In dating and general, some of the biggest hot topics people are worried about asking/being asked, especially early on, are how many partners you've slept with, are you a virgin/inexperienced, past/most recent relationships, etc.
People might fear some of these questions being asked as their answers could make or break how well things go with a person they like, just started seeing. They're afraid it might scare a person away which is understandable. Like a girl who has a high partner count might worry a guy will be turned off and deduce that she's easy while a guy who is a virgin/inexperienced might worry that a girl will think something's wrong with him and run away. Generally these questions never end well, if you've seen Clerks then you know exactly what I'm talking about.
Now you don't gotta lie when asked these questions, but at the same time you should never volunteer that info.
A month ago, I had a tinder date with this girl who acted as overly sexual as possible that it was a deal breaker and I didn't ask for any of the details she shared. I am not one to slut shame by any means but there's a fine line between being sexually active and acting like a sex object.
This girl showed up to the date all high and drunk. When I was trying to talk and get to know her, she was cutting me off, blabbering and started showing me nudes in her phone that she took over the years. She even asked if i thought her friend was cute, it was weird. It got much worse after that. She also asked about my number of partners and once i gave my answer she's like wooooowwww that's so little, I would have expected more than that. Mine's way way higher, wanna hear it? I'm like no, thanks.
Then she talked about how she had sex with her ex 2 days before we saw each other, how her and her ex were sex addicts, how long he lasted in bed. I was just thinking Jesus Christ, why the fuck are you telling me this shit, especially when I didn't ask? She even asked me to smack her ass at the bar, if how i like girls to go down on me, if id finger her while eating her out. Then she says oh that bartenders name is Eric, I've fucked two Erics before. And then ironically, she got worried and was like you're clean right? It's like never mind me, are you clean? She then sent a snapchat with her ass out, saying sun out, ass out. Then another of her topless saying tanning my tits.
Again, I'm not slut shaming people but that was just way too much information, especially for a first date. I don't think it's OK for guys to do that either.
Overall, regardless of your experiences, whether you've slept around, are a virgin, or only have a few partners, etc you shouldn't volunteer that info. You should impress someone with who you are, not your sex life, history, or lack of. Only time it matters to me is if a girl has an STD or cheats.
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