Polls: Break Up & Divorce

My ex has diagnosed borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. That means that she feels the impulse to manipulate other people to get whatever she feels she is entitled to.

She will say that you are the most amazing person she ever met. Next she will harshly criticize and blame you for how poor thing she is, or how you talk to her.

The thing is that she won't stop constantly texting me all kind of stuff to convince me to get back. Stuff like "Alberto, when are we going to stop playing cat and mouse?"

And my reply is always the same: that I'm absolutely sure I won't be getting back, because of how bad she treated me and that she never changed that the slightness.

Even then she won't stop. Shall I just block her? I don't usually block people, but this sounds like the perfect candidate.

We’ve been married for over 8 years. I haven’t been the best husband all these years. I’ve gotten violent and verbally abuse at times. She’s been verbally abuse as well. You can say we’ve been toxic towards each other this whole time. She recently came to me saying she wasn’t in love anymore and wanted to separate. I couldn’t believe it, so I looked into our phone records. Found out she’s been seeing someone from work for the last 3 months. I forgave her because I still love her. She says she doesn’t want to work things out and wants to leave to her moms. I don’t want to give up on our marriage so I’ve changed my attitude and been doing nice things for her to win her back but she only get angry when I do. She also hasn’t apologized for her affair. Says she isn’t ready yet. So confused. We still live together and get a long. Sleeping in separate rooms. Asked her if she wants me to let her go. She said she’s confused is probably just used too me.

A good example would be Shakira Shakira getting dumped by her younger pro athlete husband for a woman half her age. Demi Moore dumped Ashton Kutcher for a younger hotter woman 20 years younger. Cameron Diaz dumped by Justin Timberlake for a younger woman. Courtney Cox dumped by younger David Arquette for a woman 20 years younger than her.

On and on it seems thar this how these relationships held up as the you go girl cougar romances ultimately end the same way.

I started “seeing” this girl a couple months ago and it took a while but we started to hang out and have lots of sex. Talked about things that are more serious such as our past and what we’d possibly like for our futures individually or together. But I always saw in her that she was not very serious in actually getting to know me or be with me. She just had fun with me and pushed away anything that was below the surface, mostly. Then after a while of having sex, and meeting at our places and having few dates to bars or restaurants - she voiced her loss of interest in different ways and it hurt me and made me feel less than and at fault for being too serious or not enough, etc. So then I tried for about a week or maybe a bit more here and there to talk to her and make changes and scale back so that we can still see each other and have sex without expectations (basically I was willing to settle and sell myself short of what I really wanted/needed to feel good with someone). She still pushed me back and said we should split ways. I let her go. She then added me back on snap me a week later and tested all kind of stuff relating to having sex and how she misses me and wants me inside her and cuddle her, even started saying that she’s in love with me and asking me if I am in love with her. Etc. then I called her and found out that she was drunk and a little high. She was out of town for family Christmas. She told me that few weeks from now she wants to see me when she comes back. The next day was Christmas Eve and I called to wish her merry Christmas and all that. No answer. So I went no contact. A month goes by but she was still on my snap. Watching my stories. But she would never post none or had me restricted from seeing it. Then she started posting pics and I saw one where she was back out of town with some guys. No idea who they are. I still didn’t contact and stopped watching her stories. Then she deleted me after posting few more pics and I didn’t watch her story.