Are you afraid of getting your heart broken?

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Alyssa11 · Accepted Answer

I’m afraid of getting my heart broken because although I’ve been hurt before, last year I got my heart broken and the difference is immense. I feel like this pain or him letting me down is always gonna be a part of me now and there’s no way I could ever forget. I’ve just accepted things and made the conscious decision to move on. So essentially, I never ever want to go through that again. It was really hard...

I can’t now decide if this is a good thing or a bad thing because I’ve become very picky with the men I like or give my time to. If I see one red flag, I leave. I also understand humans have flaws and I have them too, but I can’t help but my protect myself. On the other hand, I’m certain I want to go get married one day and have children and a happy home.

I don’t know I’m just taking it one step at a time... I keep telling myself that a man with good intentions who will truly love me in the real sense will see right through me and give me a reason every time to trust him. It’ll work out on its own...

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Well sir, I've had my heart broken and disappointed by guys so much, I'm somewhat numb to it. So no, not really. Getting your heartbroken is normal. Practically everyone will get their heart broken at least ONCE in theirs lives... more if you're extremely unlucky like some of us.

I know, that sounds terrible, but in a way it's good because now if anyone else disappoints me, it won't hurt as much.

Are you afraid of getting your heart broken?

ShadezMcgee · Accepted Answer

Any time you get in a relationship or want to get involved with someone you risk getting heartbroken. What matters is finding that person who is worth giving the heart to.

If you don't get attached, you aren't loving someone. That comes from fear and hinders the relationship in the long run.

I have had my heart broken before and one of the worst ones left me depressed for the longest time and it has made me very hesitant to opening to anyone, especially women because it is a trap to do that. Felt like it got shattered and left me like an empty husk. I was 'there's but not really there and if affected me for months.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

I honestly dislike that excuse "I've been hurt before so I'm afraid to love again." Then never look for a relationship again if you can't remove the emotional walls and are always one step in one step out. If you're in a new relationship, you should never judge the person you're with from the actions of the past person you WERE with.

My ex was a girl that I deeply loved and wanted to get married to eventually. It hurt a lot when she left and still does. But I'm not going to ever use that as an excuse in another relationship and I'm not afraid to love again.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

I'm more afraid of the crazies out there and the people that seem to be more about using people than trying to find companionship or love... I'm more afraid of my time being wasted than a broken heart, cuz they can only break your heart if you give it to them, and I don't give my heart so freely to just anyone. People can still hurt pride or feelings tho, even if you don't love them...

NathanDavis · Answer

No, I've never put myself in that position... I've been very selective in the first place, and then I've been dedicated in my relationships, if ever, something really bad happens in a relationship of mine... I know it will have to do a lot with something I did, or something I didn't do... guess I've been more proactive on that aspect, rather than be surprised later by "what the hell happened?"

electromagnetic · Answer

I’ve been heart broken before. In all honesty, most of the time was because of my own doing and over investment in relationships I knew weren’t for me.
If I get hurt broken now, I think I’ll be okay over time.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Yes and no. Of course I'm afraid of getting my heart broken. And what are the odds of that? 100!
But there is a way around it. You simply never give your heart to any woman! They can't control what they don't have. Life has taught me love is nothing but a chemical in your brain. Take a deep breathe. It'll pass then continue as normal. 😀

JSmuve · Answer

Whoa, slow down coach. First I gotta find women attractive enough to break my heart, then I gotta approach them, and then we can talk about me being afraid to get my heart smushed.

I'm still stuck on the first step. They're always out when I'm in my apartment and they're never around when I'm outside. Go figure. We just can't seem to match schedules! Tres frustrating.

Tavena02 · Answer

I’m at a good headspace. For the longest I’ve been following the everything happens for a reason road. It’s up to me to find that reason. If you had your heart broken from a guy, this said guy wasn’t meant to be in your life and the universe is telling you this by making sure you won’t want to get back with him, hence him breaking your heart. He was a lesson for you to learn from. Be thankful for the heartbreakers. They become your stepping stones

ananias55 · Answer

I'm done, I have terrible taste in women. The last 4 girls I dated cheated on me. The last one did it after 4 days.
I'm just tired of all the drama and I'm tired of putting myself out there just to get stomped on. So I quit.

Kayla45 · Answer

I've had my heart broken several different times, and every single time it's been a scary experience. It makes me afraid because all these potential partners that I have had in my life, I always thought that they were the one..

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

I'm afraid of having it broken is a specific way. I know that heartbreak is part of dating and I'm not scared to fall in love again and risk the relationship ending. I'm scared of falling in love and being betrayed by my partner, ruining the very fragile trust I have been really trying to build with people again. I feel like after being abused, if I were to be abused again I'd never be able trust anyone ever again. I don't want that, and THAT'S the heartbreak that scares me

Coulis · Answer

People have disappointed me so much over the years that they can't break my heart anymore. People do people sh*t. That's all there is to it.

MCheetah · Answer

Other: Kinda. I would have to believe a high-quality woman could ever truly love me first before I could be afraid of having my heart broken... 💔

yourbabygirl921 · Answer

When I'm starting to get weird feelings for the guy I distance myself emotionally.. because I'm scared he'll break my heart like my ex

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Can’t break what I fo not have! The ex took was was left of my cardiac muscle. Frankly I think she did me a favor by curing me of the insanity called, “love” that people get themselves in a over.

thimmslicc · Answer

Nope. These men gonna feel my wrath this summer. 2021.

TremorJay · Answer

If I ever open myself up like that again, it would mean I have faith not fear

Gosceewual · Answer

I Dont really give a fuck, i have had it broken many times by many girls, being rejection isn't tnat bad, jus sad for a year or 2 then u forget about them.,.. not that bad

Scorpio11 · Answer

I'm still picking up the pieces of my broken heart. Total destruction as of now. Cry, sleep, and hardly eat anything.

Aimée__LJ · Answer

Terrified. Haven't experienced much heart break so I'm not use to it in the slightest

IraqLobster · Answer

Yes, girls cheat more these days and i'm not that attractive and my life isn't in the right place. So, i have the right to feel like this.

FreyaRed · Answer

No. I'm always aware about situation around me, hence I don't think I will ever come unconsciously into position I regret later. But never say never...

Siren777 · Answer

No not anymore. Been there, cannot paint everyone the same. People deserve a chance too. If things don't work out. They were never meant to be and it's time to move on.

MyNameJames · Answer

Who can honestly say they aren't? That's excluding players and people who only hook-up.

JHNS98 · Answer

I'm not afraid of heartbreak anymore. It has happened to me so many times already.

Between rejections, cancelled dates, failed dates and jealousy. These experiences have distanced me from my romantic emotions.

Shihab91 · Answer

Last time my heart got broken i felt a physical pain in my chest. I guess my love to her was so deep.

Wiredone · Answer

I've had my heart broken every time I have to put my animals to sleep.

Jaylaaa2000 · Answer

Nope it's part of the process until you find the right person.  No need to live in fear of living and enjoying life

Property_Of_Jocker · Answer

If love is real, maybe I’m just too bad to remember how good it feels. My heart is still 😌.

Pogi-Paddy-2 · Answer

If I was afraid of getting my heart broken, I would be selling myself short.

friendzoned4life · Answer

Yes happened 2 times allready.  I Think I can't handle a 3rd time

crazyish · Answer

No, sadly there are worse things that someone can do to you than just break your heart.

melanieeeB · Answer

No I am not, still I don't date but more cause most people don't really mean it

bulletbob555 · Answer

I know it happens Thats a fact but I am not avoiding women because I'm afraid of it not working out. I hope I choose wisely

collie22 · Answer

i try to keep my heart for getting hurt, trying to learn for my life's lessons

SpaceGalaxy · Answer

no, i now have it made out of stone. be extremely difficult to break. Used to always get broken before!

KayEEE2627 · Answer

I am pretty numb rn and I don't know if anyone can make me feel heart broken

2021biguy · Answer

It's happened to me more than once, it seems like lot of women have no heart.

jerdanro · Answer

It's never fun, but there is no love without the risk of heartbreak.

Sweetener_ · Answer

No, I'm just careful.

karaspara · Answer

No it's already been shattered a few times

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Yes, because I might not survive...

WowwGirl · Answer

Mines ice so no

Anonymous · Answer

It won’t happen again because I’m still angry with how my ex treated me. I’m not afraid of it happening because it won’t happen.

legalboxers · Answer

been fucked and screwed so I dont care anymore

exitseven · Answer

I looked at it as cost of doing business.

elizamichale1 · Answer

No coz my work has made me pretty strong

DaveToo · Answer

Been there.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Of course. Isn't everyone?

Iron_Man · Answer

Been there and done that

ScottSummers · Answer

at this point i dont even care

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Not one bit.

jahaims · Answer

Nope

Jendeukiee · Answer

Yes.

kevyhanma · Answer

I wouldn’t know how that would be

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Already happened before.

glowingsunsets2006 · Answer

Who isn't?

meleyy · Answer

Yes. I am

Coolkat12345 · Answer

Who wouldn’t be?

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Very much so

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