There's a risk of putting too much pictures online. THe nigerian hustlers will steal them all and use it to pretend it's you instead. No fair play there.
I don;t think online dating is a woman's world, especially for older people. Every woman who has a profile online wants a relationship with a guy but most of them are scared of online dating so one of the things they do is to raise their criteria so they think they will "weed out" the obvious pervs and players.
I went on POF in May and had first dates with six different women by the middle of July. If a guy uses his head and does the right things, he can easily get dates online. Many guys post profile pictures of themselves hunting (many women hate hunting,) or with some other woman (it might be their sister but the caption never explains that,) they post extremely short profiles. they are too forward about sex, and they have misspellings and grammatical errors in their profile. Those guys can cuss and fuss and say that such things shouldn't matter, but. . . I don't do those things and I got good results all three times I used online dating.
Well a friend of mine... he is 67 is having a hard time online. But I think he has to high of standards. Basically he wants a playboy bunny who can be in her 60s but can't look like it. Dark hair... olive complication. Very petite but big boobs. She can't want sex and she doesn't talk a lot. also she has to want to cook for him. Do you think he is unrealistic? lol
Well, I have met quite a few women in their late 50's and 60's who don't want sex, and most of them were good cooks, but the rest of that stuff is crazy. If he doesn't want sex, why does he care about the size of her boobs?
I guess he wants to take her out and show her off. The funny thing is this... for over 35 years he was married to a pretty attractive woman. But she could have cared less about him. At the age of 62 she cheated on him. Took money out of his retirement and bought another man a car. She was a hoe... pretty pathetic at that age.
And that is also true of people who meet potential romantic interests through friends, school, in bars, etc. If online dating is a waste of time because it does not guarantee results, then all dating is a waste of time.
At your age, you have many more opportunities to meet potential partners in person. That will change as you get older. If you are young and you don't need to use online dating, don't use it.
Thanks for the update. I'll notify my current girlfriend that we need to break up! And all the couples that have actually gotten married can line up at the courthouse to wait for their turn to get divorced.
"5% of Americans who are in a marriage or committed relationship say they met their significant other online." www.pewresearch.org/.../
A study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences found that 35% of couples married between 2005 and 2012 met online and that these couples were slightly more likely to stay together and "associated with slightly higher marital satisfaction among those respondents who remained married," according to the report. www.forbes.com/.../#2d5d102595ef
Once you have your first meeting, it's just like dating someone who you met through a friend. You get to sort through many contenders and sort out the obvious non-contenders. Dating is a numbers game; date enough people and you will find one that you like. Where else can you meet 5 or 10 new people in one day, every day?
Can I ask you something asker? How do you find time to devote to your law career and also be active here on GAG? I'm really impressed with your overall knowledge!
I stay very busy. Monday nights, I am an advisor to the local chapter of my undergraduate social fraternity. Tuesday nights are not committed. Wednesday nights are my church choir practice. Thursday nights I volunteer in Teen Court. Friday and Saturday nights are reserved for my girlfriend. I also serve on my church council and I am a trustee of our charitable foundation. I occasionally volunteer time with Legal Aid and I live with and take care of my 86 year old mother and 87 year old stepfather.
The more I do, the broader my perspective becomes! AND I love working with teens and young adults!
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"Delete your account and go talk to someone" 's.
There's a risk of putting too much pictures online. THe nigerian hustlers will steal them all and use it to pretend it's you instead. No fair play there.
They will steal pictures from FB and other social media if you don't have them protected.
Great take. It seems as though this is a woman's world when it comes to dating online. Why do you think that is?
I don;t think online dating is a woman's world, especially for older people. Every woman who has a profile online wants a relationship with a guy but most of them are scared of online dating so one of the things they do is to raise their criteria so they think they will "weed out" the obvious pervs and players.
I went on POF in May and had first dates with six different women by the middle of July. If a guy uses his head and does the right things, he can easily get dates online. Many guys post profile pictures of themselves hunting (many women hate hunting,) or with some other woman (it might be their sister but the caption never explains that,) they post extremely short profiles. they are too forward about sex, and they have misspellings and grammatical errors in their profile. Those guys can cuss and fuss and say that such things shouldn't matter, but. . . I don't do those things and I got good results all three times I used online dating.
Well a friend of mine... he is 67 is having a hard time online. But I think he has to high of standards. Basically he wants a playboy bunny who can be in her 60s but can't look like it. Dark hair... olive complication. Very petite but big boobs. She can't want sex and she doesn't talk a lot. also she has to want to cook for him. Do you think he is unrealistic? lol
Well, I have met quite a few women in their late 50's and 60's who don't want sex, and most of them were good cooks, but the rest of that stuff is crazy. If he doesn't want sex, why does he care about the size of her boobs?
I guess he wants to take her out and show her off. The funny thing is this... for over 35 years he was married to a pretty attractive woman. But she could have cared less about him. At the age of 62 she cheated on him. Took money out of his retirement and bought another man a car. She was a hoe... pretty pathetic at that age.
Pathetic also that he stayed with her for 35 years when she didn't love him.
I see online dating as a last resort. For the most part, it's a waste of time.
That may be your experience at your age, but there are many, many people who have met their future spouse through online dating sites.
Yeah, but there are also a lot who haven't.
And that is also true of people who meet potential romantic interests through friends, school, in bars, etc. If online dating is a waste of time because it does not guarantee results, then all dating is a waste of time.
Fair enough point. I still stand with it being a last resort though.
At your age, you have many more opportunities to meet potential partners in person. That will change as you get older. If you are young and you don't need to use online dating, don't use it.
Good take! I need to try some of these things. I'm really burned out on online dating right now.
Dating site algorithms are meaningless and don't work.
TL;DR: Dating sites don't work.
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Thanks for the update. I'll notify my current girlfriend that we need to break up! And all the couples that have actually gotten married can line up at the courthouse to wait for their turn to get divorced.
Your situation is not the rest of our experiences.
I am not alone in my experiences.
"5% of Americans who are in a marriage or committed relationship say they met their significant other online." www.pewresearch.org/.../
A study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences found that 35% of couples married between 2005 and 2012 met online and that these couples were slightly more likely to stay together and "associated with slightly higher marital satisfaction among those respondents who remained married," according to the report. www.forbes.com/.../#2d5d102595ef
Like talking to a brick wall...
You are the one not listening to facts. These are not statistics that I fabricated.
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These tips don't apply to frog dating websites. Just saying.
Right!
you just gotta be Hot supposedly
Do you really think that on;y hot people get dates from online sites? Have you ever tried it?
hmmm... I've been asked out from anime sites. just as friends though. but yeah... ignore me. I don't know what I'm talking about.
If somebody told you that you need to be HOT to get a date online, they lied!
well I've never tried to or even considered. but I think real romance could come out of it.
Once you have your first meeting, it's just like dating someone who you met through a friend. You get to sort through many contenders and sort out the obvious non-contenders. Dating is a numbers game; date enough people and you will find one that you like. Where else can you meet 5 or 10 new people in one day, every day?
Can I ask you something asker? How do you find time to devote to your law career and also be active here on GAG? I'm really impressed with your overall knowledge!
I stay very busy. Monday nights, I am an advisor to the local chapter of my undergraduate social fraternity. Tuesday nights are not committed. Wednesday nights are my church choir practice. Thursday nights I volunteer in Teen Court. Friday and Saturday nights are reserved for my girlfriend. I also serve on my church council and I am a trustee of our charitable foundation. I occasionally volunteer time with Legal Aid and I live with and take care of my 86 year old mother and 87 year old stepfather.
The more I do, the broader my perspective becomes! AND I love working with teens and young adults!
Great take, thanks for sharing
come on man 62 and this research? you should be getting prepared for after life!!
That is a very unkind comment to make to someone who is trying to offer helpful advice.
21 tips?
Why not just follow rules 1 and 2?
Very well researched and thought out
Great take, from someone not looking.
Changed my perception
Thank you for sharing
Thanks for sharing the tips
Thanks for sharing!
Here for the points
I always respect an honest man!
Same
Interesting thanks