My boyfriend wants to be a bartender?

[saltylifedgs]

So my boyfriend and I have been together for a year and I feel like I truly love him and never cheated on him or even thought about it. I think he feels the same way since he's almost every day with me and he says he loves me and that Im the love of his life, but I have to confess that sometimes I feel insecure over it, because he says it but doesn't show much interest in if I believe it or not or even if I say that I love him back. We do have really good sex and frequently because he have told me how he loves it and I can notice too. However, everything have worked out for us but lately he's feeling stressed about his future (hes 18 and im 17) and he needs to figure out what to do with his life now that he graduated HS, but what has me stressed out too is that he came up with this idea of getting a bartenders license and become a bartender for the rest of his life or while he gets enough money to open a business, he's not so sure of what he wants yet but thats most likely his goal and he wants to accomplish it by my side, he wants to marry me in the future and be with me forever, but I don't think it will work out for us if he becomes a bartender now, I haven't told him how I feel about it because I don't want to be an obstacle in his way or anything that might ruin his future, that's why im giving him the opportunity to think better and maybe realize that is not a good idea knowing how I am but the thing is he hasn't even ask me if that's ok with me. He hasn't ask me if i like that idea of becoming bartender but he keeps telling his friends that he's seriously opting for that. So I don't know what to do or what to tell him, I don't want him to become a bartender because I just don't like that lifestyle and i dont want to spend the rest of my life with it, otherwise im leaving him , but i dont want to tell him to choose between me and his job, what to do? How do I tell him that I rather him to go to college like I will or get another type of license? What to do?

[madhatters4]

if you love him support him. I doubt that he'll be bartender for the rest of his life. but you'll only bring about anger and feelings of lack of support if you dump simply because at 18 he decides to be a bartender.

your biggest issue seems to be what you call the "lifestyle". that is a presumption of what bartenders are when the majority are bartenders because it is a job, short and simple.

I can understand if you want to see more ambition out of him but if you simply object to being a bartender because of what you perceive is a negative life I think that's unfair

[Metal189]

well he can't get a bartneding job till he's 21 anyway, and im sure you two will have split by then. also you can't really tell us what sort of jobs we're allowed and not allowed to have you dont own us. if u have a problem with it, leave. you shouldn't be having sex with an 18 year old anyway, most likely, where you are, its illegal

[Metal189]

bartending*

also, if u tell him how you feel, you'll only be creating unnecessary drama. i dont think you need to tell him

[yaddayaddayadda02]

Just keep your ideas to yourself. AS you can forsee, it will only cause a fight. You're way too young to be worried about things that may or may not happen 10 years from now.