Is it okay to feel afraid to break a girls heart?

[Anonymous]

Is it okay to feel afraid to break a girl's heart after breaking up or something?

[GoodManDave]

Afraid? Eh. But if you have feeling, and are a compassionate person, and claim to love her, then I think the guy should feel a little bit bad about doing it, depending on the circumstances of the breakup.

That being said, most girls I've dated (or asked out) have had absolutely no problems with trying to break my heart.

And I think that if it has to be done, it's one of those things where you do it, you try to do it with class and respect, and you just hope it doesn't hurt them, but past a certain point, it is what it is. If they claim hurt in spite of treating you poorly, or in spite of going after other guys, or cheating, well, that's where there's a point where you just have to not be THAT concerned about it if they claim to be so badly affected by it.

I don't think "afraid" is necessarily the right word, though. The right guy doesn't seek to do it, and tries not to make it worse, but doesn't let that worry consume him.

[mangetsby]

No.

If you're breaking up, it's for the better. You may not like her, which won't really help in the long run lol. Maybe she is a bitch, so she deserves it.

It's better to leave a girl and make her pout for a day than to stay with her and make things worse.

[CrystalMinds]

Yeah, ofcourse! It just shows you feel for her and you regret things happening that way. It would be rude to break up with her and just not care. But I do feel that feeling sorry for her isn't a reason not to break up with someone.

[Asker]

Thank you! I just had to ask because it seems like quite a number of guys around my area don't actually care. So I just wanted to know.

[CrystalMinds]

Says more about them...

[37DegreesCelcius]

Of course it is! It shows that you really cared about her and that you still don't want to hurt her, even if you two aren't in a relationship.

[Asker]

Thank you! I just had to ask because it seems like quite a number of guys around my area don't actually care. So I just wanted to know.

[kangaru]

u know, these days not many guys would think this way :) it shows your kindness :)

[Asker]

I have realized that quite a bit with lots of guys. I'm always seeing guys who breakup with girls and they say they don't even care about her or her feelings.

[yellowmamba024]

I think a sane guy should be afraid to break a girl's heart. The guys who seem to have no problems breaking a girl's heart are just hiding the fact that they are afraid. From the way I see it, the guys who are not afraid of doing so are not very sane.

[JovialJove]

Yes boss. Never break something you can't fix.

Just try putting yourself in her place, you'll get the answer.

Happy Love Life.

[teasegirl]

this has to be the sweetest question I've ever seen. Yes is OK if you feel afraid of hurting her. ?

[Sexycally]

You're so sweet! That's adorable, its OK to be afraid about that sort of thing.

[Anonymous]

I think it's a good thing when people worry about hurting others.

You're not supposed to feel good about it, that's for sure.

[normalice]

No, it's not okay. Breaking up is the only bargaining chip guys have in a relationship.

[ZenQueen]

Why are you afraid? Do you think you won't be a good bf/faithful?

[cinamongirl]

What's going on there my friend? Message me.

[Asker]

Okay. :)