My girlfriend says she wants to move out.

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend says she loves me and wants to stay in a relationship with me, but she wants to move out on her own. Pardon my French here but this sounds like bullsh*t. I fought with her since March over this now she's say her therapist is saying its a good idea for her to move on her own...and by her therapist I mean she says her therapist said. I fought to keep her with me but now I feel like screw it why should I be the on,y one fighting for the relationship. She cries when I said she didn't love means didn't care. But I truly feel like she doesn't love me anymore. I just don't know what to do. I do love her but I'm tired of feeling the way I do, tired of feeling like I'm the only one who cares. Should I just let her go and see what happens?, because to me her moving out alone is the death throws of the relationship.

[ThenThereWas1]

If anything is endangering your relationship, it is how big of a freaking deal your making out of this. I understand your fear of her leaving, because honestly it could potentially mean that she's on the verge of ending it.

But it could also mean she just needs her own space. This is a normal desire for a lot of people. In fact in some parts of the world, happily married people live in different houses! It may not be the most financially savvy idea, but it's a lot easier to get along with a person whom you don't spend every moment of your life with. Some people need space. My best friend and I love each other, but during the summer when we spend up to two weeks living and breathing each other in the same house, we can't stand each other.

My advice is to just not worry about it right now. Let it happen. Because if you're constantly proding at the subject, that will drive her away more. You don't have control over wether or not she leaves, so you might as well be along for the ride.

[Alice_Infinity]

Every relationship needs two people who want to be in it for it to exist. Similarly with living together both people need to want it. If she doesn't want to live with you why are you pushing her into it? This forceful attitude on your part isn't helping anyone. Let her and her therapist make her own choices. It seems likes she's been trying to get you to move out for a while so you've probably already told her all your reasons why you shouldn't. At this point she has both sides and all the facts in front of her and she still wants you to move out. All you can do is accept her decision. Whether this means the end of your relationship or not only time will tell. It may very well be a bullsh*t excuse to try and break up with you, but either way, time to move out!

[Asker]

She moved in with me if anyone moving its her.

[Alice_Infinity]

sorry, I read your question too quickly.. I mean her moving out.

[canofwhoopass]

Project Alice

[Caiamiku]

This reply says it all. Alice made a simple mistake. Rather than politely correcting her, you firmly and rather aggressively stated that your girlfriend moved in with you. "If anyone moving its her". This makes it very clear that it is "his place", not "their place". There is no equality of ownership. It's yours, not hers. I agree with her therapist. She needs to move out until you are ready to move forward with an equal partner. One that respects her needs and desires, rather than calling them bullsh*t.

[canofwhoopass]

She probably just wants her space, and that's the most important part of a relationship. And besides, your not married to her, so she has the right to choose where she wants to live.

Give her a little time to figure things out and you will find out why she moved out.

[drjohno]

Dude, why would you want to live with your girlfriend? Living together takes the mystery out of the relationship. She gets to see you all the time, that's why she not only doesn't miss you, she wants to get away from you. Do not live with your women, that's a big mistake.

[katkaintkwit]

she wants room to be hoe-ish or she probably is thinkin about ending it. ask her the real reason she's leavin

[canofwhoopass]

Why are you leaving? I thought we had a good thing Kat?

[katkaintkwit]

well we dont! my therapist wants me to leave you so I can explore my self! and what I want! not what you want! since we've been together its been you you you! what about me?! *dries tears* lol

[canofwhoopass]

That's because I've been sleeping with your therapist. But can we look past that? It's been about me bc, I thought that I was your hubby bear...but I can't believe your doing this!

[katkaintkwit]

MY THERAPIST?!?!?!?! you f***in pervert! no we can't look past this! she's 60 years old! if youd f*** her then youd f*** anyone! i...i just can't trust you anymore. after 5 yrs...youd do this to me?