Do you think it’s a good idea to ask my boyfriend every now and then if he happy?

[Anonymous]

I know some men will go cheat or fall out of love and not let their partners know what they lacking in the relationship. I just want to do a check in every now and then to see if I’m making him happy and there anything he’s concern about I can make better. My goals is to make this relationship last long that is healthy and happy.

[caring__1]

That would imply you aren't observant and reading his reactions so prefer being spoon-fed. Instead, share what you are working on to keep the relationship new and alive and ask what he's seeing and what effect it might be having. Obviously, it's in your best interest to prioritize the things he finds special. Let him know if you see any changes, so they can be addressed when they are still small.

You can also get a deeper understanding of how he views relationships, so you know what he is looking at. I've previously listed questions to explore with a partner... to give each a clearer picture of how the other views a relationship. I can share them again, if you are interested. Another thing you can do is to sit down together and make a list of all the terms that can be associated with a relationship. Put each on a slip of paper and put the pieces of paper into a jar. When you have extra time, one of you can pick a term out of the jar, and then the two of you can explore what that term means to you, what it looks and feels like, along with examples from your past (though leave out other people's names).

[ScottStevens]

Absolutely a fair question to ask. Relationships end when communications end. You are not the same person you were when the relationship started, neither is he! It's important that both of you ask that question and keep asking it.

The best advise I can give relates back to an old saying. "If you want a greener pasture, the easiest way is to cultivate the one you are in!" Otherwise you always keep thinking the grass is always greener somewhere else and never find true love.

[bowenw]

It's a nice thing to ask. Some specific questions may help him open up.

[Zygum]

Very good idea, I support you

[Wise4myage]

Isn't it normal to ask that question now and then?