How long does grieving usually last for you and what's a normal time for it to stop or at least lessen?

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sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Sis, we couldn't possibly put grieving in a box like a timeline.

There's no set time. Some people think that other people who are grieving for the loss of their loved one might say to the grieving person "It's been long enough" but I think that it's cruel to say that to anyone who has lost someone.

I don't think that one day we wake up and say to ourselves "Man, I'm glad that I am finished grieving."

Since each of us is different, we are all going to grieve for as long as it takes. Period.

People shouldn't go around telling anyone that it's time you stop grieving.

I was just just reading about a famous woman who's husband died 18 months ago and she died a few days ago. When the family was asked the reason for her passing, they all said she was grieving so much for her husband and she died of sadness.

jazzy34 · Accepted Answer

Grief has no time limit. Don’t compare yourself to someone else and their situation. I’m also not going to tell you cliche things such as “it’ll get better with time.” If it gets overwhelming, however, it may be time to seek professional help to help walk you through it.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

I’m here on GAG to help you decode feelings, love, loss, all the messy human stuff we stumble through together.

Grief has no timer, no deadline, no “normal.” For some it softens after a few months, for others it takes years. It usually shifts from constant pain to waves that hit less often. It doesn’t fully vanish, it just becomes lighter and more manageable. Be gentle with yourself, that’s the only real rule.

ohsheeT · Answer

For me it depends on what it's about

But no matter what the first thing I do is acknowledge it and then I accept it and there's nothing I can do about it or otherwise I would

I've never let it go It's always in the back of my mind but I know that I have to keep going forward And if I can change something I will

But the hurt and the pain will only last as long as you want it to once you accept it and acknowledge it it makes it easier to move on

And I am a true believer that everything happens for a reason And Basically for the best There will be something good that comes out of it No matter if it's a death Something good always comes from something negative

Finchie40 · Answer

There isn’t really a set time limit , everyone grieves in their own ways , especially about someone they truly loved and cared about. So far my Mom is the longest I have ever grieved about someone , losing my Mom hit me very hard , and I don’t think I will ever stop grieving over her , in time it has mellowed down some, but I will never forget about her whatsoever, and it still hits me hard from time to time. So don’t let anyone tell you how long you can grieve over someone that you loved and cared about and were close to , it’s not their life, it’s your life. I did witness some people grieving in very odd ways , which I just ignored and didn’t say anything to offend them , even though it raised some questions of concern , but I kept it to myself.

Likes2drive · Answer

I think it depends on how close you were to the person or animal that you’re grieving over but sometimes it can take months or can take years. It really depends on how you cope with things. my mom has been gone for 21 years and it still bothers me that she died so early because I’m already older than she was when we lost her to cancer

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Depends on you and how you view death and who or what you lost. Are you grieving a death or grieving a lost relationship? It took me 25 years to let go of my younger brothers death.. It took me 11 months to grieve my ex husband.. barely any time for my friends who ODed.. Also no death since my brother has effected me really at all.. and now that I been through heartbreak I doubt any relationship will ever effect me either.

bobalife · Answer

Everyone has their own process when it comes to grieving… there’s no exact time because we don’t ever truly stop and grief always changes for each individuals… but we can learn to manage grief with the different stages, adjusting to our lives without someone (with assumption of losing someone here?), and learning to accept it’s okay to miss them even if they’re not here anymore. You may also seek support from loved ones and a professional on navigating your grieving process.

BCRanger10 · Answer

I can't remember the last time that I grieved more than a few days. But then again, I'm also a man (generally not as emotional) and I've also not experienced the death of a close family member. My grandparents have all been dead for years now and I only saw them two or three times a year.

NathanDavis · Answer

it doesn't end... you just get used to it

I would not focus on "when will it go away"

it shouldn't go away, and it won't either... I think it is just best to cherish the good and great memories, so... you move from the loss, to longing and then that... live with their memories, the ones that bring you a smile, because that's what they really were in your life, and they are still... part of your life too

serious · Answer

Do you mean in terms of relationship after break up or if the person has passed away or do you mean in general for any situation?

Still-alive · Answer

it took me awhile for my grandfather. just realizing they're really truly gone takes awhile to get used to if you were close to them. like you turn your head and normally they are there but they aren't. stuff like that can really get you.

im imagining it will take awhile when my folks inevitably pass themselves.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

It has varied a lot over time, oscillating between a few days and an entire year. But I don't think time tells the true story about the matter, how much it cripples daily life sounds like a more accurate descriptor than time itself...

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Depends on the person miss sims! For example my father passed away from 12 years ago and i still grief him from time to time, he will always be present in my mind until we meet again!

thegreenyogi · Answer

Grief never ends. It just get easier with time. And it slowly transforms from pain to nostalgia to the knowledge that the person or thing you have lost has never departed deep in your soul. It's always there.

FreyaRed · Answer

Depends on person and how they go. When you're prepared for someone's death it's less shocking.

molonski2 · Answer

Grieving for death I presume?  It never stops.. For just a break up? Get synical and get ready there will be many..

Nikki1989 · Answer

Not long, but the memory never fades.

Abbycado · Answer

Guess it depends on what you’re grieving about.

Shiprex · Answer

You are never free from grief if it is someone or something (pet) you had a close relationship with.

eagle1951 · Answer

my wife passed in 2018. qnd iit's still with me , not sure there is a time limit it up to each person

Iron_Man · Answer

if it’s about death it can last for years and it never ends a piece of you goes with it. It’s a nightmare the ultimate disaster

KennethNoisewater · Answer

I feel it probably depends on what you are grieving about.

exitseven · Answer

It is dependent on what I am grieving. Some things I am still grieving since I was a kid.

dudeinohio · Answer

It all depends on the specific situation for me. There is no one size fits all. Everyone is different and every situation is unique to that person.

Massageman · Answer

it never stops - the time frame differs for each individual.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm autistic, it's generally fine before they die then you have to man up and be strong for everyone else

Agape93 · Answer

Usually a few minutes

FunkyMonkee · Answer

It depends on how attached I was to the person.

_Jenny_ · Answer

A few years @simslover92

AngryCarl3 · Answer

About five or six years.

Anonymous · Answer

When my father died about 4 hours.

Anonymous · Answer

Each person varies

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