confusion, does the ex know you exist?
If she does then chill out and enjoy your relationship, I think they both take responsibility for the dog as if it was their child, its good they have been open and mature as few couples are after a break up.
If you are kept hidden for any reason at all then be worried and walk away.
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I don't see the big deal. Some people see pets as family and your boyfriend and the ex seem like those types of people. This is all about the dog and not them or their past.
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