I keep tinder on my phone to remind me that I don't have a chance with 99% of women!

[Anonymous]

So there I am swiping left and right, and then all of a sudden a picture of a girl comes up, but this is no ordinary girl. Something clicks, I feel like I've seen or known her before, she grabs my attention like nothing else ever in my life.

I click her picture to read her profile, and holy crap, we have the same taste in music, like the same food and even have the same sense of humor.

This is it, time for me to swipe right, where do I take her on the first date? How can I not be nervous? Our time together will be amazign and I can't wait!

Swipe right...and nothing happens...just like that she's gone. Hopes up, hopes down.

But I still keep tinder, to remind me in real life that when I see a girl like that in person I have no shot, so I save myself the disappointment and heartache.

Thanks tinder, you're such a bro!

[front2back]

My experiences with women and dating sites mirror your's, however I don't look at it the way you do. My interpretation is that I found a "perfect" girl but I did not fit her "perfect". While disappointing, this is not an end all.

For every "perfect" girl that rejects you, there are thousands of other girls that are just as "perfect", if not more "perfect" than her. So she might have rejected you, but there's thousands of other options out there.

And having only a 1% chance with women is actually quite a sweet deal. There's about 3.5 billion women on the planet, and 1% of that is 3.5 million. So you now have the option of millions of women that would like you. Oh, but you want someone in the US don't you? Well even still, that's 160 million women in the US and 1% of that is 1.6 million women. You still have millions of women to choose from that will like you. Just in my TOWN, me only having a 1% chance with women means I still have 135 potential partners that would like me.

Don't look at things in life with a scarcity mentality, look at them with an abundance mentality. There is plenty for everyone in the world, and there are plenty of girls that would like you. However, if you act like they don't exist, they won't since you can't see the abundance around you.

[Kalibie]

Omg you sound just like me, you are the only other person I've seen use percentages of population in this context!

I always said that i don't exactly believe in true love, but that there's a sweet spot in the population that could possibly end in happiness. Which is why people shouldn't be upset over missing one chance. No matter what you choose in life there going to be that one percent, you just need to be open to possibilities.

[BruceJender]

Omg a match made in GaG you guys should seriously consider meeting... Omg you sound sooooooo cute...

[galloway875]

Exactly. Even if "the one" is one in a million, there are like 4 million women in NYC alone, so there are four "the ones" in just that city. But I believe that the concept of "the one" came about when most people lived in villages and the biggest cities in the world were maybe a couple hundred thousand people, thereby leaving you with more perfect women, obviously. Of course you can change that to men, of you want. Applies either way.

[SilenRose]

Lol, what the heck. Get back up and move on. We've all been there. I used to talk to this guy who was totally my equal. We were even born on the same day! The only problem is that he was hung up on some other girl that didn't want him. But I moved on. Besides just because you have shared interest doesn't mean you'll be compatible.

[Bluemax]

Rejection is the norm.

Most requests for a date end with a "no."
Most first dates don't lead to second dates.
Most second dates don't lead to relationships.
Etc.

I'm worried you're taking rejection from Tinder as a reason to never try.

[myTake Owner]

Well yeah, tinder opened my eyes to the true rejection rate I'd face if I were to approach a girl I like in person. You're almost guaranteed rejection.

[RationalMale]

Pal... seriously.

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You want to meet girls? Tinder is for when you're at work, feeling lazy, and decide to waste some time.

You actually want a shot with an attractive girl? Grow some balls, go outside, and approach. Again, and again, as you figure out how to improve and become better at it.

And while you're at it, make sure you're a guy good looking enough to get that date. Be fit, dress well, learn to socialize.

[myTake Owner]

I've tried, oh well.

[RationalMale]

Getting women is like shooting handguns, winning videogames, getting jobs, or passing classes.

It takes work, focus, and you have to practice. Sometimes, you have to try and try and try until you get it right and learn how to do it.

[myTake Owner]

probably easier to just get used to loneliness

[RationalMale]

Failure and giving up is always easier.

Doing the work to succeed is always harder... and a hell of a lot more satisfying.

[myTake Owner]

its impossible, not harder. Trust me I've tried.

[BackInGame]

Tinder sexual market is even more saturated than every day sexual market; basically it's a place where 80% of woman compete for top 20% of attractive man and 80% of man is competing for 20% of least attractive woman. Basically you're in competition to get trash. Tinder is only useful for females to hook up with most attractive guy as possible and for attractive males, to have it more easy than in a night club.

this guy summed it up pretty much, but there is dozens of similar studies:
worst-online-dater. tumblr (dot) com/post/114619524524/tinder-experiments-ii-guys-unless-you-are

[TheEroticJester]

Tinder was good until everyone found out about it. Plus if you're not fit/too busy with life to sit around swiping tinder then fix that first then you can think about women.

The only guys who get to sit at home and masturbate while still getting women are ridiculously rich guys who inherited their money and drug dealers.

[bloodmountain1990]

Dude if you can't handle rejection then don't date. Happens to every guy out there and anyone who tells you differently is full of shit. Sometimes you gotta go through a lot of rejection to get some. It's like working in sales.

by the way rejection is nothing compared to being led on.

[bloodmountain1990]

That being said, I've met a few women off tinder and many off other dating sites and have yet to form something long term. I don't think dating sites are a good way to evaluate yourself and raise/lower your self esteem. From a guys perspective, there's so many women on there that get so many many messages from different men and they may not know what they want (which I've been guilty of) so you shouldn't be discouraged for shit that nearly everyone on those go through.

[DodgersGM]

You do realize that this happens to everyone, right?

[Anonymous]

Just because y'all have the same taste doesn't mean she'd want you bro. I don't necessarily want a girl that has the same taste in music, food, and "same sense of humor" I have. I don't know why you'd want that too. You can't pick out one person online and have all your hopes up that that one person will like you. It's a numbers game online. That's why real life is easier. People are less shallow and you know if the girl likes you or not. She'll show it.

[Anonymous]

I found an app similar to tinder and have been using it for like 3 weeks now and already have more than 60 girls /women "like" me. ( In a 100 kilometer radius )

I checked other guys' profiles and they usually have about 5 up to 20 likes at most.

Nonetheless, I often don't like them back. (For many reasons)
Women on such apps have unrealistically high standards, and go for that tiny minority of men on those apps... :/ Not cool

[Sauronbeauty1]

Really that many girls, I hope you don't mind sharing this secret app to me lol.

[Opinion Owner]

it's called LOVOO and is German only it seems

[Bards]

Don't feel sorry for you a.deviantart.net/avatars/l/l/llamatrade09.png?1

[DaddyRollingStone]

Tinder is shit, dating sites are shit. There is nothing real about them, and you will always be disappointed.

https://i.imgur.com/JDI5KWG.jpg

[RajeshTheJeshter]

Could you imagine if you spent hours online looking for ho's on Ok Cupid?

Fuck, what a waste. Next time you see a ho in short shorts at the coffee shop, say "hi".

[Riggers]

Tbh, Its likely she just rejected you because you weren't hot enough, And sadly looks are everything so yeah, I see nothing wrong with just giving up.

[BruceJender]

Dating sites/apps are a waste of time. I got one successful date from them and it wasn't going to happen so I cut it off.

You'll find that special someone.

[Anonymous]

You should rename your tinder profile name to "Sour Grapes w/ Bitter Beans"

[Anonymous]

Dating is no doubt easier for women, but i have seen some pretty ugly guys score some pretty decent women, so you have more change than you think, unless you are horribly disfigured or something.

[GreatnessPersonified]

That's sad, bro, but here is a little advise.

Everyone get's paid and laid.

As long as you are open minded and hearted, you'll get there.

[GreatnessPersonified]

Also, shit like Tinder doesn't work.
Meet women in RL.

[zagor]

Just like the economy, it works for the 1%.

[Bombga1]

Don't get up or move on you know why because the process is like a damn loop it will keep repeating itself.

[Anonymous]

So butt hurted go OUT and stop boosting that selfish girls EGO.

[KAZ-2Y5]

Well this is a awfully depressing

[myTake Owner]

and true

[Balcazaurus]

"Only if you believe it is."

---The Mad Hatter

[KAZ-2Y5]

Happiness can be found in the darkest of times, if one remembers to turn on the light. -Albus Dumbledore

[BruceJender]

"Why do we fall? So we can learn to pick ourselves up" Alfred, Dark Knight.

[jjmarvin]

You spend all day on the phone anyway, why not call em? -guy from the everest commercial

[YourFutureEx]

People are being so mean to you :(