My boyfriend's ex sent him really dirty pictures saying she wants him.....

[Anonymous]

I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months. On Jan. 10th, he started a fight with me out of the blue and said he needed 2 weeks of space. We live together and so I had to pack up and leave to my moms which was 2 hours away. I cried and was devastated trying to figure out what I did wrong. So, I was gone from jan.11th to jan. 18th after he asked me to come home. Today, is the 24th and he is out of town for two days. Things have been really good so far and he has been exceptionally extra loving...but I had this funny feeling inside so I decided to check his email on his computer. I was shocked what I found. On jan. 13th his ex girlfriend (who looks like a sex goddess) sent him three really dirty naked picutres of her with attached messages stating, "i really miss you I want you back, I want you all over me and inside me". I cried and fell to pieces when I saw his response...the message was from him forwarded to a close friend stating, " look at what my ex just sent me. What do I do now?" keep in mind this was on a weekend that he needed his "space"...So clearly , this means he's thinking about going back? I can't believe he's questing this! I feel so used and hurt. what should I do? =( The story he told me about her when I first met him , was that she was his true love right before he met me. Their relationship ended at 7 months when he claims she started acting weird -so he left her. But the truth is she left him and now she wants him back. he really loved this girl and was heart broken when she dumped him. I found this out just recently from a guy friend of his. So I think this makes it worse? how do I bring this up to him without getting into another fight. I feel so upset because everything has been going so well between us. please help!

[AndiArthropod]

Just leave! This is not worth your time. Just the fact that he forwarded it to his friend asking what he should do shows that he still wants her. If he was committed to you and he had moved on by now he would know what to do- he'd just delete that email and forget about her.

[Premonition]

No good is going to come from this. why are you putting up with this? Pain & Heartbreak is all I see in that type of future especially since he's not Respecting your Relationship.

[Asker]

how do I confront him about this? he's away at work and is coming home Friday. The thing is, she sent him the pics and there is no evidence he responded to her. The message he sent to his friend, was a copy of her naked picture and a statement saying, "F***! what to do now?" He also got this message from her when we split up for 2 weeks. Does this make a difference in the matter? he comes home to me and is very loving. This is why I'm so confused. =(

[Premonition]

Try when he comes home, point at the PC, and demand an answer. If you're going to work on your relationship, you gotta come clean, forgive if you want to but don't let it build up.

[Asker]

Here's an update- I didn't have to say anything, I fixed myself up really cute, made him dinner, bought his favorite booze, and he was all happy-then, out of the blue, he told me how awesome I was and how beautiful I was and how he wanted a future with me...then he said, my ex has been contacting me, she wants to get back together...he asked, what do I do?i asked, do you love her/ he said I don't know, then said he loved me...then he fell asleep.i..ve been up all night crying. what should is do?

[Premonition]

Follow your heart, If he decides the worst case scenario an up an leaves you, Than remember you gave your relationship 100%, and if that wasn't good enough than that means you wasn't good enough or appreciated.

Some Relationships are worth Fighting for, but its on the couple to both decide what's Good and Healthy for each other. you should sleep on it, an I wish you the Very Best on what you Decide.

[Gilchun1]

Question him. Questioning is the most direct thing you can do... Don't give out mix signals not worth it... Just question it and get over it...