Should you blame yourself for getting dumped over text?

[coachTanthony]

Yes because I ignored red flags

No it's not my fault

see poll ( I still get paid either way )

[GoodManDave]

It depends partly on who you were to the other person and who they are.

I'm not the type who deserves a TEXT breakup. I'm a grown up. I'm trying to have a grown up relationship. Texting is such a childish way to handle it. Gotta "woman up" and say "Hey it's not working" (or whatever). They should talk to me like I'm a grown up, and I'll do the same with them.

Now, if I knew she was really immature, and she was young - like 24, 25, I'd think "That's what you get for dating a 24/25 year old." Not that it wouldn't be my fault, but "That's what they do at that age." But by the time you're 30, you're supposed to have learned how to deal with some unpleasantness with grace and class (both sides). I would not break up with a woman over text (ok, except if I legitimately feared for my life for some reason), because I'd want to show respect.

[inhua]

there's no context here

what if she's cheating? do guys have to blame themselves for being cheated on?

[coachTanthony]

Just out of the blue you get dumped over text. Just isn't working out.

[FreyaRed]

Nope. The person who dumped you waited just for a pretext. If it wasn't a text, it was something else.

[TacosRAwesome]

I'm all for not having to get dressed to get dumped so I honestly don't get why it's offensive.

[Jamie05rhs]

I agree! Haha

[genericname85]

how is it my fault when another person does not have the maturity to break up with me while looking into my eyes?

[coachTanthony]

Maybe you ignored red flags about their communication skills.

[genericname85]

so what if i ignored red flags? does that somehow make them unable to tell me what it is straight up? what excuse is there, to cowardly hide behind text chat?

[genericname85]

like should i have known better? like the way you worded this seems you're putting their imaturity on me. like is my fault to expect human decency from someone? xD

[coachTanthony]

Yes not in all cases ( I have to say that now because that's usually the argument) Most people who are immature by breaking up over text are also immature in other ways of communication that most people just tend to deal with hoping it gets better.

[genericname85]

yeah but that also a bit like blaming the victim for their rape. sure they could have seen the signs and known better. but at the same time they're not guilty for being raped right? so these 2 things can exist besides each other. is there "some level of accountability" yeah probably. but at the end of the day it's them ending it via chat, not me.

[coachTanthony]

Ok cool thanks for the comments man.

[Shark_61695]

Should at least be WhatsApp they get a delivered and read receipt.

[LegendaryDater]

You don't really know someone until they pull that crap lol

[Justneedtokno]

I know me I can be annoying and clingy so I’m partially to blame but also there’s another party and how they were raised in understand what disrespectful is

[Anonymous]

yes the person getting dumped over text should blame themselves because they suck.

[strateguy632]

nope

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Not really.