Just out of curiosity....will she realize she screwed up?

[j86692403]

Long story short...she cheated..we broke up. Back story of this is that I was literally the perfect gentleman to her and everything she expected a future husband to be. Needless to say she likes partying, having no responsibilities, and just generally being really immiture for her age (22). Generally speaking out of curiosity..do women who went thru this and broke up with their supposed "perfect man" come to realize they screwed up and will try to come crawling back to the "perfect man"? I'm not looking for answers pertaining to forgetting about her and such. This is just a pure curiosity about how often do women come to realize they fu_ked up a good thing and want it back?

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+1 y

Well thanks for all the input. Who knows what will happen. Time will tell. I'm just gonna keep on "keepin' on" (Joe Dirt Reference there =P)

[thetearsweshed]

When time has slapped us in the face most of the time yes we crawl back but were usually to scared to because we think you have already done something with some one else or just isn't interested anymore. But look at it this way. If you cheated would you be able to go back to her? after you killed her by her figuring it out. In all honesty its really hard to go back to what you used to have even if it was great before. Because then you have to REALLY work at trust. My boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend and it has been months and I still don't trust him when he is at home because that is where it happened. Sometimes I wish I never took him back and then there are those moments where it dosnt even acure to you that is happened. The thing is you both need to want it. And when you have it back its hard to still love it.

[MightyHeart]

I guess its more about her personality and self-image.

I did screw things up before and then I did learn from the failure and I got mature. I am grateful to those guys, who directly and indirectly taught me about things but I don't think I got to crawl back to them.

Honestly I am afraid of being rejected and the self esteem simply doesn't allow me to do so. Sounds silly? the fact is, when a relationship is somehow broken down, things hardly go back together as if nothing happened at all.

[TheyCallHerDaisy]

That's not extremely immature for 22..she just isn't ready to settle down or be in a serious relationship..just wants to party and most people that age do...you're just extremely mature for your age. And you sound great. I'm sure when she gets screwed over and hurt she'll think back and be like "Crap he was a great guy I'm so stupid, I wish I could go back." It depends on how they are.. if they'll come crawling back. I never go back.

[faberfan]

I'd guess no, they don't really care. She might look back on it and realize how good of a guy you were to her, but she'll probably write it off as "wasn't meant to be" or some other bullsh*t as people often do. Very few people actually step up and admit to making a mistake.

Of course, she could realize her mistake and come back. But you could never trust a flake like her. Flaky people are the most irritating types of people.

[Anonymous]

Women do not want husband material until they hit their 30's and are hearing their biological clocks going off. There are studies that when women are at their horniest (when they are ovulating) they will choose a picture of the marlboro man over a picture of a joe average, but the rest of the time they choose joe. So marlboro knocks em up and joe raises the kids and provides security.

Gotta love biology.

[MiaSatt85]

Lol that last line is funny, its true though

[Anonymous]

to keep it short..prob not, she MAY one day down the line realized she screwerd up and missed out on something good when some guy treats her like crap, but not enough for her to commit herself to you again and make things work...just like most people kno, it rarley works out the second time around, old problems resurface and to her she prob would think its not worth it to come crawling back and will just move on to a new guy...either way from what I know ,once a girl makes up her mind its pretty much over..

[AmyHelen]

It sounds like you still like her. A lot.

You can't be 100% sure that you were the perfect gentleman to her, it seems unlikely given how much you've just criticised her. Furthermore, your idea of perfect probably wasn't hers. I'm not saying her cheating was justified, at all, but your view seems unrealistic. No one is perfect in a relationship. It's unlikely she will come back, people rarely do.

[j86692403]

This is more out of curiousity like I said. I don't want her back (period). As far the the "perfect" goes I meant that generally speaking. I did everything for her and she never showed signs of disliking me. Everything seemed "perfect" to an extent. She went through a change in her life like everything I mentioned which I didn't fit into. I'm just curious if she's gonna try to come back so I can give her the boot myself next time

[AmyHelen]

Like I said, probably not. No offence but if you want to reject her, you aren't over her either.

[bluerocks]

Yep sounds like you want to feel better knowing that she regrets it. But the fact is, she won't. Plenty of dudes will hit on her, and she'll have her pick of the litter.

Just forget her and find a girl who isn't as much a partyer.