I broke her trust and now I lost her.

My ex girlfriend and I go to the same school. We dated for over a year. I was her first love, first in bed, first everything. Last spring I made a mistake of taking a nap with a girl when I was drunk. My girlfriend found out about it, almost broke up with me, but gave me a second chance. We had an amazing summer together and I treated her like a queen as I always did. This Fall at school I told her I needed a little break to focus on school and to find out why I was unhappy. That broke her heart. That same night I kissed another girl and she found out about it and was so hurt. The rest of the Fall her and I kept talking and she slept over a few times and we discussed getting back together. But ever since Thanksgiving she has not wanted to be with me. And more specifically, the last month, she hasn't wanted anything to do with me. She says I made a fool out of her, disrespected her, broke her trust, doesn't know who I am, and wants nothing to do with me. She doesn't even want to be friends. This girl means the world to me and I have been begging for her back but she despises me. She told me to move on, that she is moving on, and that we have nothing left anymore. I am so broken and regret everything that happened. She gave me her trust, her body, her love and I wrecked it all. Any advice on what to do?

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  • Agree with Paris 100%. You will just have to learn from your mistakes.

    It doesn't matter how much you regret it or how bad you feel.

    I would be very hurt and to be frank I would also be completely done with you. Not only did you betray her trust, but you did it TWICE. She gave you a second chance and you did it again. Stop tormenting her and playing games. Leave the poor girl alone and let her get on with her life. Please.

    I'm sorry to be harsh, but put yourself in her shoes. Even if she did let you back in, it will never be the same. And nobody needs to be in that type of relationship.

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  • Being YOU disrespected her like you have, sweetie, she is right: "MOVE ON." She, in essence, will never, and CAN NEVER, EVER trust you again, and even if you were to go back together tomorrow, she will never be able to have that trust in you that is needed to hold a good, sturdy relationship together. I am sorry to be the bearer of bad news." By you even wanting time away because you say you "were unhappy," broke her heart because apparently, you were not finding any happiness with this wonderful girl. And even though she gave her "trust, her body, her love," she feels now--and may always---that YOU, in turn, gave her "nothing." Learn from your mistakes for future relationships...

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  • If you really care about this girl, give her the space to let her move on.

    At this point being with you will do her more harm than good, do you want her to live with low self esteem and suspicion?

    Glad you realize your errors, but that does not undo them

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  • Imagine the situation in reverse, wouldn't you fell and do the same as she did?

    I think the only way you can make it up to her is by leaving her alone. You're the one who messed up, not her. Why should she suffer more because of you? If you love her, you'll let her go.

    Sorry if I was a bit harsh.

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  • no you lost her, she doesn't to be treated like this

    you don't deserve her, she will never ever trust you 100% again

    learn from it.

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  • been there heard that returned the tshirt. I was engaged to my best friend whom I trusted more than anyone, including myself. well he took that trust, held it, kept it safe, then broke it like glass. I didn't think I could ever recover, especially when two weeks later he apologized profusely and begged me to give him another chance. I refused. things were tense for a while, but we've done a lot of discussing about it and now 4yrs later we are good friends again. but the key thing was we both wanted to remain friends; we knew not to attempt another relationship. so just hope maybe she'll cool off and want to reconnect, but it will ONLY be as friends.

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  • I'm really sorry..I know I shouldn't say sorry because you broke her heart and trust but I know how you feeling right now.it not easy and it hurts but she's moved on love,even if she hasn't she doesn't want anything to do with you..she defiantly still cares for you in a way..she always will because you were her first at everything and that always means something but she doesn't want anything to do with you..so I think it's better if you respect her wish because after all that's the least you could do.i'm really sorry.

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  • Do your thing. Let her do hers. Move on.

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  • Not much you can do. Time to move on.

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  • all you can do is tell her how you feel maybe right a letter to her or something but that's all you can do... the more you try the further you will push her away...if you really loved her why did you kiss another girl the day you said you just wanted to take a little break? I don't know that would really hurt me too...

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  • She told you . . . the trust is gone and there isn't anything left. That means that her heart will not allow her to love you and care for you like a Girlfriend should. I think she's pretty serious about her intentions. Chalk it up as a lesson learned and don't make the same mistake again when the next special girl comes along. It's over here.

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  • You made a bad choice, you have to deal with the consequences now. All you can do is learn from your mistakes and don't let it happen again bud. Don't obsess over her now just move on, you'll drive yourself crazy if you don't just let it go.

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