Do you think it’s a good idea to ask my boyfriend if I can stay at my his place when he is out of town?

[Anonymous]

Christmas is coming, my boyfriend is going back to his hometown, and my closed gay friend will come to visit me for about a week. Since hotels are really expensive, so I am thinking maybe I can let my gay friend stay at my apartment, and maybe I can stay at my bf’s apartment when he is away. But we only date about like 8-9 months, and I only stay over at his place when he is there. I don’t know if it would be appropriate if I ask him about this

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a tricky one. On the one hand, it would save some money over a hotel. But since you guys haven't been together that long, staying at his place alone might make him uncomfortable.

A few things to consider:

- Talk to him openly about it before making any plans. Explain the money situation and that your friend will be at your place.

- Reassure him you'll respect his space and things will be exactly as he left them. Offer to stay just a few nights if that makes him feel better.

- Ask what would make him feel most at ease about the idea. Is there a friend of his you could check in with?

- Really listen to his thoughts on it - don't get defensive if he's not ready. Respect his boundaries too.

- Maybe check out airbnbs as an alternative if he's just not into the idea yet.

Overall communication is key. If he's not 100% on board, best to find another plan so it doesn't cause issues later. But hearing him out could help gain his trust too. Just be understanding of where he's at!

[teamvic]

Hmmm I think its a better idea than your friend staying at your place with you so tell him the scenario. I think it should be fine

[Surely]

This gay friend. Male or female? If they are coming for a week. Why not both stay at your place?

[Asker]

It is a male friend. Cuz I feel like it is not good if I live with a guy for a week, even if he is gay.

[Staximus]

Why don't you just stay at your place with your friend?

[Asker]

Cuz he is a guy

[Anonymous]

I think its perfectly fine to ask him.

[Danny_dan92]

If what?

[Asker]

If I ask about whether I can stay at his place

[Danny_dan92]

Personally I’ve done this before. The problem is what if she leaves

[Asker]

I don’t understand, what does she leaves mean?

[Danny_dan92]

You don’t have the key to his place right?

[Asker]

No I don’t

[Danny_dan92]

Exactly. If you leave the place and you where the only one there. It’s gonna be left unlocked

[Asker]

Oh once the door closed, the door will be locked automatically. And I can also give back his keys when he comes backs

[Danny_dan92]

He’s gonna need his keys to get back inside.

If the door automatically locks behind you without the key then you’re all good

[Asker]

ohh he has multiple keys, I am just not sure if it’s a good idea to stay at his place while he’s gone since we only date 8-9 months

[Danny_dan92]

I had girls stay over while I was gone at work and they were flings. You’ll be ok

[ThrillSeeker01]

I think that would

[Asker]

I just don’t know if guys are willing to let girlfriend stay at their place when they are gone 😂

[ThrillSeeker01]

If he likes a girl, why not?